Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have no intamcy and a deadbeat husband? I'd be gone like the wind. Yeah, it might mean an initial setback, but Id have to believe my my life would ultimately turn out more prosperous and emotionally fulfilling. You get one shot at this life so how many years are you going to lose to this situation?

He's now doing all the housework, grocery shopping, errands, and kid's doctor and dentist appointments, etc. I basically go to work and come home. So I wouldn't really call him deadbeat now (until the past year, yes, deadbeat). He's trying, but it's not making me fall back in love.

He's now doing all the housework, shopping, errands, kids appointments etc and you go to work and come home. This sounds like a description of a SAHM and you're a working Dad. But you're a woman and you resent him. Interesting! Understandably the decline in income and having to sell your house has been a set back. But, he is doing what the stay at home person should be doing and your doing what the working person should be doing.

I would try counseling. Perhaps having a third party will help you two to talk out your issues. If DH is providing childcare, involved with D.C.'S school, getting groceries, helping around the house, etc. he is doing a job (although I'm sure you would appreciate it more if it was a joint decision and not one he fell into). Does DH have hobbies? Is he trying to better himself? Perhaps he feels a bit lost or has some mild depression? I know I would be upset if DH was out of work for years and didn't make an attempt to find anything else. Maybe if you spoke with a therapist your DH would better understand your point of view (or care about it more) and get a much needed kick in the butt to get motivated. Also, have you discussed divorce with him? Have you discussed why you don't feel intimate towards him any longer? If he seems ambivalent to this conversation, I would say you deserve to find someone who cares more about you.