What does "typical" Jewish woman mean? Big nose? Close set eyes? Dark hair? It's a very offensive, antisemitic comment.

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

They are not atypical. My ex also told me how important it was for their family to always give their business to other Jews. They would only go to Jewish doctors, dentists, colleges with high % of Jews, etc. As a Catholic I was shocked. I would never have picked a dentist because they were Catholic.

Blacks do that all the time, as do other groups.

It's simple human nature, I don't see it as bad frankly.

I promise you it would be highly problematic if a woman said, "He doesn't date dark skinned women, but you're light enough that he may go for you", which is our version of this Jewish scenario. Same if she went the other way and said, "He only dates white women or light skinned women or Latinas" or whatever. The implication is that you're less-than but will do. And that's mighty inappropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Your friend is inappropriate. I'm not sure what her goal was by telling your other friend that her male friend is not attracted to "typical looking Jewish women." I sure wouldn't want to date a jerk like him. Wouldn't that be a turnoff? Why would she even bring him up in the first place? She is making him out to be a complete and utter ass.

So many Jewish guys are like this. My ex was Jewish and he dated me because he liked how I looked. He would tell me that his parents wanted him to marry someone Jewish but he did not think they were pretty enough for him. He would make me feel like shit because I was not Jewish and the Jewish girls he met feel like shit because he didn't think they were attractive enough for him. Looking back it makes me sick I spent time with this jerk.

What a jerk. I am married to a Jewish guy who is absolutely wonderful. So there are lots of Jewish men who are truly great. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. It sounds like your ex was not brought up well.

Did he make you convert and raise your kids Jewish?

No. He didn't. No one can make anyone convert or make anyone raise their kids a certain religion. It sounds like you were incompatible from the get go. Why would you marry someone who wanted you to convert and raise your children in a religion other than yours when this is clearly something you didn't want? That would be a deal breaker for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Your friend is inappropriate. I'm not sure what her goal was by telling your other friend that her male friend is not attracted to "typical looking Jewish women." I sure wouldn't want to date a jerk like him. Wouldn't that be a turnoff? Why would she even bring him up in the first place? She is making him out to be a complete and utter ass.

So many Jewish guys are like this. My ex was Jewish and he dated me because he liked how I looked. He would tell me that his parents wanted him to marry someone Jewish but he did not think they were pretty enough for him. He would make me feel like shit because I was not Jewish and the Jewish girls he met feel like shit because he didn't think they were attractive enough for him. Looking back it makes me sick I spent time with this jerk.

What a jerk. I am married to a Jewish guy who is absolutely wonderful. So there are lots of Jewish men who are truly great. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. It sounds like your ex was not brought up well.

Did he make you convert and raise your kids Jewish?

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Anonymous wrote:Your friend is inappropriate. I'm not sure what her goal was by telling your other friend that her male friend is not attracted to "typical looking Jewish women." I sure wouldn't want to date a jerk like him. Wouldn't that be a turnoff? Why would she even bring him up in the first place? She is making him out to be a complete and utter ass.

So many Jewish guys are like this. My ex was Jewish and he dated me because he liked how I looked. He would tell me that his parents wanted him to marry someone Jewish but he did not think they were pretty enough for him. He would make me feel like shit because I was not Jewish and the Jewish girls he met feel like shit because he didn't think they were attractive enough for him. Looking back it makes me sick I spent time with this jerk.

What a jerk. I am married to a Jewish guy who is absolutely wonderful. So there are lots of Jewish men who are truly great. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. It sounds like your ex was not brought up well.

Anonymous wrote:Your friend is inappropriate. I'm not sure what her goal was by telling your other friend that her male friend is not attracted to "typical looking Jewish women." I sure wouldn't want to date a jerk like him. Wouldn't that be a turnoff? Why would she even bring him up in the first place? She is making him out to be a complete and utter ass.

So many Jewish guys are like this. My ex was Jewish and he dated me because he liked how I looked. He would tell me that his parents wanted him to marry someone Jewish but he did not think they were pretty enough for him. He would make me feel like shit because I was not Jewish and the Jewish girls he met feel like shit because he didn't think they were attractive enough for him. Looking back it makes me sick I spent time with this jerk.

Your friend is inappropriate. I'm not sure what her goal was by telling your other friend that her male friend is not attracted to "typical looking Jewish women." I sure wouldn't want to date a jerk like him. Wouldn't that be a turnoff? Why would she even bring him up in the first place? She is making him out to be a complete and utter ass.

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

They are not atypical. My ex also told me how important it was for their family to always give their business to other Jews. They would only go to Jewish doctors, dentists, colleges with high % of Jews, etc. As a Catholic I was shocked. I would never have picked a dentist because they were Catholic.

Blacks do that all the time, as do other groups.

It's simple human nature, I don't see it as bad frankly.

Anonymous wrote:What if the comment was about an Irish catholic divorcee. Suppose the comment was, "I have an Irish catholic colleague that is widowed and he's looking to date but typically hates the Irish look. But you're not a readhead or fair sckinned, so I think he might like you."

+1.

I have little patience for people who get too easily offended.

Widower, not widow, unless it's a lesbian match.

I would take it in the spirit it's meant, even though the person who spoke is rather ignorant if she imagines there is a "type" of Jew.

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

They are not atypical. My ex also told me how important it was for their family to always give their business to other Jews. They would only go to Jewish doctors, dentists, colleges with high % of Jews, etc. As a Catholic I was shocked. I would never have picked a dentist because they were Catholic.

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

No. You marry outside the tribe, but you've long since lost the faith.

NP. I'm a Jewish woman who still has "the faith" (I'm assimilated but fairly observant in the Reform tradition) who married a non-Jew. He's very respectful and participates in our traditions, even though he didn't become Jewish and has no intention to. We're raising our son Jewish.

Fwiw, my parents never stressed the importance of marrying a Jew. It's all good.

Women can be such good friends, can't they.

Did the person who said this have too much to drink?

I think many people including myself who has a number of Jewish friends all agree there is indeed a "Jewish look" a certain face shape, nose, hair, etc...are all Jewish women created this way? Of course not.
To me a typical Jewish woman would be a
Barbara Streisand or the girl Abby from the Divorce show on Bravo

A typical man
Steven Spielberg, David Brenner and of course Woody Allen

So this man who said he doesn't like a typical Jewish look I am guessing just doesn't' care for the look of any of the above.

Not a big deal, sounds like he was referring more to what he likes in terms of looks and was using it merely as a reference