Anonymous wrote:Also, you're like my sister who has no kids, doesn't host anyone, doesn't visit anyone, and then will claim she was "too busy" or "didn't have time" to shop. I don't even care if she gets my kids anything but seriously don't act like you had less time than your sister who has a 2 yo did. You just didn't want to wrap which is fine. Quit making it sound like you're some victim here.

Wow, really? Just because you have kids and OP doesn't doesn't mean that he/she has more time than you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, you're like my sister who has no kids, doesn't host anyone, doesn't visit anyone, and then will claim she was "too busy" or "didn't have time" to shop. I don't even care if she gets my kids anything but seriously don't act like you had less time than your sister who has a 2 yo did. You just didn't want to wrap which is fine. Quit making it sound like you're some victim here.

It's not that hard to have a two year old.

Said no parent ever.

Right?! Mom of a 2y/o here whose head is just spinning with all the shit I have to do this year. Add baking cookies and figuring out tips for daycare teachers to shopping for gifts for a gazillion relatives, trying to wrap said gifts with toddler/pet level chaos all around me, traveling with toddler/pets, etc. etc. etc. Somehow it was easier last year. Not easy, but easier.

Anonymous wrote:OP, DCUM is unanimous that you are crazy...

This.

I think her comment was totally normal and didn't mean anything negative at all. I think you are too sensitive. She just wants you to know the kid hasn't seen it yet. I send all my presents directly to relatives in CA addressed to "ChristmasFirst Name LastName". They slap a bow on the Amazon box. Why would I pay extra for wrapping or pay shipping, wrap something and then pay to shop it again?

Most of the gifts I give aren't acknowledged. I'd be happy someone let me know it arrived.

Too sensitive

Wow waaaay sensitive. I'd have said the same thing as her and I have NO problem wrapping the gifts that come shipped from family. It's part of the fun!

My SIL said this to me once. I felt bad so now I only order from amazon and select a gift bag. I am not going to ship things here, wrap them, then ship them out to her, so this is a compromise.

definitely too sensitive.

Anonymous wrote:OMG.

That may be the least passive-aggressive thing I've ever read. You are REALLY REALLY REALLY way too sensitive. Your poor sister.

+1
OP if you read negative intent into a simple message like this, I don't know how you make it through a day.

OP, DCUM is unanimous that you are crazy...

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Anonymous wrote:I think she said that just so you would know that the kid didn't get the present immediately.

This is what I thought too. It will go under the tree on Christmas morning, she's just letting you know.

Or do you guys have fraught, passive-aggressive in general?
If not, I really wouldn't think twice.

^^ meant fraught, passive-aggressive communication.

Anonymous wrote:I think she said that just so you would know that the kid didn't get the present immediately.

This is what I thought too. It will go under the tree on Christmas morning, she's just letting you know.

Or do you guys have fraught, passive-aggressive in general?
If not, I really wouldn't think twice.

In the future, Amazon gift wrapping.

Way too sensitive! I feel sorry for your family if this is how you act normally.