Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 08:20     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
I see no issue with it. If your parents/in laws want to do it for you then you should do it. Don't let these internet sanctimommys tell you how to live your life.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 08:11     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .


Not OP but some g/ps don't mind. They would actually insist on keeping the baby(my friend's mom will)


OP here. Grandparents are in good health, retired and want nothing more than to spend time with grandchildren. We also help support both sides of grandparents financially.


The bolded does not mean it's appropriate to throw a needy 2-3 month old at them. I'm beginning to think OP is a troll. She can't be this clueless. None of her posts are helping her position. Probably the same OP who was canceling Christmas for her kids and leaving them with a Jewish babysitter while she and DH went away.


Not a troll. Just a miserable 9m pregnant mom. We should be on some tropical island now but zika is everywhere tropical so we are stuck home. Today was first day of winter break and it was a looooong day. I'm finding joy in researching vacations but baby brings back bad memories of when we previously travelled with a 3m old. So much gear. So much hassle. No fun.


Uh, part of the deal with kids is that you give up YOUR own fun, at least for a awhile. Stop being a princess. You chose this.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 08:05     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
I'm not a pearl clutcher on this stuff but 2 months is too young. Think the youngest I did this was 6 months and that was hard.

Why did you have a 3rd kid if you're already chafing at the lack of freedom.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:48     Subject: Re:What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Anonymous wrote:Maybe I am missing something, but how can OP be 9 months pregnant if she has a 2-3 month old baby? Isn't the most months pregnant she could be 2-3 months (assuming she got pregnant right after giving birth)?


She's about to give birth. In several months, it will be time for spring break. And her soon-to-be-born baby will be 2-3 months old. She's trying to get the okay to travel then.

My 2 cents: do whatever you're going to do. Coming here to DCUM for a blessing is not the way to go. You'll get the blessings AND you'll get the "No way!How could you?" Do what is best for your family.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:45     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming that if you have enough money to support both sets of grandparents "generously," then you are also mature and educated enough to know where babies come from and how to prevent them.

You are depressed, and sick. I get that. Please see your OB or midwife about it. But what you are suggesting is a genuinely bad idea. A baby that young is too small and too needy to be left alone with grandparents. Wait a few months and THEN leave your six month or nine month old with grandparents.

We are not saying never leave your infant. We're saying that what you are proposing is unfair to your child, to the grandparents, and something you'll likely regret once you get on a low dose of Prozac.


+1
signed,

a therapist and a mom of three
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:40     Subject: Re:What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
I think it is wrong and bad for your baby.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:32     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine any grandmother is equipped or willing to care for a 2-3 month old overnight...let alone for five nights!

The baby won't be STTN.

It's too much to ask of a grandmother IMHO.


I agree with this. OP, do go away, but wait a few more months until the baby is STTN.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:29     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
I can't imagine any grandmother is equipped or willing to care for a 2-3 month old overnight...let alone for five nights!

The baby won't be STTN.

It's too much to ask of a grandmother IMHO.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:29     Subject: Re:What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
I couldnt leave my kid for more than an overnight but thats just me. We left her with Grandparents once she was STTN at 6 mos. She stays with them about once a year now for us to go away for one night which is enough for me. She does sleep there on different nights as well but its usually because of work.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:29     Subject: Re:What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Maybe I am missing something, but how can OP be 9 months pregnant if she has a 2-3 month old baby? Isn't the most months pregnant she could be 2-3 months (assuming she got pregnant right after giving birth)?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:28     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Anonymous wrote:Bring a nanny. This is a problem easily solved by money. Our baby nurse happily travelled with us.


Agree- or bring grandparents along. I really think 2-3 is too young to be left for several days, but like others who have posted, DH and I traveled when our LOs were older than 6 months.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:27     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Not at all.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:24     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Bring a nanny. This is a problem easily solved by money. Our baby nurse happily travelled with us.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:18     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .


I know I am being selfish and I want to be selfish for once. I have given up so much for these kids. Pregnancy has been awful. I already feel like I need a break from this unborn child.


Why did you get preg again??
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2016 07:11     Subject: What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?
Next year, not this year.

Find another way to be selfish in the mean time.