Anonymous wrote:Is this White people problem? You all seem to hate your parents.

Not so much hate here, but venting. i don't know what you are, but in your culture is it common for parents to blame their children for things outside their control? And to focus on those things above all your actual characteristics that you do control?

Anonymous wrote:Is this White people problem? You all seem to hate your parents.

A lot of white parents give you crap your whole life for things you did as a baby / toddler. I know mine did. It defies all reason, and if you try to share feelings they will usually make fun of you. I think it comes from the expectation life will be "perfect," and then the babies / kids don't live up to the fantasy.

So when your parents hate you for being a colicky baby for 30+ years, it's not like they are a bundle of joy to deal with. Just don't answer their calls OP. You can get more sleep that way. Send them videos of the baby screaming its head off, they will probably enjoy that.

Just ask your parents if they really think it's funny their grandchild is suffering from colic and is inconsolable. Tell them you are not taking it personal since the baby is not crying to make you miserable but crying because he/she is miserable. Your parents are jerks.

Is this White people problem? You all seem to hate your parents.

Just make bloody sure you don't do this to your child when she complains about her colicky baby!!!

Anonymous wrote:OP, a colicky baby is not a misfortune. Get a grip. Hire a sitter and get some sleep if you need to.

Yes, it is. I had an easy baby after my colicky baby and realized that mothering a newborn could be enjoyable.

I would limit their calls and limit the information you give them.
My parents would probably do the same thing if I had a colicky baby. I've heard my whole life about it but they never say anything complimentary about me as a baby or my childhood. It's annoying.

My mom has a habit of being a martyr/ being over dramatic. I can remember on multiple ocassions after venting to her about being tired, stressed, or excusing the fact that the house was a mess she'd say "well I did it with you and your brother (we are 18 months apart) and you were sick for the first year and needed constant caring for (had severe GERD, had to be fed every 2 hours, slept uprights, and subsequently developed sever torticollis which required lots of at home therapy)"

I finally just said to her how much it bothered me and would she wanted to have someone tell her that they had it worse therefore she shouldn't complain? It got the message across and she stopped.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop taking their calls.
Or lie and say you slept for 10 hours and it must be due to parenting. (Ha!)
But really, the first one.

Agree with this. They aren't being funny, they're being jerks.

+1

Gee, I was a colicky baby and I had a colicky baby. My mom - who isn't the warmest person on the planet - was nothing but sympathetic. Sorry your parents suck. I would stop taking their calls for now or have your spouse take them.

My MIL does this to my SIL. She has complained about her being a colicky baby for decades now. MIL is a mean, uncaring person to all of us, but she really harps on the colicky baby thing 45 years after the fact.

PP who mentioned the nursing home - karma's a bitch. I'd make that point pretty clearly even if I had to email it because being on the phone with a baby is so distracting.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, a colicky baby is not a misfortune. Get a grip. Hire a sitter and get some sleep if you need to.

Have you had a colicky baby?? It can be pretty harrowing.

Yes, the sleep deprivation can be brutal. I also was in complete heart failure. OP this does pass, hang in there.

Anonymous wrote:"I'm too tired for your jokes. You may call me again when you are ready to be supportive."

This (plus a "click" at the end of the second sentence.)

np: I can relate. During visits, my mom cleans next to my cleaning lady and says "You know how hard I work when I'm here". Because she's gotta be the martyr, even though she's retired and I'm a WOHM with 3 dcs, one with medical problems and SN.

My mom got really weird about stuff like that. In her case, she couldn't stand that we were getting attention for a new baby and felt like everyone should have still been fawning over her for having a baby...30 years ago. It was weird and unpleasant and she repeats the behavior for each phase of childhood. Maybe your parents have a bit of strange envy going on? Also, my friends' most colicky babies all grew up into calm, brilliant little kids. Not saying it's related, but I'm not saying it's not.