I spent WAAAAAY too much time today reading that wolf thread!

WTF. OMG. CRAZY shit.

Anonymous wrote:We have an open relationship. Right this second I'm drinking wine on the couch wayyy too late (I'll be exhausted
Tomorrow) and it sounds like he's clipping his nails in the bathroom. Meaning, we are a regular couple of married people.

I had along term female lover (I'm the DW) and he has had shorter term flings. He's
Currently looking for someone. He made a great friend in the process (she is not interested in being the OW) but it's been a while since he's had anything sexual with someone else.

We've had a few threesomes.

We have boundaries of course. The main one being WE are the primary relationship.

It's been working for us for a decade

Sounds more like a marriage that burned out 10 years ago than any excitement. Quit kidding yourselves- - what you have done is not "better", it's just a sad compromised accomodation.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave him one. I'm not cheating, I flirt but I don't cheat.

Why did you give him one?

Because I think monogamy in unrealistic. I know his personality. Funny enough since I've given it to him he hasn't taken me up on it.

Of course not, because as soon as he does, inside his head he hears you saying "What's good for the goose is good for the gander." That's why, because you have unwittingly destabilized your marriage.

We have an open relationship. Right this second I'm drinking wine on the couch wayyy too late (I'll be exhausted
Tomorrow) and it sounds like he's clipping his nails in the bathroom. Meaning, we are a regular couple of married people.

I had along term female lover (I'm the DW) and he has had shorter term flings. He's
Currently looking for someone. He made a great friend in the process (she is not interested in being the OW) but it's been a while since he's had anything sexual with someone else.

We've had a few threesomes.

We have boundaries of course. The main one being WE are the primary relationship.

It's been working for us for a decade

In the age of social media? Hell to the no.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

remember the 100+ pages of the "Wolf" (maybe a couple of years ago). be careful what you wish/ask for.

Larla, I'm going to need the link for that! Thanks, doll!

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/357557.page

I was given one and acted on it last weekend. TBH, I didn't really enjoy it and won't be looking for another one. Don't get me wrong, she was 15 years younger (in college) and was my type - but she's not my DW.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

remember the 100+ pages of the "Wolf" (maybe a couple of years ago). be careful what you wish/ask for.

Larla, I'm going to need the link for that! Thanks, doll!

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a sexually jealous person, it won't work. I am not sexually jealous. Neither is my wife. I am happy for her experiences. I know, we are weird.

I'd like to be like that, but I do not want to share. Not jealous, just selfish.

Again, it won't work. Your partner will just end up resentful if you want to be selfish (even if they tell you they will be "OK" with the situation). You both need to be 100% on the same page.

Anonymous wrote:If you are a sexually jealous person, it won't work. I am not sexually jealous. Neither is my wife. I am happy for her experiences. I know, we are weird.

I'd like to be like that, but I do not want to share. Not jealous, just selfish.

Anonymous wrote:It like the threesome thing. I've been in MFM threesomes before and dudes like the idea until they hear their wife making noises for the other guy they don't make for them or get really into it. I was in one and the women practically forgot her husband was there.

This is the same thing. If a guy gives you a hall pass, trust me he'll never look the same way at you again.

sure, buddy

If you are a sexually jealous person, it won't work. I am not sexually jealous. Neither is my wife. I am happy for her experiences. I know, we are weird.

It like the threesome thing. I've been in MFM threesomes before and dudes like the idea until they hear their wife making noises for the other guy they don't make for them or get really into it. I was in one and the women practically forgot her husband was there.

This is the same thing. If a guy gives you a hall pass, trust me he'll never look the same way at you again.

It's all fun and games until:

stds/stis
unwanted pregnancy, no form of bc is 100%
someone is crazy and bad bad things happen

Hall passes seem controlled, but human emotions dealing specifically with sex and love are never "controlled."

Some stds can be passed through saliva, deep kissing, and body to body contact.

You can pass herpes, a life-long std, from the oral version on your face and mouth to the genitals via oral sex.

There's to many risks for me. If my spouse and I didn't want monogamy, either of us, I'd divorce first. My parents played this game after 25 years of marriage and my entire family lost.

You never know what your hook-up is doing on the side.
You never know if your hook-up wants more. You never know if you will want more, and disregard "the rules."

We had a set of neighbors decide they were going to swing. They had an agreement and explicit rules in place.

Sex between the 2 couples only when all agree, sex with condoms always, no sex secretly...all happy as clams. The first thing the husband of one half and the wife of one half did was meet out back of his home for sex against his fence secretly! Why? They all had hall passes? It got really great when they abandoned the condom rule and one wife got pregnant and was having sex with both men, and who knows who the father was? Thank God we moved. Creepy creepy creepy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

I am fascinated that you are so privy to these intimate details of their life.

are you a man ? I am the PP and women tend to talk a lot to their girlfriends..