Anonymous
11/29/2016 23:44
Subject: Re:Not my circus, not my monkeys
Dude. I'd divorce you in a heartbeat. If your husband has any sense, he will cut his losses and run.
Anonymous
11/29/2016 23:27
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:I have been trying to buy an apartment as an investment. When I pulled a credit report, I found that I had been late on a mortgage payment on another property and that this was really my DH's fault. His explanation was since I don't contribute a cent towards household expenses and he had to pay to repair the car I wrecked as well as the new water heater and new washer dryer a few months back all at the same time, there was not enough money from his paycheck to cover it all. So, he paid the mortgage late. Now I am pissed. His response was I could finally get it together and contribute to the household expenses. Further, he said that since I did not ask him about the new apartment, that my problem is not his "circus and not his monkeys" and that I just have to deal with it.
How do you even respond to that? I thought it very rude. And now he uses this phrase all the time when he feels I am in a pickle of my own making, not understanding that my pickles are because of his making. Bastard!
Not my usual, really don't like pejoratives, but reading your parting shot my first reaction was...BITCH!
Anonymous
11/29/2016 22:42
Subject: Re:Not my circus, not my monkeys
Hi LaTasha! Good to see you asking for solutions on this Forum. You should leave Jamal!
Anonymous
11/29/2016 18:02
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think I remember the OP's DH posted about this at some point. I remember him saying that she did not contribute to household expenses, and yet she expected him to be the one to cover her car repair.
OP, why don't you think you should contribute to household expenses? You know, for the home that you live in, for the roof over your head?
Out of the entire population that is the DMV do you really think it is even remotely likely that two married people would post alternate sides of their drama on here? Keep in mind that are probably less than 5,000 unique users that come to this sub-forum and I think that's being very generous.
Well, I can't give you exact odds, but do I think it's possible? Of course it is. It wouldn't be the first time it happened, either.
As an aside, I'm betting there are way more than 5,000 unique users of this sub-forum, if we are covering the span of time I referred to.
Or, more likely, it's just trolling.
Doubt it on the users. Look at the page views for the threads. Then, keep in mind that every time you hit refresh or click to another page this site counts it as a page view. So, me reading the whole thread and posting this comment is going to count as at least four page views (sometimes the site double counts).
Anonymous
11/29/2016 17:58
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
TROLL
Anonymous
11/29/2016 17:57
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:I work. I made $127K last year to DH $115K. I keep my money separate b/c he will steal it and spend it and I don't know on what he will spend it. He just always seems to have debts he can't get out of. He thinks I should give hime money so he pay them off, that's why he wants money for the mortgage, etc. I already told him if he tried to divorce me I'll quit my job so he has to support me.
I don't believe you are looking for solutions.
But, if you are, combine income, and TRACK expenses down to the penny.
You are concerned about how he spends........so start together to track it on software/online tracker.
There you go.
Anonymous
11/29/2016 17:40
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Wow. Why are you even married? It doesn't sound like you like each other very much...
Anonymous
11/29/2016 17:33
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, were you a SAHM in 2013?
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/314958.page
OP, the thread linked above was written by you, right?
It has to be her. OP, why the heck are you guys still married? This is like "War of the Roses" s**t. Please tell me your kids don't witness this horror show.
Anonymous
11/29/2016 16:27
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:OP, were you a SAHM in 2013?
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/314958.page
OP, the thread linked above was written by you, right?
Anonymous
11/29/2016 13:58
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:I work. I made $127K last year to DH $115K. I keep my money separate b/c he will steal it and spend it and I don't know on what he will spend it. He just always seems to have debts he can't get out of. He thinks I should give hime money so he pay them off, that's why he wants money for the mortgage, etc. I already told him if he tried to divorce me I'll quit my job so he has to support me.
Maybe he has debts because he is paying for all of your household expenses. He will not be required to support you if you quit your job immediately before/after filing for divorce. It will considered voluntary. I hope that you have not had any children together.
Anonymous
11/29/2016 13:43
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think I remember the OP's DH posted about this at some point. I remember him saying that she did not contribute to household expenses, and yet she expected him to be the one to cover her car repair.
OP, why don't you think you should contribute to household expenses? You know, for the home that you live in, for the roof over your head?
Out of the entire population that is the DMV do you really think it is even remotely likely that two married people would post alternate sides of their drama on here? Keep in mind that are probably less than 5,000 unique users that come to this sub-forum and I think that's being very generous.
Well, I can't give you exact odds, but do I think it's possible? Of course it is. It wouldn't be the first time it happened, either.
As an aside, I'm betting there are way more than 5,000 unique users of this sub-forum, if we are covering the span of time I referred to.
Anonymous
11/29/2016 13:41
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:I think I remember the OP's DH posted about this at some point. I remember him saying that she did not contribute to household expenses, and yet she expected him to be the one to cover her car repair.
OP, why don't you think you should contribute to household expenses? You know, for the home that you live in, for the roof over your head?
Out of the entire population that is the DMV do you really think it is even remotely likely that two married people would post alternate sides of their drama on here? Keep in mind that are probably less than 5,000 unique users that come to this sub-forum and I think that's being very generous.
Anonymous
11/29/2016 12:16
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:It's not my mortgage! I put the down payment on the house. It's enough, and far exceeds whatever he's paid on a monthly basis!
What about the rest of the household expenses? Why don't you feel obligated to contribute to utilities, maintenance, food, cars, etc.?
What do you do with all of your money?
Anonymous
11/29/2016 12:00
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:It's not my mortgage! I put the down payment on the house. It's enough, and far exceeds whatever he's paid on a monthly basis!
Well it's in your self interest to make sure your DH has enough money to make the house payments. Otherwise you will lose the house and your ass will be responsible for the debt. You are pretty stupid financially.
Anonymous
11/29/2016 11:59
Subject: Not my circus, not my monkeys
Anonymous wrote:It's not my mortgage! I put the down payment on the house. It's enough, and far exceeds whatever he's paid on a monthly basis!
Do you mean the house is not in your name? You would not expect to receive proceeds from the sale, if the house were to be sold?
What would you prefer your husband to do if he is out of money, simply not make the mortgage payment?
You sound so batshit insane, I am having trouble believing you aren't a troll.
Why are you married?