Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, they aren't my parents. By day 3 I need to be away from them for a few hours or I will lose my mind. 2 full days (including hosting a full holiday meal for them!!) is plenty of time to spend with ILs.
Your DH probably just doesn't want to have to deal with them himself.
At least in our family, my ILs aren't here to see me, at all. They are first here to see my H, and a distant second, are here to see our kids. Several times they tried to dump the kids on me and cajole my H into taking just them somewhere so they can have him to themselves.
Can't you empathize with their desire to have some alone time with their son? Can you really not imagine ever wanting this with your children when they are grown up and you don't see them much?
Anonymous wrote:My SIL does this when we visit. Doesn't bother me a bit. She gets a couple of hours to herself and we get to catch up with my brother. I know she enjoys our company. But as a mom with small kids, I know how nice it is to get out alone. I also understand how hard it is to host for a few days. Even if you like your inlaws, you need some alone time.
Anonymous wrote:My SIL does this when we visit. Doesn't bother me a bit. She gets a couple of hours to herself and we get to catch up with my brother. I know she enjoys our company. But as a mom with small kids, I know how nice it is to get out alone. I also understand how hard it is to host for a few days. Even if you like your inlaws, you need some alone time.
Anonymous wrote:After two days of entertaining, all bets are off, especially for households where both parents WOH.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, they aren't my parents. By day 3 I need to be away from them for a few hours or I will lose my mind. 2 full days (including hosting a full holiday meal for them!!) is plenty of time to spend with ILs.
Your DH probably just doesn't want to have to deal with them himself.
At least in our family, my ILs aren't here to see me, at all. They are first here to see my H, and a distant second, are here to see our kids. Several times they tried to dump the kids on me and cajole my H into taking just them somewhere so they can have him to themselves.
Can't you empathize with their desire to have some alone time with their son? Can you really not imagine ever wanting this with your children when they are grown up and you don't see them much?
Anonymous wrote:Then say so, and make it up to your DIL with some time to herself too.