A former boss of mine met his wife using a video dating site! Remember those? You would make a video tape, and then other people would view them. Back in the day...

My brother put a personal ad on Craigslist. He dated three girls. Then married one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:Met my spouse online. Been married more than 20 years.

Wow! I want to hear this story!

Plenty of people met on BBSes, through Usenet, Bitnet, IRC, and so on. I imagine services like Compuserve, Prodigy, Delphi, and AOL also allowed for some meetings that ended up in relationships and marriage.

My Ex met his new wife online. They met and moved in together within a year. Got married one year later. She does not know about his diagnosed sex addiction nor his bipolar depression (He did tell her he has depression, just not the bipolar kind).

She married him without ever meeting his ex-wife (me) and having only met his kids about a half dozen times in a year and a half. I have full custody, and I'm sure that he told her some story about how I hate him and have poisoned the kids against him, even though he spends a lot of time at our house, and we have a pleasant relationship. I'm not even sure she knows how much time he still spends at my house with the kids.

I know my exDH was online with various dating profiles while we were together. I have seen the emails and contacts he had with these women and the tremendous lies they believed. I would never date online for this reason. Be careful who you meet online and make sure you spend a very long time getting to know them before you get attached.

I'm sure there are lots of good people who date online. But, there are also a lot of people with deep pathologies.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious about any success stories. I signed up for one of this dating apps because I'm really bored BUT I really prefer to meet a guy in the real world. I'm chatting with a couple of guyz who want to take me out on a date. I'm dragging my feet because I'm old fashioned when it comes to dating and don't really think you can meet a marriage worthy guy online.

2nd Marriage for me, first one was before "online" and we met at school.

Met my current DW on match. We've been together 5 years, just celebrated our 3rd anniversary and have an 18 month old. It's working out pretty well.

I hit post too fast.

I don't know why you think the odds of meeting "marriage worthy" is any better in one context over another. You need to look at "online" as merely being a way of finding out who else is out there, single and looking. You "meet" and date in the "real world". You don't have an online-only relationship.

I think you're dragging your feet because you're nervous about actually meeting them in real life, and you're calling that "being old fashioned",.. that's not "old fashioned"...that's wanting a risk free dating experience.

Just go meet them for coffee or a walk in the park, someplace public, and have a conversation. You don't go from having never met in person to worrying about marriage in a couple of dates anyway. Guaranteed, you'll kiss a few frogs and they'll remain frogs and you'll invest time in relationships that don't work out...that's how it goes. The wonderful thing about online is you can limit yourself to people with similar goals and values.

Anonymous wrote:Just curious about any success stories. I signed up for one of this dating apps because I'm really bored BUT I really prefer to meet a guy in the real world. I'm chatting with a couple of guyz who want to take me out on a date. I'm dragging my feet because I'm old fashioned when it comes to dating and don't really think you can meet a marriage worthy guy online.

2nd Marriage for me, first one was before "online" and we met at school.

Met my current DW on match. We've been together 5 years, just celebrated our 3rd anniversary and have an 18 month old. It's working out pretty well.

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Anonymous wrote:Met husband on Ashley Madison. Our families do not know because it's very embarrassing.

Okay, you can't just drop that and provide no details. Not judging, just curious ...

DH was rebounding from his ex and the other dating sites didn't work out. I was getting free fancy meals from desperate married men. We really got along and dated for 2 years. We did several road trips and had so much fun. When AM was hacked and our families would talk about it in the dinner table, we would look at each other with a smirk. It's our dirty little secret.

I know two happy unmarried couples who met online. I met a couple guys with whom I am still friends, and one of those introduced me to my spouse (now together 11 years).

In my view, lengthy online interaction before meeting up is unhelpful. Use the site to arrange in-person dates, not to get to know the person.

Anonymous wrote:Met my spouse online. Been married more than 20 years.

Wow! I want to hear this story!

Jdate 2003

Met mine on OKC, know of three other marriages through that site as well as a few from Match. When dress shopping, my salesperson said almost 95% are online - whether a dating site, Meet Up, or similar interest sites.

If you don't think they are good matches, don't go. But I also made some good friends from a few dates. As for how to avoid the guys who just want sex, it's pretty easy - they make it clear pretty much before you even meet them.

Two close friends met their spouses through online dating sites.

I know many. Even a couple who met on Tinder - it does happen!

Anonymous wrote:I did - back in the 1990s when it was rare and embarrassing.

+1

1998 in a teen chat room (we were teens!) first friends then marriage in 2002. Happily married since but I am still sometimes embarrassed of how we met.

I know two happily married couples who met online over a decade ago. One through J-Date, the other through E-Harmony.

But the dating world seems much scarier these days with Tinder, etc.