Anonymous
11/07/2016 17:34
Subject: Re:What is considered marrying well?
I married someone ( for love ) who turned out to be "wealthier", at least on paper. It wasnt part of our dating life and I figured it could be the same way for our married life. NOPE. It turns out the family has major psychological problems and are hoarders / have the bag lady syndrome . Obsessed with not spending and /or seeming poor. They are also impossibly conceited and mean spirited. I am hoping to inspire my husband to take up more of a career so he can build a sense of self worth and find his footing as a human being. While I love him to the ends of the earth, had I known what I was in for in terms of restrictions on our freedom, no agency, no independence, I would have run in the opposite direction. I defintely married way down compared to girlfriends who married a plumber / engineer / honest working guy. We dont have children and are not sure we can. Not sure I want to. Could never live like this with kids.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 17:21
Subject: Re:What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In general? More like 500k +
In the DC area, 650k +
No because he can lose that job and not be able to get another high paying job. Best to go with the male who is independently wealthy.
My husband found out about my trust fund only after we had gotten engaged. Bonus!
Hope your husband is a hot surfer...otherwise you blew it.
How did you guess?
Anonymous
11/07/2016 17:08
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much money does the guy have to make?
150k?
200k?
300k+?
in this area, MINIMUM 300k.
The women on this site make me root for Bane and his underground army of disenfranchised to nuke Gotham whenever that movie is on.
Remember Bane did everything for the woman.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 17:07
Subject: Re:What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In general? More like 500k +
In the DC area, 650k +
No because he can lose that job and not be able to get another high paying job. Best to go with the male who is independently wealthy.
My husband found out about my trust fund only after we had gotten engaged. Bonus!
Hope your husband is a hot surfer...otherwise you blew it.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 16:56
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Huh. I really didn't think this was going to be on money, and clicked in order to share personality and character traits that I think constitute marrying well.
Oh well.
Me too.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 16:17
Subject: Re:What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In general? More like 500k +
In the DC area, 650k +
No because he can lose that job and not be able to get another high paying job. Best to go with the male who is independently wealthy.
My husband found out about my trust fund only after we had gotten engaged. Bonus!
Anonymous
11/07/2016 15:38
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much money does the guy have to make?
150k?
200k?
300k+?
in this area, MINIMUM 300k.
The women on this site make me root for Bane and his underground army of disenfranchised to nuke Gotham whenever that movie is on.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 12:54
Subject: Re:What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:In general? More like 500k +
In the DC area, 650k +
No because he can lose that job and not be able to get another high paying job. Best to go with the male who is independently wealthy.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 12:14
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:How much money does the guy have to make?
150k?
200k?
300k+?
in this area, MINIMUM 300k.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 11:56
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:I married someone smarter and kinder than I am.
I married up.
+1
me, too.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 11:53
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Eek.
I'll answer your question seriously, though, as an adult.
Marrying well is relative to how you yourself are doing, how old you are, etc.
For me, an educated, financially stable woman of 44 with one child, I look for guys who add to my life and don't have baggage that would significantly complicate my life. So for me, marrying well would mean finding a guy who was educated, smart and employed in a career that allowed him to be financially independent of me, his parents or his ex wife. He could have a kid or kids but probably not a whole bunch of them. He would have a decent relationship with his ex. He'd have some friends so he wasn't dependent on me for his whole social life. He'd be an interesting conversationalist who knew some stuff I didn't know, so I'd occasionally learn something.
That would be marrying well. The income level is kind of secondary.
I'll answer your question seriously, though, as an adult.
Marrying well is relative to how you yourself are doing, how old you are, etc.
For me, an educated, financially stable woman of 44 with one child, I look for guys who add to my life and don't have baggage that would significantly complicate my life. So for me, marrying well would mean finding a guy who was educated, smart and employed in a career that allowed him to be financially independent of me, his parents or his ex wife. He could have a kid or kids but probably not a whole bunch of them. He would have a decent relationship with his ex. He'd have some friends so he wasn't dependent on me for his whole social life. He'd be an interesting conversationalist who knew some stuff I didn't know, so I'd occasionally learn something.
That would be marrying well. The income level is kind of secondary.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 10:17
Subject: Re:What is considered marrying well?
In general? More like 500k +
In the DC area, 650k +
In the DC area, 650k +
Anonymous
11/07/2016 10:09
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Seems like it would be obvious OP. It's not just about money, it's about character too. Does the guy drink too much. Sex addict? Treat people well? Enjoy his family? Stable personality? Able to overcome adversity? Like to laugh?
So many things.
So many things.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 09:49
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much money does the guy have to make?
150k?
200k?
300k+?
None of the above.
Yep you do not want to marriage someone who has to work for a living. If the guy has a w2 move a long. You want the guy who makes his pocket money off investments. So maybe a net worth in the 300 million, with 10 million in tax free bonds for month to month expenses or something like that.
Anonymous
11/07/2016 05:31
Subject: What is considered marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:How much money does the guy have to make?
150k?
200k?
300k+?
None of the above.