Anonymous
11/01/2016 12:14
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
It is kinda creepy.
Anonymous
11/01/2016 12:05
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Here's the math for those wondering:
Guy the woman finds unattractive = creepy
Guy the woman finds totally hot = charming and assertive
The challenge for guys = figuring out which one you are before even saying hello to someone
Guy the woman finds unattractive = creepy
Guy the woman finds totally hot = charming and assertive
The challenge for guys = figuring out which one you are before even saying hello to someone
Anonymous
11/01/2016 11:34
Subject: Re:Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
I would say thank you and go on about my business
Anonymous
11/01/2016 11:29
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:Op here. To those who say learn to take a compliment, I have no issue with random compliments from men and women like you have great smile or hair. I get those from women and older men and reciprocate to others when appropriate and unintrusive. People seem to appreciate and I do too when getting such compliments.
This felt different and it was hard to convey that part in writing. First, he was a guy and he looked interested; maybe it was his gaze and tone. Second, yes he was a decent looking guy. I'm used to obviously leery and creepy guys saying such things, but this guy was fairly decent looking. He'd have no issue finding a date. That's why I was surprised he was using this as a pick up line. He seemed interested.
The comment about responding "I know" was funny. If only I were that bold! Instead I just blush and turn the other way.
Guy here, so just to recap what you've shared: a) you were caught off guard, b) thought he was attractive, c) you were flustered and perhaps embarrassed. I'm guessing you're single - perhaps with a BF but it's not a hot and heavy relationship. My take is that you indeed felt some initial attraction towards him and now are contemplating posting on Craig's List Missed Connections
Anonymous
11/01/2016 11:20
Subject: Re:Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Oh god, my poor sons. I guess now I have to teach them not to compliment any woman for fear of "intruding on her time" at the grocery store. And to think, all this time when random men have complimented me in their presence, I only said "thank you" and smiled, neglecting to teach them how inappropriate that behaviour actually was.
Anonymous
11/01/2016 11:13
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here. To those who say learn to take a compliment, I have no issue with random compliments from men and women like you have great smile or hair. I get those from women and older men and reciprocate to others when appropriate and unintrusive. People seem to appreciate and I do too when getting such compliments.
This felt different and it was hard to convey that part in writing. First, he was a guy and he looked interested; maybe it was his gaze and tone. Second, yes he was a decent looking guy. I'm used to obviously leery and creepy guys saying such things, but this guy was fairly decent looking. He'd have no issue finding a date. That's why I was surprised he was using this as a pick up line. He seemed interested.
The comment about responding "I know" was funny. If only I were that bold! Instead I just blush and turn the other way.
I guess I don't understand what the problem was if it was a "pick up line". Couples have met in grocery stores, it's not just an urban legend. He wasn't threatening or inappropriate. He didn't push or try to pursue when you shower disinterest. Why the discussion as if he did something wrong?
+1
Everyone is not a creep, and everyone isn't "intruding on your time". Give me a break. How do you all think people met in the olden days before you could swipe left or right if you were interested? At the store, the movies, at the bar, the club, etc. Men (and women) had to put themselves out there and say something. If he just left you alone after you said thanks, how is this creepy? This is not the same thing as some guy calling you a stank bitch after you rejected his advances. It's not, no matter what some "feminist" thinks.
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:50
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Uh, I'd say thanks and not think about it again?
OP YOU ARE STUNNING!!
feel better?
OP YOU ARE STUNNING!!
feel better?
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:48
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:If a random guy complimented me, I'd start a thread about it on a website.
You know, for validation from strangers lol
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:47
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:In line at Wegmans and a guy said excuse me but I think u r stunning. I bumbled a thank u but quickly turned away. Was I rude? Is this guy creepy? Outwardly he looked fine like he was going to work.is this just how guys pick up women now? Pretty ballsy if you ask me. Or maybe he says this to many women and hopes one responds favorably?
Was I rude to turn away and ignore him?
If he knew you seem incapable of actually writing out "you", "are" and "you" again, he probably wouldn't have said anything. Talk about a humble brag post
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:36
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
He was attracted and hitting on you. We don't give compliments like that out of the blue.
Some women enjoy the attention & flirt back, some women get embarrassed, and other women are offended.
There's no right or wrong way to react. But his intention was to talk more with you and perhaps ask you out, if you positively expressed interest.
Some women enjoy the attention & flirt back, some women get embarrassed, and other women are offended.
There's no right or wrong way to react. But his intention was to talk more with you and perhaps ask you out, if you positively expressed interest.
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:34
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Happens all the time. Makes me very uncomfortable. I usually offer a polite smile and move on.
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:32
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
If a random guy complimented me, I'd start a thread about it on a website.
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:30
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
^And I also agree that what he said to me and the way he said it were sweet and highly complimentary. Not creepy, stalker, strange.
If he had stalked me to my car that would have been another thing entirely. But this guy was just being spontaneously sweet (I think?).
If he had stalked me to my car that would have been another thing entirely. But this guy was just being spontaneously sweet (I think?).
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:30
Subject: Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
It's a bit awkward, but sounds like it was just a compliment. Maybe he was interested if you were, but you brushed it off and he didn't pursue so that sounds fine. We all know a creep when we see one, but this guy doesn't sound like one.
Anonymous
11/01/2016 10:29
Subject: Re:Random guy complimented me. Wwyd?
Unless he popped a Tic-Tac in his mouth and grabbed your p*ssy, just say thank you and feel a little pleased with yourself.