Anonymous wrote:Just another reason to use Incognito mode on Chrome, I guess.

I do this too, but the other day Dw asked why i use incognito mode and if I am hiding something. I replied saying I told you and our DCs to use it too, its supposed to stop the unwanted add ons every time you go to a site

You will never be able to read his mind and figure out what he was really thinking -- whether he stumbled upon the article, whether he sought it out, etc. Stop cross-examining him about it and let it go.

Just another reason to use Incognito mode on Chrome, I guess.

I guess maybe I'm piling on at this point, but as a husband who is in a healthy marriage with my wife, if she ever came to me and started a conversation with "I was looking through your search history..." that would be the focus of the argument right there. Who does that?

Do you people read? OP brought up "marriage inequality" to DH.

DH googled "marriage inequality."

He then read this article about "marrying beneath" which popped up as a result of the googling of the topic OP BROUGHT UP.

OP started it all! He probably didn't even know what the hell she was talking about!

Men don't generally google relationship topics unless there is something seriously wrong with the relationship.

OP - was the site he was one about a woman marrying beneath her, or vice versa? If it's about a woman, and you've stated that you were complaining to him about marriage equality, then he's probably trying to get some perspective from your view point.

if the other way around, then you are in trouble. You need to talk to him about why he feels this way.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. It would never occur to me to check his search history
2. If I did check it and saw this search term I would think nothing of it
3. You sound like you are bored

It wouldn't occur to me to check my husband's search history either, but it really wouldn't bother you if yours was looking for information about marrying beneath him? That would absolutely sting me.

No because maybe he read another article and it popped into his head or he just fell into a wormhole where he kept clicking onto relating articles or something. I have Googled all kinds of stuff if I read about it and don't know much and it doesn't mean anything at all! Holy crap I click on all kinds of infidelity/divorce/bad marriage threads on here just being a looky-loo, it doesn't mean I am personally cheating or considering divorce or have a bad marriage. I can't believe OP has stooped so low as to spend time searching her husband's browser history (like, seriously, OP, get a life) and then brought it up to him. Totally shot herself in the foot, she looks crazy now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. It would never occur to me to check his search history
2. If I did check it and saw this search term I would think nothing of it
3. You sound like you are bored

It wouldn't occur to me to check my husband's search history either, but it really wouldn't bother you if yours was looking for information about marrying beneath him? That would absolutely sting me.

No it would not bother me because I would not automatically assume it has anything to do with our marriage. I read a lot of things out of general interest that have nothing to do with my life.

If assume that you were an attorney and that you have a PITA personality and that you're hard to deal with.

What does he do for a living and how often do you bring up being a lawyer? Maybe he was looking for your perspective and also hoping to find some helpful responses out there to help he deal with constantly be reminded how much better educated you are than him and what you gave up to SAH?

I don't mean to be mean about it, OP. Sorry if it reads that way. You asked what it could mean. It could be what he said, that you mentioned marrying beneath you in some way and he was following up on it.

I think that the man is entitled to have his own personal thoughts and frustrations. Are you the thought police, Op?

Anonymous wrote:1. It would never occur to me to check his search history
2. If I did check it and saw this search term I would think nothing of it
3. You sound like you are bored

It wouldn't occur to me to check my husband's search history either, but it really wouldn't bother you if yours was looking for information about marrying beneath him? That would absolutely sting me.

This was a thread on DCUM. Was that what he was looking at? I look at all sorts of weird topics on this site.

1. It would never occur to me to check his search history
2. If I did check it and saw this search term I would think nothing of it
3. You sound like you are bored

Anonymous wrote:If you're actually reviewing his search history, your marriage is effectively over.

This. Where's the trust?