Anonymous
Post 10/27/2016 18:42     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
OP this is your child's baptism. Celebrate it the way you want to. They will either choose to join you or not. Nothing you can do about their choices.

I find it a little ironic that they won't go to a restaurant but would be okay with you preparing food for them. They won't support someone else working, but it's okay for you to cook for them?

Anonymous
Post 10/27/2016 07:08     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Anonymous wrote:Jewish person here. Is it possible to have a non-Catholic pick up the cake for you and come in and prepare a meal for the celebrants? This would be our solution. You can pay this person the day before if you really want to get serious about not engaging in commerce.


If I were a local friend, I would be more than happy to be your Shabbos Yid" and run out to the bakery and put a fresh cake in your house while you were at church.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2016 20:39     Subject: Re:Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the replies. Switching godparents is not an option (this is a sibling and the only one who is a practicing Catholic). They are the godparents for our other children and have been fine in all respects so far. This is a fairly new thing that they're doing on Sundays. It didn't occur to me that they'd be so rigid as to bring it to the baptism. I'll probably just order food and they can eat it or not, and in the meantime, I will probably try to avoid the topic if it comes up. Maybe I just needed to vent. Thanks to all for confirming that this isn't a real thing in Catholicism.


You're using the same godparents for all of your children? Never heard of that or any of their crazy rules. Lifelong Catholic here. I would do what YOU want and give them the option to decline. Of course I'd also find different godparents
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2016 19:33     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Lifelong Catholic here who frequently eats breakfast after mass with the parish priest.
He likes waffles.
No idea what these godparents are talking about.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2016 19:02     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Have everyone to the house for prepurchased coffee and cookies/muffins for an hour or two either before or after the baptism (depending on the timing of the event), then go out for a meal from there. They can bail on the meal part if they wish but you will still have provided a small gathering for all to celebrate without a big effort.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2016 18:49     Subject: Re:Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Salads, (Cole slaw, tuna salad, potato salad, hummus, cucumber salad, tomato salad, guacamole...) smoked salmon, frozen bagels from the previous morning. Some cakes are better the next day.
Congrats!
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2016 00:43     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
OP, I have a cousin like this. RUN, not walk, RUN to find other Godparents! Believe me, this is just the first of many important occasions they will disrupt.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 23:31     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
I went to Catholic school from K thru college. Very catholic family. Have never heard of a prohibition on eating out or engaging in commerce on a Sunday. Did they make this up on their own? It is not part of any Catholic teaching that I am aware of.

If you can't choose new godparents, just do whatever you want to do and they can say no.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 23:19     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
They are putting their strict literal definition of keeping the Sabbath over the reality of keeping the Sabbath. Spending time with loved ones and welcoming a wee one into the Faith IS keeping the Sabbath - you're not working, slaving away with chores, succumbing to your inner vices, but slowing down and appreciating God's gifts.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 23:05     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Yea, that's nothing I've ever heard of, even from the uber-Catholics in my family. My aunt was a nun and she didn't follow that rule.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 22:39     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
All the nuns and priest in my family are more than fine with Baptism parties. I have no idea what OP's Godparents are talking about.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 22:21     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
I would be concerned with their influence over your children with these type of rigid beliefs. Especially since they are not rooted in Catholicism. Why would you want someone in an important role like a god parent eschewing beliefs not rooted in your faith?
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 22:13     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Anonymous wrote:I come from a very religious catholic family and have never heard of this. This is something I've heard only Orthodox Jews say


Mormons have strict rules about how to spend Sundays. They don't go anywhere but church and home. Their kids stay inside all day doing family stuff.

Some types of Southern Baptists do a version of this (ie Hobby Lobby and Chick fil a closed on Sundays).
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 22:08     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
I come from a very religious catholic family and have never heard of this. This is something I've heard only Orthodox Jews say
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2016 22:07     Subject: Conflict with family about how to celebrate after baby's baptism
Why don't you order Lebanese taverna to be delivered to the house? If they want to split hairs, the money would have been spent before the sabbath