Anonymous
Post 10/22/2016 07:20     Subject: 8 dates. Nothing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Low testosterone. And I can tell you from experience, being married to a man with Low T is hell. Unless of course you are prepared to deal with this form of passive sexuality throughout your relationship. OP, testosterone is what drives sex. Plain and simple.


+1

When I say to my husband,"Hey we haven't had sex in a week/two weeks," he looks up at me like, really, it's been that long? Just doesn't occur to him and he doesn't get physically restless. I wish he'd leveled with me before we got married, but he felt like he had to put up a macho front. And I am a high drive woman! My H would be perfectly suited to all those DCUM women who can do duty sex once a week but could take it or leave it. It is hell being married to someone who loves me but not physically. I think about this every single day of my life.


Have you considered asking him for permission to go elsewhere?
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2016 05:40     Subject: 8 dates. Nothing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Low testosterone. And I can tell you from experience, being married to a man with Low T is hell. Unless of course you are prepared to deal with this form of passive sexuality throughout your relationship. OP, testosterone is what drives sex. Plain and simple.


+1

When I say to my husband,"Hey we haven't had sex in a week/two weeks," he looks up at me like, really, it's been that long? Just doesn't occur to him and he doesn't get physically restless. I wish he'd leveled with me before we got married, but he felt like he had to put up a macho front. And I am a high drive woman! My H would be perfectly suited to all those DCUM women who can do duty sex once a week but could take it or leave it. It is hell being married to someone who loves me but not physically. I think about this every single day of my life.


Make him get his T levels checked - several times - by a specialist.


First poster: we have.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2016 05:14     Subject: Re:8 dates. Nothing
Anonymous wrote:Dating is when people bring their A game. This is his A game. Do you really want to be working this hard for affection this early? He won't change.


Yesssss
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2016 05:13     Subject: 8 dates. Nothing
Girl, he's just not that into you.

Or:

Fast forward: guy who is too shy to kiss you will become the LT boyfriend / husband who has little libido, while you're on DCUM asking "permission" to have an affair. Heed the warning signs!

He's probably also passive in other areas of his life. That's not a bad thing, but you know whether that's your type.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2016 04:26     Subject: Re:8 dates. Nothing
Anonymous wrote:Dating is when people bring their A game. This is his A game. Do you really want to be working this hard for affection this early? He won't change.


+1
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

He's just not that good at affection and sex. You want someone who is into you in that way. This isn't going to get better. Move on.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2016 04:15     Subject: Re:8 dates. Nothing
Dating is when people bring their A game. This is his A game. Do you really want to be working this hard for affection this early? He won't change.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2016 01:19     Subject: 8 dates. Nothing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Low testosterone. And I can tell you from experience, being married to a man with Low T is hell. Unless of course you are prepared to deal with this form of passive sexuality throughout your relationship. OP, testosterone is what drives sex. Plain and simple.


+1

When I say to my husband,"Hey we haven't had sex in a week/two weeks," he looks up at me like, really, it's been that long? Just doesn't occur to him and he doesn't get physically restless. I wish he'd leveled with me before we got married, but he felt like he had to put up a macho front. And I am a high drive woman! My H would be perfectly suited to all those DCUM women who can do duty sex once a week but could take it or leave it. It is hell being married to someone who loves me but not physically. I think about this every single day of my life.


Make him get his T levels checked - several times - by a specialist.