Wow OP, you and anyone who agrees with you needs help, fast.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you have serious issues. I have been married for almost 30 years. It has never one time occurred to me that my DH might cheat. I have literally never considered that possibility. Could it happen? I guess it could. A meteor could also fall on my house but I don't look up every time I walk out the door.

Get therapy.

You are one of those wives where you are so blind, your DH probably has a whole family on the side.

OP brava.

Ok, fine. But that's a pretty F'd up point of view OP. So if you weren't abused, then I would assume you were raised with some screwed up values regarding sex and fidelity.

I have a hard time trusting men about a issue that my ex lied to me about, but I've never had a fear of being cheated on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are damaged. Your DH is correct.

I'm a man married for 18years and never have and never will cheat. Not all men are out of control dogs. I'm sorry you have suffered some deep trauma.

I have suffered no trauma. Thanks for playing.

Your posts are screaming abuse. I hope you get some help

What?? Many other people agree with me, as evidenced in this thread. Are we all abused?

Who knows, but you seem particularly damaged. It might just be a mental health issue for you. But normal and healthy you are not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are damaged. Your DH is correct.

I'm a man married for 18years and never have and never will cheat. Not all men are out of control dogs. I'm sorry you have suffered some deep trauma.

I have suffered no trauma. Thanks for playing.

Your posts are screaming abuse. I hope you get some help

What?? Many other people agree with me, as evidenced in this thread. Are we all abused?

You may not all be abused. But to put it bluntly, you are all really fucked up in the head and need therapy. Normal, healthy, happily married women trust their husbands.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are damaged. Your DH is correct.

I'm a man married for 18years and never have and never will cheat. Not all men are out of control dogs. I'm sorry you have suffered some deep trauma.

I have suffered no trauma. Thanks for playing.

Your posts are screaming abuse. I hope you get some help

What?? Many other people agree with me, as evidenced in this thread. Are we all abused?

Your dismissive defensive posture throughout his thread is just another sign that something is wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:DC has some of the most bitter, unhappy women I have ever seen anywhere. And we have lived all over. It's not just that you are unhappy. You cannot stand the idea that millions of men and women are happy. The reality is that your bitterness makes you unattractive both inside and out. You attract exactly what you manifest. Have you stopped to consider how miserable it must be for your poor husband to live with someone who doesn't trust him? Who would blame him if he cheated? I'm not even sure why he is still with you.

This is exactly how I feel about the women of DCUM. I'm a woman but I don't live in the area (found this message.board through a search and love the anonymity). Women here seem so miserable. Everyone is so focused on how they look to other people and material things. I know these same women turn their nose up at my small town life but it sure seems a million times better than the DC life from what I read on here.

I'm from a more rural area as well. We live in DC for about 18 months every five or six years. We have also lived all over this country and in two overseas locations. I'm telling you from experience- The women in DC are a special kind of miserable. My DH jokes and says if I ever start acting or looking like them we are never coming back. It's a bitterness and a coldness that I've never seen anywhere else. Even the women who are married hate men. They are shocked when their men cheat, but honestly, no man wants to be married to a miserable, untrusting, bitter, hardened women who in reality wants to be a man. They have lost the ability to be trusting, sweet, and feminine. And they are raising a generation of boys who don't dare open doors or offer seats to women. And daughters who have no idea what it means to be a lady. It's really sad.

Anonymous wrote:There is something wrong with you.

+1
You don't have to have blind trust in anyone. But wearing your distrustfulness as a badge of honor, claiming that it makes you smarter than the average woman? No, there is something wrong with you for that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are damaged. Your DH is correct.

I'm a man married for 18years and never have and never will cheat. Not all men are out of control dogs. I'm sorry you have suffered some deep trauma.

I have suffered no trauma. Thanks for playing.

Your posts are screaming abuse. I hope you get some help

Anonymous wrote:DC has some of the most bitter, unhappy women I have ever seen anywhere. And we have lived all over. It's not just that you are unhappy. You cannot stand the idea that millions of men and women are happy. The reality is that your bitterness makes you unattractive both inside and out. You attract exactly what you manifest. Have you stopped to consider how miserable it must be for your poor husband to live with someone who doesn't trust him? Who would blame him if he cheated? I'm not even sure why he is still with you.

This is exactly how I feel about the women of DCUM. I'm a woman but I don't live in the area (found this message.board through a search and love the anonymity). Women here seem so miserable. Everyone is so focused on how they look to other people and material things. I know these same women turn their nose up at my small town life but it sure seems a million times better than the DC life from what I read on here.

DC has some of the most bitter, unhappy women I have ever seen anywhere. And we have lived all over. It's not just that you are unhappy. You cannot stand the idea that millions of men and women are happy. The reality is that your bitterness makes you unattractive both inside and out. You attract exactly what you manifest. Have you stopped to consider how miserable it must be for your poor husband to live with someone who doesn't trust him? Who would blame him if he cheated? I'm not even sure why he is still with you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you have serious issues. I have been married for almost 30 years. It has never one time occurred to me that my DH might cheat. I have literally never considered that possibility. Could it happen? I guess it could. A meteor could also fall on my house but I don't look up every time I walk out the door.

Get therapy.

Wake up. You sound so naive.

+1

Some people are suspicious by nature, just as others are overly trusting by nature. So you have your watchdogs, checking up on everything, even though their partners aren't even the cheating types. And you have people who are with chronic cheaters, yet they keep believing the lies and being surprised every time it happens.

Sometimes, when you can't trust, you have to desensitize yourself to your fears and need to control. He probably won't cheat, but if he did? You'd handle it. Can you stop him from feeling and doing anything? No. So try to make your life more positive.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have set up a false dichotomy of either trust or suspect of cheating. What you instead need to realize is that everyone is human, everyone makes mistakes, and things happen in life that you cannot prevent.

Do you trust yourself that you won't cheat?

I have no plans or desire to cheat, but who knows.
Hasn't crossed my mind to cheat on him in 20 years so,..
But you never know. I would never put myself in a risky situation. Like getting drunk and going out etc

Heavens no! Not getting drunk and being social! That is obviously an automatic gateway to adultery!