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However, the truly mega wealthy people I know (like family money in the billions) don't act this way. They are as subtle as possible with their wealth and seem super comfortable with everyone. Their kids too. It is the show off wealthy that seem to either consciously or subconsciously form their own parental bubble (vacation together, in a supper club together, get Nats tickets together, chair nonprofits together, live near each other), things that usually require time and money, both valuable commodities some FA families don't have. They have the Range Rovers, the LV purse, the Hermes belt, go to Nantucket or the Cape, and somehow make sure you know that. Kids might pick up on that. Some kids before they start K have been hanging with the same group of kids for years because of it so they start off tight knit. But at school I don't think they self segregate based on SES or FA status because most people don't know who has FA.

Forbes says there are only 500 billionaires in the US out of a total population of 325 million people. I am impressed that you know many of those billionaires so well and can attest to their wonderful characters and modest living. None of them could possibly have drug addled children/grandchildren or promote racist conspiracy theories or like flashy ways to show off their wealth. They all possess old-fashioned, middle-class values and enjoy living like regular people - if not for the lack of employment, multiple big houses, and very large personal staff. I heard Warren Buffet loves Dairy Queen! The Donald is a regular junk food addict...This image couldn't possibly be a product of PR to protect their political and economic interests at all.

PP, I don't know WTH axe to grind you've got but I do know about 6 DMV families, and you wouldn't necessarily know they are that wealthy unless you've known them a long time, and they have some breeding, so surprise surprise I guess it's middle class values. I don't know. I don't spend a lot of time getting worked up about it. You on the other hand should do some yoga, you're so wound up you might burst into glitter.

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Anonymous wrote:By high school parental status really doesn't matter. Our FA kid is best friend with a kid who is from a very wealthy family. They invite him to concerts
And weekends at country houses etc. we invite their son for BBQ in our yard. My
Younger kid
Is extremely social and kids and parents tell me he is considered one of the most popular in the school. He has dozens of friends of every economic status and can't go to all the parties and events he is invited to because he is so busy socially. I really think money only becomes an issue of the patents choose to make it one.

Your son is groomed and has high social IQ. Most financial aid proletariat have no idea how to condition their dull kids for an elite circle.

Anonymous wrote:By high school parental status really doesn't matter. Our FA kid is best friend with a kid who is from a very wealthy family. They invite him to concerts
And weekends at country houses etc. we invite their son for BBQ in our yard. My
Younger kid
Is extremely social and kids and parents tell me he is considered one of the most popular in the school. He has dozens of friends of every economic status and can't go to all the parties and events he is invited to because he is so busy socially. I really think money only becomes an issue of the patents choose to make it one.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a big 3, and my experience was what has been reflected in these comments. No one knew who got financial aid and how much - particularly in lower grades - and everyone was generally friendly (or as friendly as tweens/teens can be to each other) but in the lower grades, where parents dictated the friendships a bit more, it absolutely broke out by SES. Mostly that was very innocuous - it was because the wealthier kids lived in the same upper NW neighborhoods, had parents who worked together, had gone to the same preschools, had siblings at the same school who were also friends, etc. As we got older, it became much less stratified - but by the same token financial differences also became more obvious to us as kids (who had the fancy shoes, the fancy backpack, the fancy purse, etc.). FWIW, I have to imagine it shakes out the same way at any school. Also I was on the lower end of the SES scale and it really didn't bother me. There were plenty of kids to be friends with.

This is why uniforms or a dress code such as Holton, Landon and Sta are so important. There's such a variation in clothing especially for girls and even girls that are wearing sweatpants if the from Lululemon and cause $100 is a big difference in someone buying them at target.

Anonymous wrote:I went to a big 3, and my experience was what has been reflected in these comments. No one knew who got financial aid and how much - particularly in lower grades - and everyone was generally friendly (or as friendly as tweens/teens can be to each other) but in the lower grades, where parents dictated the friendships a bit more, it absolutely broke out by SES. Mostly that was very innocuous - it was because the wealthier kids lived in the same upper NW neighborhoods, had parents who worked together, had gone to the same preschools, had siblings at the same school who were also friends, etc. As we got older, it became much less stratified - but by the same token financial differences also became more obvious to us as kids (who had the fancy shoes, the fancy backpack, the fancy purse, etc.). FWIW, I have to imagine it shakes out the same way at any school. Also I was on the lower end of the SES scale and it really didn't bother me. There were plenty of kids to be friends with.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
However, the truly mega wealthy people I know (like family money in the billions) don't act this way. They are as subtle as possible with their wealth and seem super comfortable with everyone. Their kids too. It is the show off wealthy that seem to either consciously or subconsciously form their own parental bubble (vacation together, in a supper club together, get Nats tickets together, chair nonprofits together, live near each other), things that usually require time and money, both valuable commodities some FA families don't have. They have the Range Rovers, the LV purse, the Hermes belt, go to Nantucket or the Cape, and somehow make sure you know that. Kids might pick up on that. Some kids before they start K have been hanging with the same group of kids for years because of it so they start off tight knit. But at school I don't think they self segregate based on SES or FA status because most people don't know who has FA.

Forbes says there are only 500 billionaires in the US out of a total population of 325 million people. I am impressed that you know many of those billionaires so well and can attest to their wonderful characters and modest living. None of them could possibly have drug addled children/grandchildren or promote racist conspiracy theories or like flashy ways to show off their wealth. They all possess old-fashioned, middle-class values and enjoy living like regular people - if not for the lack of employment, multiple big houses, and very large personal staff. I heard Warren Buffet loves Dairy Queen! The Donald is a regular junk food addict...This image couldn't possibly be a product of PR to protect their political and economic interests at all.

PP, I don't know WTH axe to grind you've got but I do know about 6 DMV families, and you wouldn't necessarily know they are that wealthy unless you've known them a long time, and they have some breeding, so surprise surprise I guess it's middle class values. I don't know. I don't spend a lot of time getting worked up about it. You on the other hand should do some yoga, you're so wound up you might burst into glitter.

NP. I think that it's doubtful that the people you know are actual billionaires.

Snore. Who cares? Maybe they are not billionaires but multi-millionaires and über wealthy was her point. Sta boys are friends across the board regardless of social economics. Yes certain parents really push to keep their boys with the wealthy set but usually as the boys get older it comes down to the basics of any friendship - common interests and similar sports teams etc... Sta does a beautiful job of creating a community among the boys and they follow it. My son has friends across all races religions and financials and I love it that way.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
However, the truly mega wealthy people I know (like family money in the billions) don't act this way. They are as subtle as possible with their wealth and seem super comfortable with everyone. Their kids too. It is the show off wealthy that seem to either consciously or subconsciously form their own parental bubble (vacation together, in a supper club together, get Nats tickets together, chair nonprofits together, live near each other), things that usually require time and money, both valuable commodities some FA families don't have. They have the Range Rovers, the LV purse, the Hermes belt, go to Nantucket or the Cape, and somehow make sure you know that. Kids might pick up on that. Some kids before they start K have been hanging with the same group of kids for years because of it so they start off tight knit. But at school I don't think they self segregate based on SES or FA status because most people don't know who has FA.

Forbes says there are only 500 billionaires in the US out of a total population of 325 million people. I am impressed that you know many of those billionaires so well and can attest to their wonderful characters and modest living. None of them could possibly have drug addled children/grandchildren or promote racist conspiracy theories or like flashy ways to show off their wealth. They all possess old-fashioned, middle-class values and enjoy living like regular people - if not for the lack of employment, multiple big houses, and very large personal staff. I heard Warren Buffet loves Dairy Queen! The Donald is a regular junk food addict...This image couldn't possibly be a product of PR to protect their political and economic interests at all.

PP, I don't know WTH axe to grind you've got but I do know about 6 DMV families, and you wouldn't necessarily know they are that wealthy unless you've known them a long time, and they have some breeding, so surprise surprise I guess it's middle class values. I don't know. I don't spend a lot of time getting worked up about it. You on the other hand should do some yoga, you're so wound up you might burst into glitter.

NP. I think that it's doubtful that the people you know are actual billionaires.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
However, the truly mega wealthy people I know (like family money in the billions) don't act this way. They are as subtle as possible with their wealth and seem super comfortable with everyone. Their kids too. It is the show off wealthy that seem to either consciously or subconsciously form their own parental bubble (vacation together, in a supper club together, get Nats tickets together, chair nonprofits together, live near each other), things that usually require time and money, both valuable commodities some FA families don't have. They have the Range Rovers, the LV purse, the Hermes belt, go to Nantucket or the Cape, and somehow make sure you know that. Kids might pick up on that. Some kids before they start K have been hanging with the same group of kids for years because of it so they start off tight knit. But at school I don't think they self segregate based on SES or FA status because most people don't know who has FA.

Forbes says there are only 500 billionaires in the US out of a total population of 325 million people. I am impressed that you know many of those billionaires so well and can attest to their wonderful characters and modest living. None of them could possibly have drug addled children/grandchildren or promote racist conspiracy theories or like flashy ways to show off their wealth. They all possess old-fashioned, middle-class values and enjoy living like regular people - if not for the lack of employment, multiple big houses, and very large personal staff. I heard Warren Buffet loves Dairy Queen! The Donald is a regular junk food addict...This image couldn't possibly be a product of PR to protect their political and economic interests at all.

PP, I don't know WTH axe to grind you've got but I do know about 6 DMV families, and you wouldn't necessarily know they are that wealthy unless you've known them a long time, and they have some breeding, so surprise surprise I guess it's middle class values. I don't know. I don't spend a lot of time getting worked up about it. You on the other hand should do some yoga, you're so wound up you might burst into glitter.