To not invite the spouse is incredibly disrespectful no matter how little his friend may know you. If my friend invited me without my wife I would tell him that it's not happening. We are a package deal, and your hubby should at least respect you enough to be on your side in this matter instead of trying to make excuses for his friend.

Wrong as can be. His friend sounds like an idiot.

Incredibly rude. What's with your husband telling you not to be upset??

no way

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?

Yeah, are you sure you are excluded?

I think when I invited my friends, I only put their name. Several RSVP'd with a date and I was fine with that and expecting dates. I was a little annoyed at the single people who scrambled to find dates when it was costing us $300 per person.

Then you only invited the person the invite was addressed too. Your friends who added a guest were also super tacky.

Huge breach of ettiquite.

Is the person that DH's friend is marrying friends with your DH's ex? That is the only reason I can think why this may have happened. One hundred percent not cool in any case.

OP it should tell you something that yours is the rare unicorn of posts where DCUM is in agreement!

It is rude and disrespectful not to invite your friend's spouse.

Anonymous wrote:I was not invited to a wedding when I was just a girlfriend. Always invited after being married. Very strange.

Unless they are like totally broke and having like a 30 person wedding but even then it is pretty inappropriate.

They are really cheap or they don't like you or both.

We had a 25 person wedding and never would have dreamed of excluding spouses. It's never ok to exclude a spouse with the exception of spectacularly abusive step-parents and even then, you're going to get trouble.

If he's your husband good friend, he should know that you are married and invite both spouses.

Inviting only your DH is disrespectful. I would not be okay with my husband attending. Btw if this guy was invited to your wedding- then it's an even bigger faux pas.

No. Just no.

Is the wedding local? Extra rudeness points if it's an out of town wedding and he didn't invite you.

Anonymous wrote:I'd be angry at your husband if he's even considering going.

+1

IF you're actually excluded, not a mere clerical error, v. rude. At a minimum it's extremely careless.

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?

Yeah, are you sure you are excluded?

I think when I invited my friends, I only put their name. Several RSVP'd with a date and I was fine with that and expecting dates. I was a little annoyed at the single people who scrambled to find dates when it was costing us $300 per person.

Totally rude and I would be pissed if my DH is going.

Just a thought. One of our wedding invitations had a mistake. We Invited a Mr. only and left off the & Mrs part. The couple asked us and we were very apologetic. Of course we meant to invite the Mrs. Maybe ask them n