Anonymous wrote:
Frump:
Never works out
Bad eating habits + poor skin care
No color, haircut
Sweatpants, yoga pants with XL tshirt
Sneakers, sandals with no pedicure
House is never clean

Insecure:
High heels everywhere
Clothes too tight
Botox, fake boobs etc.
Check ins on FB to fancy places
Bragging on social media

I have no dog in this fight (or any fight; I think dog fighting is abhorrent) but my husband has informed me many times that lots of men think that sweatpants and yoga pants are basically the sexiest things a woman could ever put on.

I don't know if he's right. I don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If loving Danskos is wrong, I don't want to be right.

Sing it!

Those shoes are made for walking. I love them.

There's a dial between total frump and total vanity. Dial it in the middle to look your best.

There's no medal for the frumpiest hot mom hiding under sweatpants or the vanity hot mom hidden under layers of spanx and Botox.

Anonymous wrote:But what screams secure, IDGAF frump to you. Because that is me.

Ha. Yes!! Half the "frumps" here probably look better in our sweatpants and t-shirts than the fake bimbos. Fact.

But what screams secure, IDGAF frump to you. Because that is me.

Anonymous wrote:Well these styles don't necessarily mean your a "frump," but are very difficult for any but the beautiful people to pull off without looking a tad matronly:

- short-sleeve button up shirts (I think only ll bean makes these anymore so we are all probably safe)
- yes, mid calf straight or relaxed capris (not all cropped/ankle length pants)
- trend alert: the wide legged, slightly short ("summer length") pants that are everywhere now. Impossible for all over BMI 18.
- wild ethnic prints (if they are Chicos, not your actual heritage)
- big baggy fisherman sweaters (I like this in theory, but again, only look great on a J Crew model, but not on anyone else)
- Mid-length skirts (Again, like in theory, but in reality...)

This list made me laugh. I agree with all but I have a really hard time finding pants that fit in length. I hate wearing skirts, so short pants it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

Well these styles don't necessarily mean your a "frump," but are very difficult for any but the beautiful people to pull off without looking a tad matronly:

- short-sleeve button up shirts (I think only ll bean makes these anymore so we are all probably safe)
- yes, mid calf straight or relaxed capris (not all cropped/ankle length pants)
- trend alert: the wide legged, slightly short ("summer length") pants that are everywhere now. Impossible for all over BMI 18.
- wild ethnic prints (if they are Chicos, not your actual heritage)
- big baggy fisherman sweaters (I like this in theory, but again, only look great on a J Crew model, but not on anyone else)
- Mid-length skirts (Again, like in theory, but in reality...)

Women who stridently insist that they never wear makeup. Yes, it's obvious you do not wear makeup. No need to tell everyone.

Anonymous wrote:McMansions.

Hahahaha hahahaha
Ah. Cross thread hilarity.

Anonymous wrote:If loving Danskos is wrong, I don't want to be right.

Sing it!

Anonymous wrote:Short sleeve button down over a v neck.
Out of date silhouettes.
"Fun" jewelry.
Tshirts with clever sayings on them.

What is wrong with a good pun? Not sure how a fitted tee relates to insecurity or frumpiness.

Anonymous wrote:Attacking younger or younger looking women on DCUM.

+1

How sad - "if I don't have it, you can't either". As if you have any say. LOL.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

Tory Burch shoes = insecure? Wow.

If you need a logo that big to advertise your household income.....

It is not even THAT expensive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

Tory Burch shoes = insecure? Wow.

If you need a logo that big to advertise your household income.....