Ugh. Why can't these types learn to read social cues and back off?

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Anonymous wrote:One of my neighbors is a "question only" lady. She tries to get info about doctors, sports, school, places we visit on weekends. Can't stand her anymore.

Hahahah... I think we may have the same neighbor. I can't wait to get away from her. It's always rapid-fire questioning.

I think I also have the same neighbor. The non-stop questions plus judgmental tone have caused me, a grown woman, to actively avoid her when I can. I am a friendly and chatty person, but it's nonstop!!

Hi S, how are you?

Good! I noticed you haven't been in the yard lately!

Oh yeah just been busy with work?

Why are you so busy?

It's our busy season I guess.

When is your not busy season? You're a always running off and leaving your family!

Haha okay! (I start speed walking to my car)

Is your husband okay with you working SO MUCH? What does your MIL think? I like that dress but it looks expensive. Probably bought it because you feel so bad about working right?

Um I got it at JCrew on clearance.

When? I go there all the time. Maybe it was on clearance since you're a bigger siZe? What size are you, 14? Do you think you'd exercise more if you worked less?

Byeeeee (I slam the door shut and peel off.)

Seriously with these rapid fire questioners no amount of information is enough and they're just rude. Way different than someone who just wants to make polite conversation.

doodlebug wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of question asking is generally a sign of intelligence, or so said a study I read.

Sooooo maybe she's just really smart and you don't get it! Sorry!

+1

I don't agree with you. Those people asking "where did you buy ..." "How much did you pay..." "Why did you buy..." are generally envious who don't have a life. Smart and caring people ask different kind of questions. PERIOD

Or they're just interested in other people, which is, in fact, a sign of emotional intelligence.

Besides, OP's MIL is supposed to be dancing on tables or something? Of course she 'doesn't have a life' she's old! Get a grip!

An emotionally intelligent person knows when to stop because they can read non verbal cues from the person who's being peppered with nonstop inane questions. I'm with OP...this gets really old, really fast. It's one thing to ask about a job, or a vacation etc. but to barrage a person about a thrift store find? No. Any normal person would find that irritating after a while. Nobody wants to feel like they're on the witness stand.

Agreed!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of question asking is generally a sign of intelligence, or so said a study I read.

Sooooo maybe she's just really smart and you don't get it! Sorry!

+1

I don't agree with you. Those people asking "where did you buy ..." "How much did you pay..." "Why did you buy..." are generally envious who don't have a life. Smart and caring people ask different kind of questions. PERIOD

Or they're just interested in other people, which is, in fact, a sign of emotional intelligence.

Besides, OP's MIL is supposed to be dancing on tables or something? Of course she 'doesn't have a life' she's old! Get a grip!

An emotionally intelligent person knows when to stop because they can read non verbal cues from the person who's being peppered with nonstop inane questions. I'm with OP...this gets really old, really fast. It's one thing to ask about a job, or a vacation etc. but to barrage a person about a thrift store find? No. Any normal person would find that irritating after a while. Nobody wants to feel like they're on the witness stand.

Anonymous wrote:Count yourself lucky, OP. This is a typical conversation with my MIL:

Her: where did you get this table cloth?
Me: thrift store
Her: why?

Omg, hilarious!

Count yourself lucky, OP. This is a typical conversation with my MIL:

Her: where did you get this table cloth?
Me: thrift store
Her: why?

Have you ever had your deposition taken? Try it sometime and see how fun it is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of question asking is generally a sign of intelligence, or so said a study I read.

Sooooo maybe she's just really smart and you don't get it! Sorry!

+1

I don't agree with you. Those people asking "where did you buy ..." "How much did you pay..." "Why did you buy..." are generally envious who don't have a life. Smart and caring people ask different kind of questions. PERIOD

Or they're just interested in other people, which is, in fact, a sign of emotional intelligence.

Besides, OP's MIL is supposed to be dancing on tables or something? Of course she 'doesn't have a life' she's old! Get a grip!

Anonymous wrote:Hey honey grow up! By the way...this is grow up police!

PP, please my I join the grow up police force? Most of the queries on this board can be answered by us - those who live in Adult World, where the Grow Up Police are on patrol.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of question asking is generally a sign of intelligence, or so said a study I read.

Sooooo maybe she's just really smart and you don't get it! Sorry!

+1

I don't agree with you. Those people asking "where did you buy ..." "How much did you pay..." "Why did you buy..." are generally envious who don't have a life. Smart and caring people ask different kind of questions. PERIOD

+1 intelligent and Caring people initiate conversations in a different way.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of question asking is generally a sign of intelligence, or so said a study I read.

Sooooo maybe she's just really smart and you don't get it! Sorry!

+1

I don't agree with you. Those people asking "where did you buy ..." "How much did you pay..." "Why did you buy..." are generally envious who don't have a life. Smart and caring people ask different kind of questions. PERIOD

Op here

First off, my responses are not only 1 word answers usually. Second it's not the questions, it the rapid fire way in which they're asked. She has usually has another question coming out of her mouth before I even finish answering. Also, a lot of times her questions are about other people and she's asking me instead of them

Anonymous wrote:A lot of question asking is generally a sign of intelligence, or so said a study I read.

Sooooo maybe she's just really smart and you don't get it! Sorry!

+1

^^^ Try

Anonymous wrote:A lot of question asking is generally a sign of intelligence, or so said a study I read.

Sooooo maybe she's just really smart and you don't get it! Sorry!

Nah, people who ask that many questions are being nosy. They need to learn to get a life and stop worrying about everyone else and their business.

OP, trying firing back questions to her about things you know make her uncomfortable and maybe she'll get the hint.