Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 10:59     Subject: Re:35 divorced mom...who do I date?
DiverDown wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
DiverDown wrote:You sound like you are willing to go without a physical relationship . Not everyone can endure that


I did it for years in my marriage. A few more years won't kill me.


I feel the opposite. Wasted years with no good sex in my marriage. I won't waste any more time now that I am divorced


The problem is I just don't know who to trust. Dating is so different than 20 years ago.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 10:58     Subject: Re:35 divorced mom...who do I date?
DiverDown wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
DiverDown wrote:You sound like you are willing to go without a physical relationship . Not everyone can endure that


I did it for years in my marriage. A few more years won't kill me.


I feel the opposite. Wasted years with no good sex in my marriage. I won't waste any more time now that I am divorced


The problem is I just don't know who to trust. Dating is so different than 20 years ago.
DiverDown
Post 08/27/2016 10:51     Subject: Re:35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:
DiverDown wrote:You sound like you are willing to go without a physical relationship . Not everyone can endure that


I did it for years in my marriage. A few more years won't kill me.


I feel the opposite. Wasted years with no good sex in my marriage. I won't waste any more time now that I am divorced
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 10:46     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Another man once your kids are over the age of 18 and in college
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 10:43     Subject: Re:35 divorced mom...who do I date?
DiverDown wrote:You sound like you are willing to go without a physical relationship . Not everyone can endure that


I did it for years in my marriage. A few more years won't kill me.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 10:38     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
you need a friend with benefits. seriously. who has time for dating drama when you have kids?
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 10:22     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:I'm 31. I've been a single mom for more than 5 years, and men my age want women who are available 24/7 for them but don't want to pay for dates or a babysitter.

As a result, I don't date. I'm also not interested in men who have children, but who can't be bothered to actually parent. (One guy took his kid to grandmas house every other weekend and his kid has a bedroom there and everything - I couldn't believe it)

I figure I'll have time to date after my kid leaves home, or is old enough to stay home alone. I don't want more kids myself, so I'm really not worried about my fertility.


OP wants to date though. Personally, I am happy that my mother urged me to date and find love again. Most of my single mom gfs are married/remarried to good guys. Waiting until ones 40s to date is depressing for some of us.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 09:04     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I got divorced, I would just have sex and not date. Why get involved with someone again.

But that's me.


How exactly does this work? You go on Tinder, post a pic and someone responds. You provide your home address, he comes over, you open the door and show him the way to the bedroom. Then you have sex, get dressed, and walk him back to the door?

I cannot fathom this.


Not everyone uses tindr. But you often do meet via other sites online, chat a bit and then sometimes meet up.

Since my divorce I've found that there are plenty of women in the 35-50 range who want someone to flirt with and to remind them of their attributes as a woman (not just as a mom). And they want a 1-2x per week a physical relationship (not one night stands). The problem is that they want it to be exclusive.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 09:02     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:A woman with a BMI undert 25 is considered skinny.
Between 25-29 is medium (size 8-12), as most adult women are size 14-16. So basically a woman has to be a size 6 or smaller to be dateable???


Huh? I don't think you've got your numbers right. I'm in the process of losing my pregnancy weight and at 5'9" at 166 I'm just under 25 bmi but I don't consider myself skinny and I'm definitely not size 6 yet.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 08:57     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:If I got divorced, I would just have sex and not date. Why get involved with someone again.

But that's me.


How exactly does this work? You go on Tinder, post a pic and someone responds. You provide your home address, he comes over, you open the door and show him the way to the bedroom. Then you have sex, get dressed, and walk him back to the door?

I cannot fathom this.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 08:54     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
If I got divorced, I would just have sex and not date. Why get involved with someone again.

But that's me.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 08:53     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
I'm 31. I've been a single mom for more than 5 years, and men my age want women who are available 24/7 for them but don't want to pay for dates or a babysitter.

As a result, I don't date. I'm also not interested in men who have children, but who can't be bothered to actually parent. (One guy took his kid to grandmas house every other weekend and his kid has a bedroom there and everything - I couldn't believe it)

I figure I'll have time to date after my kid leaves home, or is old enough to stay home alone. I don't want more kids myself, so I'm really not worried about my fertility.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 08:50     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would date a 35 yr old divorced mother of 2 if -- she was emotionally stable, she had built healthy boundaries with her X, she had a BMI <25, she didn't make me treat her like a helpless princess, she was open minded about my politics & life choices, and she still knew how to enjoy life! Don't give up!


I make $175K, own the house, can run the household, have very clear boundaries with the ex, and I'm willing to discuss politics. I have no idea what you mean by life choices. My BMI is under 25 but I don't want to date someone that cares about something like that.


+1


+2. Ditto, including the thin part. The "helpless princess" quip is a turn-off, too, because you obviously have a low opinion of women. I say this as someone who cleaned up after ADHD STBXDH (there are some acronyms for you!) and did almost all the family and house logistics for 21 years until he decided he wanted to follow his bliss instead of paying the kids' college tuition.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 08:48     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A woman with a BMI undert 25 is considered skinny.
Between 25-29 is medium (size 8-12), as most adult women are size 14-16. So basically a woman has to be a size 6 or smaller to be dateable???


Most adult women in their 30s are not size 14 and above .


They should be unless they are trash
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2016 08:46     Subject: 35 divorced mom...who do I date?
Anonymous wrote:A woman with a BMI undert 25 is considered skinny.
Between 25-29 is medium (size 8-12), as most adult women are size 14-16. So basically a woman has to be a size 6 or smaller to be dateable???


I'm a woman don't think this is an unreasonable desire in . I wouldn't date a man I wasn't attracted to. I also wouldn't date a man who earned less than I did. Many woman have their own requirements that aren't any worse than this man's weight preference.