Anonymous wrote:You don't work. How is this even a question? Good grief!

Yes, of course.

Anonymous wrote:Volunteering doesn't bring home income. The income that provides you shelter and food on the table for you and your kids. At the very least you should oversee the babysitting arrangements. Is there any reason why the nob-working 25/7/365 spouse cannot make the phone calls.This most be a D.C metro thing where sahm shouldn't do much work at home. This mindset is why divorced sahm struggle to adapt in the real world on their own. Smh!

I hope you are still around, PP. I am a new poster here, and a divorced mother who stayed at home for nearly a decade. It only took me a month to find a full-time job after my divorce. I have been working for nearly three years now, and I am pretty successful. I love to work - it's easier than staying at home, at least the way I did it.

Then again, I did EVERYTHING for my three kids, my house, and my husband during my marriage. When my awful marriage ended, I hardly noticed he was gone in terms of my workload.

OP, get off your ass and find a babysitter if you want to volunteer. You are giving everyone a bad name here.

You don't work. How is this even a question? Good grief!

He's stupid, we all agree.
But is it worth it to argue with him and risk finding out too late that he *hasn't* made the appointment?

My husband's like this too so I sympathize. There are times when I blow up and tell him off. It doesn't change a darn thing.

It just doesn't make a lot of sense to me for the person who will be out of town to be the contact person for the babysitter.

We have had needed sitters both when DH is on a work trip and I'm the point person at home, and when I'm traveling and he's the point person at home. Part of being the "point person" is dealing with sitters.

If he were going to a bar or social event, I would want him to find the sitter. But he is working. You are the parent responsible for the kids while your husband is working.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree about some Dad's being iffy on contact with babysitters. I never let my DD babysit after my own experiences fending off drunk Dads driving me home.

We have 2 daughters and my husband just out of respect for parents who might be anxious about it does not text nor drive any babysitters. His feeling is he as a dad probably wouldn't be comfortable with a grown man texting his teenage daughter or riding alone with her in a car at night, so he doesn't do it.

If you can't trust the parents of the children your daughter is sitting for, she shouldn't be sitting for them. Is it okay for a drunk or high mother to drive your daughter home?

My daughters don't babysit. My husband does not text nor drive the babysitters we use because he thinks it's something neither the babysitter nor the parents should have to worry about. Girls feel safer with women in a car alone at night. So I drive them home if they need a ride. And I'm never drunk or high... Though you might be...

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Anonymous wrote:I agree about some Dad's being iffy on contact with babysitters. I never let my DD babysit after my own experiences fending off drunk Dads driving me home.

We have 2 daughters and my husband just out of respect for parents who might be anxious about it does not text nor drive any babysitters. His feeling is he as a dad probably wouldn't be comfortable with a grown man texting his teenage daughter or riding alone with her in a car at night, so he doesn't do it.

If you can't trust the parents of the children your daughter is sitting for, she shouldn't be sitting for them. Is it okay for a drunk or high mother to drive your daughter home?

Another voice for YOU getting the sitter and his excuse is bullshit.

Anonymous wrote:I agree about some Dad's being iffy on contact with babysitters. I never let my DD babysit after my own experiences fending off drunk Dads driving me home.

We have 2 daughters and my husband just out of respect for parents who might be anxious about it does not text nor drive any babysitters. His feeling is he as a dad probably wouldn't be comfortable with a grown man texting his teenage daughter or riding alone with her in a car at night, so he doesn't do it.

Anonymous wrote:Either one. You share the kids, it is a shared responsibility. If he isn't good at it, just do it so you know it is taken care of.

Personally, I think the person who will be there and paying the sitter is the best person to do it. Having someone who won't be there arranging on your behalf is a pain all around, especially for the sitter.

This is the correct answer.

I agree about some Dad's being iffy on contact with babysitters. I never let my DD babysit after my own experiences fending off drunk Dads driving me home.

Anonymous wrote:You should, but I will say his reason is bullshit.

Agreed. Ha ha seems exactly like something my DH will say.
Yesterday he basically blamed his laziness on ME. Said

Just to CYA, I really think the Dads should have minimal contact with teenage female babysitters.

I agree that it is easier for the parent who will be handing off to the sitter to handle this. It just works better logistically.

My feelings have nothing to do with the importance of the two tasks. If op was off on a ladies weekend and her dh was working late I would feel the same.