Don't settle, OP. Don't date outside your type. Leave these slightly imperfect guys for the women who realize that dating someone who is kind and thoughtful trumps "model hot" any day. Because as you've seen, looks can fade.

I am almost 40 as are many of my friends. The women who focused too much on ending things with nice guys who dressed poorly are all still single. When I started dating my DH one of them even told me I could do better. Now all she talks about is what a wonderful husband/father he is and how she really wants that in her life.

Clothing and style can be changed. Personality can not be.

If you aren't attracted, you aren't attracted. That's ok. But if you have a pattern of rejecting men who are possibly great partners because they don't have "model looks" you are setting yourself up for loneliness.

OP, I think getting married is a waste of time, because they all have annoying traits.

However, now that I have been married to the same person for 5 years, it becomes obvious that all DH's have issues that will annoy the crap out of us. I look at guys that I turned down or wasn't interested in a decade or more ago and realize that I missed out on a lot of great guys.

Yes, you need that spark, but also a great life partner is so much more. We had a spark, and we have to fight to keep it.

Anonymous wrote: If little stuff like that annoys you, wait until you're married 5 years and you realize your husband has been wearing the same frumpy mismatched polo and pants and he's gained 20 pounds and he comes home one day and says "the doctor told me I'm color blind today!" which ends up explaining a lot.

i don't know why but i lol'd so hard

I give the OP for giving the guy a fair shake. If you want to read something that shows how shallow dating is in the DC area, look at Date Lab in The Washington Post Magazine.

As a guy, not everything is about putting out, and frankly, I don't know why that is what some of the guys on this thread focused on.

I'm so confused about your dislike of the Superman t-shirt, but I'm happily married to someone with a tattoo of Aquaman's trident so....

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Anonymous wrote:hopefully you at least put out something for wasting his time for four dates.

No shit. This is why I stick to the "put out by date three or I'm gone" rule. Too many fish in DC to waste time with broads who waste time.

My thought exactly.

5 dates with a dude you didn't even like is just stealing dinners.

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Anonymous wrote:Dad bod, glasses, and a Superman T-shirt? Would you say he was mild-mannered? A reporter by chance?

Haha, I was thinking the same thing.

Clark Kent did not have a dad bod, seeing as he was Superman.

I've given guys the "no chemistry, let's just be friends" speech after the 1st date many times. When you know, you know.

Honestly, I wouldn't let it go past 2 or 3 dates. Yes, personality is more important in the long run but there's got to be SOME physical chemistry.

Anonymous wrote:hopefully you at least put out something for wasting his time for four dates.

No shit. This is why I stick to the "put out by date three or I'm gone" rule. Too many fish in DC to waste time with broads who waste time.

hopefully you at least put out something for wasting his time for four dates.

No chemistry is a valid and logical reason to not date him. No argument there.


The other "complaints," though? Wow. I'm not sure what to say.

Dad bod. Maybe he's focused on other things than spending time at the gym. Maybe he's researching a cure for cancer, or he's been busy volunteering for Habitat for Humanity. Maybe he's spending his evenings tutoring kids at the local Boys & Girls Club rather than going to the gym. Or maybe he is just comfortable in his own skin.

[u]Superman T-shirt. Maybe he's quirky. Maybe he's comfortable being different and thus doesn't care about fitting in with the masses. Maybe he is a partial owner of DC Comics. :p

Glasses. Seriously? Glasses can be sexy! Even if the glasses aren't sexy, isn't it sexier than him squinting at you or not being able to drive due to not being able to see?

Physical attraction is paramount in any + all romantic relationships.

Otherwise how do you differentiate a lover from a friend??

Yet another entitled DC broad. How do they all end up in this forum?