Anonymous wrote:Update: Today, at practice, my DD's friend said "I think your binder is in our car." My DD went over to the car and found the binder and other supplies. Everything was out of the bag and sort of mixed in with the other crap on the floor of the car. The binder rings are bent because the kids have stepped on it. DD was pretty upset so she called me over to see. I'm pretty upset, too, because obviously the bag was in her car the whole time and this could have all been avoided. When the mom saw me coming, she looked stricken and hurried over. She said that the bag must have been pushed under the front seat, so she didn't see it. I kept waiting for her apologize and to offer to replace the binder, but she hasn't yet. I'm going to pick up a new one when we leave practice, but I'm done with her.

If you would terminate a friendship over a binder, I'd say your friend is better off without you. You really need to get a life.

YOU forgot the bag. Stop blaming the friend.

Anonymous wrote:Update: Today, at practice, my DD's friend said "I think your binder is in our car." My DD went over to the car and found the binder and other supplies. Everything was out of the bag and sort of mixed in with the other crap on the floor of the car. The binder rings are bent because the kids have stepped on it. DD was pretty upset so she called me over to see. I'm pretty upset, too, because obviously the bag was in her car the whole time and this could have all been avoided. When the mom saw me coming, she looked stricken and hurried over. She said that the bag must have been pushed under the front seat, so she didn't see it. I kept waiting for her apologize and to offer to replace the binder, but she hasn't yet. I'm going to pick up a new one when we leave practice, but I'm done with her.

What type of car was this? I can't imagine a bag wouldn't be visible in some way, and a binder is pretty big.

Update: Today, at practice, my DD's friend said "I think your binder is in our car." My DD went over to the car and found the binder and other supplies. Everything was out of the bag and sort of mixed in with the other crap on the floor of the car. The binder rings are bent because the kids have stepped on it. DD was pretty upset so she called me over to see. I'm pretty upset, too, because obviously the bag was in her car the whole time and this could have all been avoided. When the mom saw me coming, she looked stricken and hurried over. She said that the bag must have been pushed under the front seat, so she didn't see it. I kept waiting for her apologize and to offer to replace the binder, but she hasn't yet. I'm going to pick up a new one when we leave practice, but I'm done with her.

While I sympathize with your loss, I really dislike people like you. You have a situation where you made an error and didn't keep track of your possessions. You tried to backtrack, but cannot actually determine where you lost said item. But people like who find a way to blame someone else for your error and loss irritate me. You don't blame yourself for losing the item, but you blame your friend who drove you shopping for your own error. You said "There's no question that I put the bag in her car." Well, unless you actually searched her car, then I'd say there is a question whether you put it in the car. You say you made multiple stops. Maybe at one of the later stops, when you opened the door or pulled your purse out, the bag slid off the seat and out the door and you never looked at the ground when you got back in to see it fell on the ground. But people like you who blame others for their own losses and error are just bad friends.

Do your "friend" a favor. Drop her so that she doesn't have to put up with people like you who assume an antagonistic and negative attitude of someone else blaming them for your mistakes. You are not a good friend.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a distrusting, anal tight wad. I'd be thrilled if you wrecked our friendship over something so petty. Good riddance. In fact, I'd give you $15 to make the "wreck" stick for good.

I'm a single mom and my ex husband is 2 months behind in paying his child support so these school supplies do matter. But if you give me $15, I will never post about this again.

My ex hasn't paid child support in years. Use a credit card and charge it.

How is it good advice to ask someone to incur debt to replace something they already bought and might recover?

Well, if she can't find it and actually needs these items, this is an option. Or she can bitch and moan about it. Only one of those choices will he her the items she needs. Keep the receipt in case the original items turn up. Problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:It's $15. Let it go.

For some people, $15 is not replaceable. It's nice that you are in a position to "let it go," but a nicer thing would be to help OP out with that lost $15.

So her friend should reimburse OP for losing th bag?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a distrusting, anal tight wad. I'd be thrilled if you wrecked our friendship over something so petty. Good riddance. In fact, I'd give you $15 to make the "wreck" stick for good.

I'm a single mom and my ex husband is 2 months behind in paying his child support so these school supplies do matter. But if you give me $15, I will never post about this again.

Newsflash, DCUM: some of us have bigger problems than worrying about whether we can afford to live WoTR, and can somehow get by on our meager 500k salary.

Where is WoTR?

You lost the bag. It's not like she stole it. I would feel insulted if your tone suggested that I was somehow trying to take $15 of school supplies from you after I drove you around to run errands.

So many things could have happened.

Anonymous wrote:It's $15. Let it go.

For some people, $15 is not replaceable. It's nice that you are in a position to "let it go," but a nicer thing would be to help OP out with that lost $15.

Why do you shop for school supplies with a friend? Are you 15 years old?

Anonymous wrote:Just ask if you can come over and look in her car. Tell her you think you might know where it got wedged. Don't make this a hassle for her and don't act like she did something wrong because she did not.

This. But after you call the store. The sooner, the better, before it gets restocked.

It's $15. Let it go.

Anonymous wrote:Just ask if you can come over and look in her car. Tell her you think you might know where it got wedged. Don't make this a hassle for her and don't act like she did something wrong because she did not.

+1

Just ask if you can come over and look in her car. Tell her you think you might know where it got wedged. Don't make this a hassle for her and don't act like she did something wrong because she did not.