OP, just be happy that this is all you have to worry about. One of my high school students, who had glorious long, thick hair, decided to dye it bright purple. At conferences, her mother told me that she (the mom) cried when she saw it. The purple faded to a hideous matte plum, but the student claimed she intended to dye it pink over the summer.

Then there are the students with pierced lips/faces, especially in the twin "snake bite" style, which features twin studs above the mouth. And the girl who got a bright blue tattoo of a butterfly IN HER EAR; it is very visible because she has a pixie cut, and is going to look so bad when she is a middle aged mom.

If I were you, I would buy your daughter the best straighteners you can find and be very, very grateful.

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Anonymous wrote:She's 14 and going into 9th grade. Is this normal? I've told her many times how bad it is for her hair but she will not leave the house without straightening her hair.

Totally normal. And so what it is bad for her hair? Hair can be cut and then just grows back.

Not if it gets fried or starts breaking off at the scalp. Then you get a "Dennis the Menace" look as new hairs grow in and stick straight up.

So then you wear a hat for a while. and maybe learn not to straighten your hair every day.

I fried my hair more than once. I cut it and it grew back. Not once did it all break off at the scalp.

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Anonymous wrote:She's 14 and going into 9th grade. Is this normal? I've told her many times how bad it is for her hair but she will not leave the house without straightening her hair.

Totally normal. And so what it is bad for her hair? Hair can be cut and then just grows back.

Not if it gets fried or starts breaking off at the scalp. Then you get a "Dennis the Menace" look as new hairs grow in and stick straight up.

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Anonymous wrote:As someone with naturally curly hair, I am so sad that women feel compelled to make every kid look like Jennifer Aniston. The number of movies that start with Anne Hathaway "ugly" with frizzy hair until she gets a completely unsustainably, wildly expensive Brazilian blowout just make me cry.

What's wrong with curly hair?

As a curly haired person, even I fall for this. I love my curly hair... Until I get a blowout. We all know how beautifully curly hair blows out- so much volume and the perfect amount of curl at the ends. I will see myself and go oh, it's so pretty! Well it's an illusion. That's just not my hair and it's not sustainable to kill it daily pretending it is. So I enjoy it 2-3 times a year for the 3 days a blowout lasts and then go back to my curly hair. But the lure of luscious Pantene hair is real.

Ok whoa, beautiful curly-haired ladies. First, bottom PP, the lure of luscious Pantene hair may be real, but that is NOT her real hair in that ad...look how many strands of hair are in hair magazine ads, and try to follow one from head to end...impossible because it's not her hair--there are too many hairs per square inch. This is hair added to the model.

Remember Lucy Lawless in Xena, Warrior Princess? Google image search her. Pounds and pounds of Spanish hair added to her head.

Ok, so I'm a white woman with really straight hair; can't get it to hold a curl unless I dowse it with tons of spray or have a perm. I wish I had some curl because it softens a person's face. And even though my hair is shiny, if I get a blowout my straight hair is prettier than natuarally straight hair.

Well, I suppose we all want what we don't have. But back to the teenagers...

Does she exercise everyday and therefore need to wash it everyday? If not, tell her not to wash it so often then she won't have to straighten it all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:As someone with naturally curly hair, I am so sad that women feel compelled to make every kid look like Jennifer Aniston. The number of movies that start with Anne Hathaway "ugly" with frizzy hair until she gets a completely unsustainably, wildly expensive Brazilian blowout just make me cry.

What's wrong with curly hair?

As a curly haired person, even I fall for this. I love my curly hair... Until I get a blowout. We all know how beautifully curly hair blows out- so much volume and the perfect amount of curl at the ends. I will see myself and go oh, it's so pretty! Well it's an illusion. That's just not my hair and it's not sustainable to kill it daily pretending it is. So I enjoy it 2-3 times a year for the 3 days a blowout lasts and then go back to my curly hair. But the lure of luscious Pantene hair is real.

I actually hate how I look with my hair blown out, I have much less volume. My hair is very curly but also fine, so blown out it lies very close to my head and looks so weird, lol. It is a really pretty color though when it is straight. Somehow the color looks different, not sure why.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish my daughter would straighten her hair. She looks stunning with straight hair, instead she insists on going out with puffy, unruly hair that does not flatter her at all. If she would put it up in a pony tail or a french braid, she would look much better. She does it when she interns or works in an office during the summer.

I have offered to pay for Japanese straightening or for keratin treatment, but she has not taken the bait. She gets her hair styled and professionally straightened whenever we are attending a wedding or a big do and she wants to look good. So why would she not get it done? She is a hypochondriac and she has decided that all chemical treatments will make her hair fall out and damage her brain cells. She has also asked me to embrace her 'troll child" (her words) the way she is.

I am trying! I am trying!

In fairness to the mom who posted this, it is not uncommon to be dismayed by a fashion/style choice made by our kids (or a sibling, spouse, or dear friend for that matter.). Most of us want our kids to look their best because their appearance and grooming affects how the world responds to them. I think it's easy to bash this mom, but she is just vocalizing how she really feels, and a lot of us who care about our own appearance would feel the same way. Her daughter referring to herself as a troll child suggests there is a sense of humor and affection between them, and mom says she's trying to let it be. Let's give her a break and not attack her as some kind of emotional abuser.

Or maybe the kid can see how hung up her mom is on her appearance, and is rebelling against it. And mom says she is trying to get her kid to change.

Just make sure you are teaching her good hair practices and that she is using heat protectant and occasionally deep conditioning.

I straightened my curly hair everyday as well when I was younger; However, I didn't know about heat protectant. It didn't look damaged, but it didn't look its best either.

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Anonymous wrote:My goodness!

I woke up two hours before school started each day 9th- 12th grade to make my hair big. Really really big. Hot rollers & curling irons every day for four years, plus regular perms, occasional crimping wands, and a giant can of aquanet.

Her hair will be fine. She will outgrow it in a few years.

Let her be a normal.teenager.

A staple in the creation of big hair!!

OP, my mom used to iron her hair. With an old iron, as if it were clothes. Your DD's hair will survive.

My best friend and I used to do this in high school, in the late 80's (to iron out our perms). We were rebelling, when everyone else had the huge perms and hairsprayed bangs, by going with the stick straight Marcia Brady hair.

Anonymous wrote:As someone with naturally curly hair, I am so sad that women feel compelled to make every kid look like Jennifer Aniston. The number of movies that start with Anne Hathaway "ugly" with frizzy hair until she gets a completely unsustainably, wildly expensive Brazilian blowout just make me cry.

What's wrong with curly hair?

As a curly haired person, even I fall for this. I love my curly hair... Until I get a blowout. We all know how beautifully curly hair blows out- so much volume and the perfect amount of curl at the ends. I will see myself and go oh, it's so pretty! Well it's an illusion. That's just not my hair and it's not sustainable to kill it daily pretending it is. So I enjoy it 2-3 times a year for the 3 days a blowout lasts and then go back to my curly hair. But the lure of luscious Pantene hair is real.

This is one of those times that she's just going to have learn by experience.

Once her hair starts breaking at the ends or gets really dry and frizzy, she'll see the damage done to her hair. This is fine because it's hair and it will grow back and it's not like she's damaged her hair for life.

Anonymous wrote:As someone with naturally curly hair, I am so sad that women feel compelled to make every kid look like Jennifer Aniston. The number of movies that start with Anne Hathaway "ugly" with frizzy hair until she gets a completely unsustainably, wildly expensive Brazilian blowout just make me cry.

What's wrong with curly hair?

+1. I'm doing my part by rocking the curls every day, but it gets lonely out here sometimes. And then I learn on dcum that it's unprofessional. Wtfuckever.

Anonymous wrote:Pick your battles. I wouldn't pick that one.

Agree

Anonymous wrote:I wish my daughter would straighten her hair. She looks stunning with straight hair, instead she insists on going out with puffy, unruly hair that does not flatter her at all. If she would put it up in a pony tail or a french braid, she would look much better. She does it when she interns or works in an office during the summer.

I have offered to pay for Japanese straightening or for keratin treatment, but she has not taken the bait. She gets her hair styled and professionally straightened whenever we are attending a wedding or a big do and she wants to look good. So why would she not get it done? She is a hypochondriac and she has decided that all chemical treatments will make her hair fall out and damage her brain cells. She has also asked me to embrace her 'troll child" (her words) the way she is.

I am trying! I am trying!

In fairness to the mom who posted this, it is not uncommon to be dismayed by a fashion/style choice made by our kids (or a sibling, spouse, or dear friend for that matter.). Most of us want our kids to look their best because their appearance and grooming affects how the world responds to them. I think it's easy to bash this mom, but she is just vocalizing how she really feels, and a lot of us who care about our own appearance would feel the same way. Her daughter referring to herself as a troll child suggests there is a sense of humor and affection between them, and mom says she's trying to let it be. Let's give her a break and not attack her as some kind of emotional abuser.

Anonymous wrote:She's 14 and going into 9th grade. Is this normal? I've told her many times how bad it is for her hair but she will not leave the house without straightening her hair.

Totally normal. And so what it is bad for her hair? Hair can be cut and then just grows back.