Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 22:51     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
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Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


Birth was at 405pm and wedding was at 5


Well yeah then they were ridiculous.


Uh yeah, no. The idea that you would try to squeeze in a wedding after the birth of your child is ridiculous, no matter the timing. Unless maybe the person getting married was also your child! What does that even sound like? "We are so happy for our healthy baby! You good wife? Because I have an open bar calling my name. Peace."

This is from someone who timed their pregnancy around her sister;s wedding because I wasn't missing it for anything (and went when I was 36 weeks).



Well if the baby was born just after midnight, YES I would have attended my siblings wedding that evening at 5pm.
Family is that important to me.


Family is important to me, which is why it was important for my husband to be around for the first days after our child was born. Since, you know, our child and I are his family.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 22:47     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


Birth was at 405pm and wedding was at 5


Well yeah then they were ridiculous.


Uh yeah, no. The idea that you would try to squeeze in a wedding after the birth of your child is ridiculous, no matter the timing. Unless maybe the person getting married was also your child! What does that even sound like? "We are so happy for our healthy baby! You good wife? Because I have an open bar calling my name. Peace."

This is from someone who timed their pregnancy around her sister;s wedding because I wasn't missing it for anything (and went when I was 36 weeks).



Well if the baby was born just after midnight, YES I would have attended my siblings wedding that evening at 5pm.
Family is that important to me.


Why don't you read before you post? Baby was born after 4pm and wedding was at 5pm, three hours away. I don't care if OP's ILs are any different culture, religion, they all appear to have attitude of people from ASSgard! It is clear that they hate OP, she married their son, but she and her kid likely never be family to them.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 21:07     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


Birth was at 405pm and wedding was at 5


Well yeah then they were ridiculous.


Uh yeah, no. The idea that you would try to squeeze in a wedding after the birth of your child is ridiculous, no matter the timing. Unless maybe the person getting married was also your child! What does that even sound like? "We are so happy for our healthy baby! You good wife? Because I have an open bar calling my name. Peace."

This is from someone who timed their pregnancy around her sister;s wedding because I wasn't missing it for anything (and went when I was 36 weeks).



Well if the baby was born just after midnight, YES I would have attended my siblings wedding that evening at 5pm.
Family is that important to me.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 20:26     Subject: Re:SIL/BIL fit about wedding
A wedding is a big deal. To people outside of DCUM who see it as a once in a lifetime commitment and a joining of two families.


Ooooo nice dig implying I don't believe in the importance of marriage. I think MARRIAGE is a massively important deal. A wedding is not, a wedding is a day, a party, an event. Expecting everyone to make their lives revolve around your "special day" for months and months just so you don't lose any of the spotlight is beyond ridiculous.


I'm sorry you don't come from a supportive family that you'd want around you to celebrate your milestones and the commitment you are making. Weddings and marriages have been celebrated with family and community for hundreds of years. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have that special moment honored with friends and family.
Don't take your anger out on others because they have loving families and you don't.


NP here - the SIL/BIL did have family and friends present to share their special moment! But, another nice dig! You're going to make DCUM-worthy MIL someday! Or, maybe you're already a MIL I've read about (and not in a good way).
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 17:10     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Let's simplify this:

Childbirth > wedding

Demanding that a couple somehow control their TTC to fit around a wedding = insanity

Life happens

Deal with it
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 16:48     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


Birth was at 405pm and wedding was at 5


Well yeah then they were ridiculous.


Uh yeah, no. The idea that you would try to squeeze in a wedding after the birth of your child is ridiculous, no matter the timing. Unless maybe the person getting married was also your child! What does that even sound like? "We are so happy for our healthy baby! You good wife? Because I have an open bar calling my name. Peace."

This is from someone who timed their pregnancy around her sister;s wedding because I wasn't missing it for anything (and went when I was 36 weeks).

Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 13:39     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
There must be more to this? Is this the first grandchild? Is DH's family (and SIL) a different religion or ethnicity than OP? Could this be a reason they let SIL get away with this behavior and aren't so warm to the baby? (I've unfortunately seen situations like that before. )
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 11:19     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SIL shouldn't have planned her wedding so close to your due date!


The wedding was planned first!!!L


Who gives a rats @ss? It's a wedding, it's NOT that big of a deal to anyone except the bride and groom. The world doesn't revolve around your dumb freakin wedding, people are not obligated in any way shape or form to stop living their lives just to preserve the majesty of "your special day".



The same could be said for having a baby. It's not a big deal , you've seen one you've seen them all and other than the parents no one cares that much.


You are right, genius. It's a big deal for the parents, which is why they didn't make it to the wedding.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 10:52     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SIL shouldn't have planned her wedding so close to your due date!


The wedding was planned first!!!L


Who gives a rats @ss? It's a wedding, it's NOT that big of a deal to anyone except the bride and groom. The world doesn't revolve around your dumb freakin wedding, people are not obligated in any way shape or form to stop living their lives just to preserve the majesty of "your special day".


A wedding is a big deal. To people outside of DCUM who see it as a once in a lifetime commitment and a joining of two families.


Ooooo nice dig implying I don't believe in the importance of marriage. I think MARRIAGE is a massively important deal. A wedding is not, a wedding is a day, a party, an event. Expecting everyone to make their lives revolve around your "special day" for months and months just so you don't lose any of the spotlight is beyond ridiculous.


I'm sorry you don't come from a supportive family that you'd want around you to celebrate your milestones and the commitment you are making. Weddings and marriages have been celebrated with family and community for hundreds of years. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have that special moment honored with friends and family.
Don't take your anger out on others because they have loving families and you don't.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 10:42     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SIL shouldn't have planned her wedding so close to your due date!


The wedding was planned first!!!L


Who gives a rats @ss? It's a wedding, it's NOT that big of a deal to anyone except the bride and groom. The world doesn't revolve around your dumb freakin wedding, people are not obligated in any way shape or form to stop living their lives just to preserve the majesty of "your special day".


A wedding is a big deal. To people outside of DCUM who see it as a once in a lifetime commitment and a joining of two families.


Ooooo nice dig implying I don't believe in the importance of marriage. I think MARRIAGE is a massively important deal. A wedding is not, a wedding is a day, a party, an event. Expecting everyone to make their lives revolve around your "special day" for months and months just so you don't lose any of the spotlight is beyond ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 10:41     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SIL shouldn't have planned her wedding so close to your due date!


The wedding was planned first!!!L


Who gives a rats @ss? It's a wedding, it's NOT that big of a deal to anyone except the bride and groom. The world doesn't revolve around your dumb freakin wedding, people are not obligated in any way shape or form to stop living their lives just to preserve the majesty of "your special day".



The same could be said for having a baby. It's not a big deal , you've seen one you've seen them all and other than the parents no one cares that much.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 10:41     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where did OP say it took a year of TTC?


That's a moot point. It doesn't matter if op had been trying for ten years or one month. You can't plan a pregnancy around a wedding. Plenty of people get pregnant by accident and there are also tons of weddings to attend in your 20s/30s. If you avoided getting pregnant so you wouldn't miss a wedding then you'd probably never be able to have children.



I did plan my pregnancy around BILs wedding. I would only do that for close family.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 10:39     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SIL shouldn't have planned her wedding so close to your due date!


The wedding was planned first!!!L


Who gives a rats @ss? It's a wedding, it's NOT that big of a deal to anyone except the bride and groom. The world doesn't revolve around your dumb freakin wedding, people are not obligated in any way shape or form to stop living their lives just to preserve the majesty of "your special day".


A wedding is a big deal. To people outside of DCUM who see it as a once in a lifetime commitment and a joining of two families.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 10:10     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:Where did OP say it took a year of TTC?


Her post at 19:32 (she included her response in the quoted text so it kind of got buried).
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2016 10:08     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:Where did OP say it took a year of TTC?


That's a moot point. It doesn't matter if op had been trying for ten years or one month. You can't plan a pregnancy around a wedding. Plenty of people get pregnant by accident and there are also tons of weddings to attend in your 20s/30s. If you avoided getting pregnant so you wouldn't miss a wedding then you'd probably never be able to have children.