I dont understand the people not interested in reporting this to the other parent/guardian involved. What is the deal? Why not tell them so they can deal with their kid over there - or not? I understand some feel like it is not their business but really you are making a decision for them in a sense by not telling them anything. You are making the decision that they cant parent on this issue since they have no knowledge of what happened.
And to say this kid sounds like trouble based on this one thing? That is a bit over the top to me. You all did nothing questionable at this age? Allow the parent to parent.

Read your child this book. https://www.amazon.com/Bargain-Frances-Can-Read-Level/dp/006444001X

Or you could talk to the girl yourself. Takes a village

Normal kid stuff, I would stay out of it except maybe to talk to your own kid and use this as a lesson.

I would absolutely mention it. Your kids learned a lesson but the other girl was old enough to know better.

I would be mad at my oldest. She would have to repay the youngest. I would not allow to play with the other child unsupervised. The other child sounds like trouble and your child has already said that she can't stand up to her friend.

Anonymous wrote:I am so surprised that people think you should not mention this to the grandmother. This makes no sense to me. I am living next to a grandmother raising a grandchild and I don't know the circumstances about their girl's actual parents but if this happened I would feel fine mentioning it to her. She is trying to raise her grandchild well and we all know how hard that can get at times. I don't think their history with their kid has any bearing here in terms of what you do next. Tell the grandparents briefly what happened and tell them it isn't about the money but just letting them know and maybe that you are having a talk with both your kids about it. Then be done with it. They can do what they want with that info. Something or nothing - that is where the individual parenting choices come in - if she feels this is low priority based on other issues they have with this girl, that's their call. But to not give the information about what happened is silly to me.

I would mention it.

Think like a school. They would inform both sets of parents regardless of history. Then each parent would do as they see fit regarding next steps. Inform the other parent or guardian and move on.

I am so surprised that people think you should not mention this to the grandmother. This makes no sense to me. I am living next to a grandmother raising a grandchild and I don't know the circumstances about their girl's actual parents but if this happened I would feel fine mentioning it to her. She is trying to raise her grandchild well and we all know how hard that can get at times. I don't think their history with their kid has any bearing here in terms of what you do next. Tell the grandparents briefly what happened and tell them it isn't about the money but just letting them know and maybe that you are having a talk with both your kids about it. Then be done with it. They can do what they want with that info. Something or nothing - that is where the individual parenting choices come in - if she feels this is low priority based on other issues they have with this girl, that's their call. But to not give the information about what happened is silly to me.

Normal kid behavior on both sides. You are pathologizing it because of the kid's background. Educate your child and move on.

I would say something. These two aren't peers...the one taking advantage is three years older.

I think this is a lesson you need to address with your own DC. It wasn't very nice of the kid to take advantage of your child especially since she was the guest but that's not really the main issue that should concern you. Please focus on your own child.

My own child has made a number of crappy deals with older kids and I told him so. But I didn't get involved and you an bet DC didn't make those kinds of deals again.

Anonymous wrote:True story, I was the little "entrepreneur" when I was a kid. My friend left some Barbie clothes at my house one time, and I really loved them, but I didn't want to steal them. So the next time she came over, I gave them back to her and told her I wanted to trade. Did I have anything I wanted? And I was SO surprised that she did! But I don't remember what it was that she wanted.

Now that I'm seeing this thread, I hope I didn't cheat her!!

What?

Anonymous wrote:Talk to your kids but after that just let it go. I am sure the grandma has a lot on her plate...

This.

Talk to your own kids.

Anonymous wrote:OP here- sorry I wasn't more explicit about the walkie talkie. It is our family's toy (belongs to my kids). She made him pay for the privilege of playing with his toy that she was using.

LOL, I am the PP who said that most people had a little entrepreneur friend.

Ok, so your son is naive as hell. He paid someone for his OWN walkie talkie. SMH, this sounds like just the type of thing my kids would do, too. That being said - your issue is STILL with your children. I agree with the PP that your son needs to go and get his money back. I would give the girl a chance, and THEN talk to Grandma.