OP here. Thank you for all your hugs and support. After inquiring more, we see that the camp was just TOO large and factory-like. My kid enjoyed the class activities and was making friends but he couldn't deal with the rules around lining up for lunch and other "home room" type activities. He was frustrated, acted out and subsequently asked to leave. I learned a valuable lesson - structure is good but too much is not. And size matters.

Anonymous wrote:NP here--my kid did not get kicked out of camp but we had to pull him out after the first week because he was really unhappy. It is comforting to read all these other stories because I feel like otherwise all I am hearing is about how happy everybody's kids are at camp. (Of course that is the FB effect--nobody writes a post to say "My kid cries every day at camp drop-off!"). But the camp experience does make me more anxious about the upcoming school year and how he will deal with a new teacher and classmates. Ugh!

+1. And stay off of Facebook...or at least hide the posters who constantly boast about their family if it bothers you.

NP here--my kid did not get kicked out of camp but we had to pull him out after the first week because he was really unhappy. It is comforting to read all these other stories because I feel like otherwise all I am hearing is about how happy everybody's kids are at camp. (Of course that is the FB effect--nobody writes a post to say "My kid cries every day at camp drop-off!"). But the camp experience does make me more anxious about the upcoming school year and how he will deal with a new teacher and classmates. Ugh!

Mine has been kicked out a music class, and I took it very personally. Especially after hearing the instructor harp on about how great she was at working with children on the spectrum. Ugh. It's so hard to see other kids thriving while yours is miserable and you know how much they really want to be there, but just need someone to work with them. Lots of hugs, wine, and good wishes your way.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I wish I knew you so you could come over for some wine. I could tell you all about how my dd was kicked out of social skills camp for...having poor social skills. True story!

Ha! My kid, ASD/ADHD, got kicked out of social skills class even before attending. It was Ivymount's Unstuck and On Target program and he was accepted after the required play date (received an acceptance letter in writing) then they must have had second thoughts bc they made us come in again "to see what kind of supports he'll need" and rescinded their acceptance!

This was in second grade. Now he is a rising 4th grader and attends mainstream camps without supports in his hobby where he excels and is rated among the tops kids in the entire USA. So take that Ivymount!

Wow, that's so unprofessional of them.
Glad you're telling this story.

Re-telling it. PP, be glad you don't really need to spend the money on social skills group if your kid can cut it at mainstream camps.

I live in fear of my ADHD child getting kicked out of his mainstream private school. He had one really rough year where he was almost kicked out, but has since done mostly better. Camps actually haven't been a problem so far, I think they are more used to somewhat loud and annoying children and don't seem to expect them to stay in their seat all the time and not talk. He goes to TIC camp, home of ADHD children, and low-key sports camps.

I'm a PP (I pulled my son before he was officially asked to leave camp) and I hate to say it but it is such a comfort to know I'm not the only one who has that first day/week dread waiting for the call to come. I'm sorry that others feel that way too and have had those experiences but it is also so good to realize it's not just me.

I hope all of us can find camps that are a better fit next year!

OP- I'm so sorry its probably frustrating on both of you! Did the staff give you any specific examples to what happened so that you guys can help address them? Maybe then it won't be a full set back but can be used to help continue the progress of his improvement! Hang in there !!

I'm sorry, OP. I do have to admit that this thread has been such relief to me. Sometimes it feels like my kid must be the only one getting kicked out of places.

So sorry OP! I know what it's like to spend hours going over all the camp options, selecting one that seems like a great fit only to find it no where near what you thought. It's frustrating!

Keep your head up and try again. You'll find something that fits.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I wish I knew you so you could come over for some wine. I could tell you all about how my dd was kicked out of social skills camp for...having poor social skills. True story!

Ha! My kid, ASD/ADHD, got kicked out of social skills class even before attending. It was Ivymount's Unstuck and On Target program and he was accepted after the required play date (received an acceptance letter in writing) then they must have had second thoughts bc they made us come in again "to see what kind of supports he'll need" and rescinded their acceptance!

This was in second grade. Now he is a rising 4th grader and attends mainstream camps without supports in his hobby where he excels and is rated among the tops kids in the entire USA. So take that Ivymount!

That is ridiculous. I thought Ivymount's mission was to help kids like yours.

Not pp but one of the reasons Ivymount is so "successful" and can therefore charge so much is that they cherry pick their students and screen out the most difficult. My friend's ds (very smart but with difficult behaviors) was approved for private placement from Fairfax and Ivymount said his behavior was too difficult.

PP whose kid got "unaccepted" by Ivymount Outreach. There is a difference between finding students who will be a good "fit" into a school's program and generally treating applicants like "crap". I can't believe they made us come in a second time under the pretense of providing support and then rescinded their offer. What kind of school does that?!?

Stupid and unprofessional.

Anyway, it turned out for the best. DS attends specialized camps for his hobby with certified trainers and competes all over the country and even internationally in about a month. Attended camp over spring break too and I have not heard one complaint. His coaches at the camps like him a lot, think he is very talented and a great kid

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I wish I knew you so you could come over for some wine. I could tell you all about how my dd was kicked out of social skills camp for...having poor social skills. True story!

Ha! My kid, ASD/ADHD, got kicked out of social skills class even before attending. It was Ivymount's Unstuck and On Target program and he was accepted after the required play date (received an acceptance letter in writing) then they must have had second thoughts bc they made us come in again "to see what kind of supports he'll need" and rescinded their acceptance!

This was in second grade. Now he is a rising 4th grader and attends mainstream camps without supports in his hobby where he excels and is rated among the tops kids in the entire USA. So take that Ivymount!

That is ridiculous. I thought Ivymount's mission was to help kids like yours.

Not pp but one of the reasons Ivymount is so "successful" and can therefore charge so much is that they cherry pick their students and screen out the most difficult. My friend's ds (very smart but with difficult behaviors) was approved for private placement from Fairfax and Ivymount said his behavior was too difficult.

Anonymous wrote:Three days into summer camp my tween DS with poor social skills and some defiance issues just got kicked out. They kindly offered full refund. I know he's a hard kid but we were seeing improvement. Successful at mainstream public. Sad and frustrated.

I am sorry. Camp counselors are not as equipped to deal as much as teachers are.

My ADHD DC got kicked out of summer camp last year. Didn't even make it to lunch.

We are doing much better this year but I spent the first three days dreading the phone call.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I wish I knew you so you could come over for some wine. I could tell you all about how my dd was kicked out of social skills camp for...having poor social skills. True story!

Ha! My kid, ASD/ADHD, got kicked out of social skills class even before attending. It was Ivymount's Unstuck and On Target program and he was accepted after the required play date (received an acceptance letter in writing) then they must have had second thoughts bc they made us come in again "to see what kind of supports he'll need" and rescinded their acceptance!

This was in second grade. Now he is a rising 4th grader and attends mainstream camps without supports in his hobby where he excels and is rated among the tops kids in the entire USA. So take that Ivymount!

Wow, that's so unprofessional of them.
Glad you're telling this story.