Maybe he's gay and trying to persuade himself that he's really "just" bi?

So many threads here giving people a hard time for taking things slow.

Women who don't put out by the third date are "frigid bitches," or if they are too quick, they are "sluts." Men who take it slow are "probably gay." If they are more aggressive, then that are "rapey."

You are damned if they do and damned if they don't.

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Anonymous wrote:He could be a porn addict. It destroys sex drive, and if he doesn't think he can get it up for you, he won't try.

Why would a person who watches porn not be able to get it up? You must keep your teeth shut when you kiss so you don't get pregnant.

I'm curious if there really are several DCUM posters who think everything is about porn addiction, or just one who brings it up in every thread.

^*with you 100%.

People go to bed on the second date and then start threads like "why hasn't he called" or "how long to wait until I know he's not interested?"

Strangers on the internet don't have the answers. You could find the answers by getting the to know someone.

The best sex I have ever had (and am still having two years later) is with a man I got to know really well before sleeping with. By the time we go to it I was comfortable and so was he and that went a long way to making that first time really memorable.

I find it puzzling that people assume that those who like to wait have low sex drives. I actually do not have a low sex drive but I prefer to wait and have sex with people who have vested in me emotionally and otherwise.

In any case, OP figured out her situation and is all is well in her world. Good luck.

I had trouble with nerves when I was younger. Couldn't get it up when first getting naked with ladies. Didn't stop me from trying.

Does he have a lot of girlfriends....that's a sign he is gay because I saw it on sex in the city.

Anonymous wrote:He could be a porn addict. It destroys sex drive, and if he doesn't think he can get it up for you, he won't try.

Why would a person who watches porn not be able to get it up? You must keep your teeth shut when you kiss so you don't get pregnant.

He could be a porn addict. It destroys sex drive, and if he doesn't think he can get it up for you, he won't try.

Maybe he's small and wants you to be aware of his many other great qualities before dropping trow.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he does not have a gf or wife? I am single and have had similar dating situations. It seems some guys think kissing and groping are not cheating.

My thought as well.

My experience as well.

My now-fiancé and I went a lot longer than 5 dates before getting to oral sex or intercourse. Nothing is wrong with his equipment or libido. We've been very active (mostly 4-5 times a week) since then (for years) and I'm responsible for the two short dry spells we've had (medication). In all honesty, the months of unrelenting horniness and making out like teens was refreshing after dating guys who thought I was a b*tch for not spreading my legs on date 3. We also got to know each other really well and there wasn't any awkwardness afterwards or worry about if/when to contact post-first time.

Geez, this thread.

OP is not a slut for sending a text to her boyfriend.

This guy is not gay or repressed because he hasn't made a move yet.

OP, just remove his dick from his pants next time, tell him you're still going to be into him after this, and put it where you want it to go.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you got caught in the rain and slept over, were you drinking/drunk? Maybe he knows not to make a move on drunk women.

OP here. We went drunk but we both had two glasses of wine. I did hear back from him. He called and told me he was taking it slow because he's really into me. He didn't want to mess things up by making a move and me thinking he just wanted sex. He thought it was hot that I texted him so bluntly. Now he knows he has the green light to make a move!

OP, I was the same way with a woman I met late 20s. First person I was attracted to in a long time and cautious about making a move. Believe it or not, maybe he thinks you are above the fray.

Snort! Oh, yeah, that's our OP!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you got caught in the rain and slept over, were you drinking/drunk? Maybe he knows not to make a move on drunk women.

OP here. We went drunk but we both had two glasses of wine. I did hear back from him. He called and told me he was taking it slow because he's really into me. He didn't want to mess things up by making a move and me thinking he just wanted sex. He thought it was hot that I texted him so bluntly. Now he knows he has the green light to make a move!

OP, I was the same way with a woman I met late 20s. First person I was attracted to in a long time and cautious about making a move. Believe it or not, maybe he thinks you are above the fray.