Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 14:59     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:it will be hard for a 40s, divorced mom, with kids to find a guy who will want marriage unless he too is divorced and older. Eligible bachelors in their 30s and early 40s wouldn't need that additional baggage.


So I guess I should give up on dating then?


OP, how old is your child?

Yes, most likely you should give up on dating until s/he is 18 and out of the house. Your kid, whose intact home was ripped apart by your divorce, needs you.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 14:55     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
OP, my suggestions:
- take golf lessons
- join a hiking club
- attend a professional group

In an area of millions of people, it is not possible that there is nobody out there for you.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 14:21     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does this really make you undateable? I've met different guys single, divorce, older, younger, kids, no kids, but for some reason they're not looking for someone that's been divorced and has a child. Anyone else have this issue? It's kind of frustrating and depressing to me!


Feh OP, enough with the entitled attitude!

Just because the guys you met weren't interest in you doesn't generally apply to everyone similar to you.

Boo hoo, poor 40 year old divorcee with kids! Why won't anyone date me?

Maybe it's because you're trying to date guys out of your league.

Have you tried dating guys 10 - 15 years older than yourself?

"No that's TOO OLD for me." Well-that's who you have to aim for and you better get used to it.

Guys in their 40's if they have anything on the ball can date women 10 -15 years younger than they are. Can you compete with women in their late 20's to late 30's?

"But waaahhh that's not fair!!!! Why should a 40 year old man get to ignore the 40 year old divorced with kids women????"

It's perfectly fair OP. You just need to adjust your bad attitude.


Where was the entitled attitude? Did you even read the post you quoted?
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 14:16     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does this really make you undateable? I've met different guys single, divorce, older, younger, kids, no kids, but for some reason they're not looking for someone that's been divorced and has a child. Anyone else have this issue? It's kind of frustrating and depressing to me!


Feh OP, enough with the entitled attitude!

Just because the guys you met weren't interest in you doesn't generally apply to everyone similar to you.

Boo hoo, poor 40 year old divorcee with kids! Why won't anyone date me?

Maybe it's because you're trying to date guys out of your league.

Have you tried dating guys 10 - 15 years older than yourself?

"No that's TOO OLD for me." Well-that's who you have to aim for and you better get used to it.

Guys in their 40's if they have anything on the ball can date women 10 -15 years younger than they are. Can you compete with women in their late 20's to late 30's?

"But waaahhh that's not fair!!!! Why should a 40 year old man get to ignore the 40 year old divorced with kids women????"

It's perfectly fair OP. You just need to adjust your bad attitude.


She said she tried dating older guys you dumb asshole
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 14:14     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
I've noticed that just as there are guys who think they are entitled to sex, there are women who think they are entitled to a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 14:03     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
I am an American man living in Eastern Europe, I just attended an event at the U.S. Embassy wad was simply shocked by the schlubbiness of the American women when compared to the stylishly put together East European women. It was really sad. Not only had these women let themselves go physically, they were poorly dressed, terrible hair and little to no make up. It's as if they lost their pride.

So, yes OP you really do need to keep up your looks to attract a man.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:42     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So, are you hot?


I probably was in my younger years. My ex told me I lost my looks that's why he cheated.


OP, he did not cheat because you lost your looks. He cheated because he is an asshole. I am positive that you are still beautiful. Fuck him. Keep getting out there. You will meet someone great.


He may be an asshole but that doesn't mean she didn't lose her looks, too.

Assholes can be brutally truthful.


This may be true. OP, you have to take care of yourself and make looking and feeling good a priority. It doesn't have to be priority #1 but you need to pay attention. I have no idea what you look like so you may look perfectly great and your ex is indeed an asshole. It's also possible that you became one of those women who threw themselves into child rearing and didn't pay any attention to herself. Stay in shape. Wear clothes that fit you well. Have a hobby or a passion that belongs to you and you alone--not necessarily your child. Confidence and self-love will make you very attractive.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:36     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So, are you hot?


I probably was in my younger years. My ex told me I lost my looks that's why he cheated.


OP, he did not cheat because you lost your looks. He cheated because he is an asshole. I am positive that you are still beautiful. Fuck him. Keep getting out there. You will meet someone great.


He may be an asshole but that doesn't mean she didn't lose her looks, too.

Assholes can be brutally truthful.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:34     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced Mom age 42 with two children. I was going out with what I thought was a wonderful man. He was divorced with a teen daughter. He had full custody. My problem was that he was 100 percentage involved with his own daughter that I felt I and my children were not a priority.


See? Typical entitled divorced 40's mom attitude. Ladies, you're your own worst enemy.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:33     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:Does this really make you undateable? I've met different guys single, divorce, older, younger, kids, no kids, but for some reason they're not looking for someone that's been divorced and has a child. Anyone else have this issue? It's kind of frustrating and depressing to me!


Feh OP, enough with the entitled attitude!

Just because the guys you met weren't interest in you doesn't generally apply to everyone similar to you.

Boo hoo, poor 40 year old divorcee with kids! Why won't anyone date me?

Maybe it's because you're trying to date guys out of your league.

Have you tried dating guys 10 - 15 years older than yourself?

"No that's TOO OLD for me." Well-that's who you have to aim for and you better get used to it.

Guys in their 40's if they have anything on the ball can date women 10 -15 years younger than they are. Can you compete with women in their late 20's to late 30's?

"But waaahhh that's not fair!!!! Why should a 40 year old man get to ignore the 40 year old divorced with kids women????"

It's perfectly fair OP. You just need to adjust your bad attitude.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:23     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
anyone watching Single Dad Seeking?
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:14     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced Mom age 42 with two children. I was going out with what I thought was a wonderful man. He was divorced with a teen daughter. He had full custody. My problem was that he was 100 percentage involved with his own daughter that I felt I and my children were not a priority.


Sorry it didn't work out but I think his priorities are in the right place at the moment.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:13     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
I am a divorced Mom age 42 with two children. I was going out with what I thought was a wonderful man. He was divorced with a teen daughter. He had full custody. My problem was that he was 100 percentage involved with his own daughter that I felt I and my children were not a priority.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 13:01     Subject: Re:Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm 35, divorced (with 50/50 custody) and in a long term relationship with a younger man (32), never married, no kids. Definitely possible, but certainly more challenging than if you didn't have kids.


Does he want to get married and have kids? Do you want to get married and have more kids?


Yes, he wants to get married, and is open to children if I wanted more, but I don't want any more so that's not an issue for us. He's great with my son, which is very important to me.



You never know!?
Sounds like you found a good one! I would love to have one more one day, but I'm pushing 40 so I think that ship has sailed for me.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2016 12:54     Subject: Re:Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm 35, divorced (with 50/50 custody) and in a long term relationship with a younger man (32), never married, no kids. Definitely possible, but certainly more challenging than if you didn't have kids.


Does he want to get married and have kids? Do you want to get married and have more kids?


Yes, he wants to get married, and is open to children if I wanted more, but I don't want any more so that's not an issue for us. He's great with my son, which is very important to me.



Sounds like you found a good one! I would love to have one more one day, but I'm pushing 40 so I think that ship has sailed for me.