Anonymous
05/26/2016 18:34
Subject: Newly admitted addict-leave now or wait
She should leave now, so the addiction people can support him.
Anonymous
05/26/2016 18:12
Subject: Newly admitted addict-leave now or wait
Anonymous wrote:She should get her butt to an Al Anon meeting. She will learn that she isn't responsible for his addiction. They will help walk her through leaving him and guide her through taking care of her needs and her child's need and then working on still remaining supportive to her STBX.
She should speak to a lawyer so that she can protect her own finances and the assets. Her DH is likely to spend down everything he can if he gets deeper into his addiction. His bad behavior as a husband is probably directly related to his addiction as well. I say this as a recovering addict myself.
I wish them both good luck.
I must have gone to different Al Anon meetings than those referenced above. Yeah, they told me it was not my fault, but I still must work the 12 steps myself --steps 4 & 6 --about what was wrong with me first. As for helping me leave and guiding me through taking care of my needs, these topics never came up.
I know 12 step meetings differ in tone and content. The many Al Anon meetings I went to made sure that as soon as I cleaned up my act, I would be better, but they meetings were only about the steps and not the real world with an addict.
Anonymous
05/25/2016 16:30
Subject: Newly admitted addict-leave now or wait
Can he move back with his parents while he does therapy and outpatient treatment? That gives a break for her to see what a separation might be like.
ladyjofc8
05/25/2016 16:04
Subject: Re:Newly admitted addict-leave now or wait
Wow, this is a pretty complicated situation and I think counseling from professional sources are in order; she can get free counseling from a number of local sources like speaking to crisis centers for drug, family or other support. I’d suggest she contact them for further assistance before making any drastic decisions. You didn’t mention any abuse, but if she should find herself or her child not feeling safe, she should also consider staying at least temporarily with relatives or friends while getting counseling.
Anonymous
05/22/2016 13:14
Subject: Newly admitted addict-leave now or wait
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Leave now. There's no coming back from opioid addiction
I've been clean for 23 years. I'll keep that in mind, though.
. No hope for you then. I hope that you didn't subject your kids to living in the same house with you
I wouldn't get involved with an addict, even 23 years later.
Anonymous
05/21/2016 13:15
Subject: Newly admitted addict-leave now or wait
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Leave now. There's no coming back from opioid addiction
I've been clean for 23 years. I'll keep that in mind, though.
. No hope for you then. I hope that you didn't subject your kids to living in the same house with you