Anonymous wrote:my dd is in k at gds. today she asked me whether she should marry a man or a woman. She said her classmate has two dads so she thinks she can also marry a woman. I am not against same sex marriage, but gds taught prek/k about same sex marriage. Do you think it is too much or am I overreacted?

Anonymous wrote:You're overreacting. She's simply learning about the world around her. Please don't freak out and pull her away. This is exactly how prejudice is learned.

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Anonymous wrote:One of two moms here, with kids in PK. I can't exactly teach my kids to pretend one of their parents don't exist, so their friends know they have two moms. GDS may have had nothing to do with it. And FWIW, I assure you that no one decided a sexual orientation based on those of their friends' parents. You have a 97% chance that she'll marry a boy, so I wouldn't worry too much.

Best to your family.

What is important more than anything is that they are loved. Who cares if it's 2 moms or 2 dads? Who cares if they're divorced and a single mother or father?
You'll find same sex couples everywhere - Potomac, Sidwell etc. It's not GDS, it's reality and there's absolutely nothing wrong.

Actually, some of us think there is.

And you are on the wrong side of history. But seriously, if your young (ages 4-6) child had a friend with 2 moms or 2 dads and had a question about it, how would you respond?

I've always loved this line. As if this is how we should base moral decisions. I'm sure in 1938 Germany, people were telling non-Nazis that they were "on the wrong side of history" as well.

But since you brought up a more serious question....

My first response is to do or say nothing. When DD was 4, she really didn't even notice this difference about one of her friends/ classmates. She played at the child's house and "Miss X" or "Miss Y" were always around but frankly, I don't think she caught the difference between most other houses where, say, a mom and nanny were also home all the time. She's a little older now and the friendship with that particular child has faded somewhat because of a move, so we're really not in as much contact. With my older kids, it has only come up briefly. I have said – briefly, without a lot of fanfare -- that yes, there are families that are constructed in this way (two moms/ two dads) and that I personally do not approve of it, but that the people are lovely and should be treated as such. So far, that's been the extent of it.

While I do not agree with your position against same sex couples and marriages, I do respect your opinion and think others should as well. I fear if we don't start respecting each others opinions on social issues that we will only see more of a divided nation.

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"I've always loved this line. As if this is how we should base moral decisions. I'm sure in 1938 Germany, people were telling non-Nazis that they were "on the wrong side of history" as well.

"But since you brought up a more serious question....

"My first response is to do or say nothing. When DD was 4, she really didn't even notice this difference about one of her friends/ classmates. She played at the child's house and "Miss X" or "Miss Y" were always around but frankly, I don't think she caught the difference between most other houses where, say, a mom and nanny were also home all the time. She's a little older now and the friendship with that particular child has faded somewhat because of a move, so we're really not in as much contact. With my older kids, it has only come up briefly. I have said – briefly, without a lot of fanfare -- that yes, there are families that are constructed in this way (two moms/ two dads) and that I personally do not approve of it, but that the people are lovely and should be treated as such. So far, that's been the extent of it.

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PLEASE tell me that you didn't intentionally just equate equality for two-mom and two-dad families with Nazism in 1938 Germany. Please tell me that was a mistake.

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Anonymous wrote:One of two moms here, with kids in PK. I can't exactly teach my kids to pretend one of their parents don't exist, so their friends know they have two moms. GDS may have had nothing to do with it. And FWIW, I assure you that no one decided a sexual orientation based on those of their friends' parents. You have a 97% chance that she'll marry a boy, so I wouldn't worry too much.

Best to your family.

What is important more than anything is that they are loved. Who cares if it's 2 moms or 2 dads? Who cares if they're divorced and a single mother or father?
You'll find same sex couples everywhere - Potomac, Sidwell etc. It's not GDS, it's reality and there's absolutely nothing wrong.

Actually, some of us think there is.

And you are on the wrong side of history. But seriously, if your young (ages 4-6) child had a friend with 2 moms or 2 dads and had a question about it, how would you respond?

I've always loved this line. As if this is how we should base moral decisions. I'm sure in 1938 Germany, people were telling non-Nazis that they were "on the wrong side of history" as well.

But since you brought up a more serious question....

My first response is to do or say nothing. When DD was 4, she really didn't even notice this difference about one of her friends/ classmates. She played at the child's house and "Miss X" or "Miss Y" were always around but frankly, I don't think she caught the difference between most other houses where, say, a mom and nanny were also home all the time. She's a little older now and the friendship with that particular child has faded somewhat because of a move, so we're really not in as much contact. With my older kids, it has only come up briefly. I have said – briefly, without a lot of fanfare -- that yes, there are families that are constructed in this way (two moms/ two dads) and that I personally do not approve of it, but that the people are lovely and should be treated as such. So far, that's been the extent of it.

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"I've always loved this line. As if this is how we should base moral decisions. I'm sure in 1938 Germany, people were telling non-Nazis that they were "on the wrong side of history" as well.

"But since you brought up a more serious question....

"My first response is to do or say nothing. When DD was 4, she really didn't even notice this difference about one of her friends/ classmates. She played at the child's house and "Miss X" or "Miss Y" were always around but frankly, I don't think she caught the difference between most other houses where, say, a mom and nanny were also home all the time. She's a little older now and the friendship with that particular child has faded somewhat because of a move, so we're really not in as much contact. With my older kids, it has only come up briefly. I have said – briefly, without a lot of fanfare -- that yes, there are families that are constructed in this way (two moms/ two dads) and that I personally do not approve of it, but that the people are lovely and should be treated as such. So far, that's been the extent of it.

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PLEASE tell me that you didn't intentionally just equate equality for two-mom and two-dad families with Nazism in 1938 Germany. Please tell me that was a mistake.

"I've always loved this line. As if this is how we should base moral decisions. I'm sure in 1938 Germany, people were telling non-Nazis that they were "on the wrong side of history" as well.

"But since you brought up a more serious question....

"My first response is to do or say nothing. When DD was 4, she really didn't even notice this difference about one of her friends/ classmates. She played at the child's house and "Miss X" or "Miss Y" were always around but frankly, I don't think she caught the difference between most other houses where, say, a mom and nanny were also home all the time. She's a little older now and the friendship with that particular child has faded somewhat because of a move, so we're really not in as much contact. With my older kids, it has only come up briefly. I have said – briefly, without a lot of fanfare -- that yes, there are families that are constructed in this way (two moms/ two dads) and that I personally do not approve of it, but that the people are lovely and should be treated as such. So far, that's been the extent of it.