Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
In an ideal and perfect world, you would be right.

In the real world, let it go.

I volunteer at my children's schools extensively, and I can see first hand how much administrators and teachers have to worry about, manage and deal with. Don't waste their time over piddling little details like that.

There are many more things that bother me about schools: for example, that parent volunteers in MCPS, stuffing Friday folders, can see all the grades earned by all the students in the class. That some teachers yell at their students way too harshly. That some schools punish the whole class for the misbehavior of a few students. That some schools punish students by taking their recess time without allowing them other means to get their energy out, which aggravates their misbehavior. The list goes on...

I think OP is taking about graded assignment, not the report card.

PP, you're being generous. I don't think it's cool that the teacher discussed this with the sibling, or in front of other kids. (Assuming for the sake of discussion) that the older child's account is 100% true.) And just for kicks:

It is NOT cool that parents can see grades. Report cards should be put in an envelope, or at least folded/stapled, to prevent this. Not OK at all and a serious breach of privacy regulations. Also not cool that recess is taken away -- that's not allowed in APS. I sincerely hope it's not allowed in other districts.

--Teacher

Anonymous wrote:
In an ideal and perfect world, you would be right.

In the real world, let it go.

I volunteer at my children's schools extensively, and I can see first hand how much administrators and teachers have to worry about, manage and deal with. Don't waste their time over piddling little details like that.

There are many more things that bother me about schools: for example, that parent volunteers in MCPS, stuffing Friday folders, can see all the grades earned by all the students in the class. That some teachers yell at their students way too harshly. That some schools punish the whole class for the misbehavior of a few students. That some schools punish students by taking their recess time without allowing them other means to get their energy out, which aggravates their misbehavior. The list goes on...

Anonymous wrote:

It's somewhat unprofessional, but I would definitely let it go. Your child engaged in the inappropriate behavior openly, it is not a secret. You have bigger issues to address


Indeed, it's just gossip.

What amazes me is the OP's apparent disregard for the kid who was punched and, perhaps, kicked. Imagine the OP's outrage if her little darling had been the one punched. Deal with your child and stop blaming others.

jesus people -- the OP never said that their kid did anything wrong, but that she felt that the teacher's behavior with her older child was inappropriate and crossed professional boundaries.

OP -- I agree with you completely. There was a situation where a teacher got very angry at my son for what he perceived as disrespect. My kid was goofing around and mimicking the teacher. My kid was in first grade. The teacher punished my child in a way that was very shaming to him. This particular teacher would give out tickets for good behavior that could be saved and exchanged for trinkets. This teacher told my son that he would be given no tickets for the remainder of the year. He then told my daughter that she would not be allowed to use her tickets to buy trinkets for her brother. My kids have a healthy amount of sibling rivalry, and the last thing I need is a teacher providing ammunition to my older child to use against my younger. Strangely, instead of lording this over her brother, my daughter felt uncomfortable having been drawn into this punishment by this teacher, and shared it with me. I addressed it with the teacher, who denied the whole thing, realizing that he had crossed a boundary.

I agree that you should address this with the administration OP -- adults don't need to be interfering with the family unit in this way.

Anonymous wrote:

And as you accuse me of minimizing what my son did, which I am not and have said that it is unacceptable and that he has had consequences for it, you did exactly the same thing about what your kid did.

Denial isn't just a river in Egypt. Read your own posts. You are totally minimizing it, you either just (1) don't realize it, or (2) don't like getting called out on it so you are backtracking. Look, do whatever you want bout this teacher and your kid, it is your life, and fortunately, the school is stuck dealing with all of you, not me.

And as you accuse me of minimizing what my son did, which I am not and have said that it is unacceptable and that he has had consequences for it, you did exactly the same thing about what your kid did.

Anonymous wrote:

I am trying to find out what instigated the behavior because it IS out of character for him and I think a good parent should try to find out why her child suddenly starts lashing out at people.

Then ask him, for God sakes! He is at least six, probably 7 at this point. Don't you speak with your own kid? And you are minimizing what he did - you said that the "mud-throwing is more believable," implying that you don't believe he engaged in the other actions. I don't know why you find it so hard to believe things occurred as the teacher told you. My son is in 1st grade (still 6) and generally a laid back, well behaved kid, but he got into some random argument with our neighbor's child and threw a bike at him. DS was overtired and cranky and the kid was teasing him by saying that DS's female friend was a "girlfriend," so there are REASONS for DS's behavior, but in my view, there is no EXCUSE for DS's behavior.

Anonymous wrote:So, your kid punched another kid in the stomach and then kicked him on the ground, and you feel that the teacher's email reporting the incident was of a..."rather dramatic tone"?

Forget whatever the teacher did. You need to address the behavior with your kid. Your ire is misdirected.

I am trying to find out what instigated the behavior because it IS out of character for him and I think a good parent should try to find out why her child suddenly starts lashing out at people.

It's somewhat unprofessional, but I would definitely let it go. Your child engaged in the inappropriate behavior openly, it is not a secret. You have bigger issues to address


Indeed, it's just gossip.

What amazes me is the OP's apparent disregard for the kid who was punched and, perhaps, kicked. Imagine the OP's outrage if her little darling had been the one punched. Deal with your child and stop blaming others.

Anonymous wrote:You are mad because your kid acted poorly and the teacher told other kids who in turn will tell their parents and you know those parents are now embarrassed. It's a you problem not a teacher problem.