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Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 year old and an 8 month old and am really struggling with this.
I sign myself up for a workout class once a week after the kids go to bed. I can't motivate myself to workout at home at the end of the day, but I can manage to make it there once a week.
The only time I have is before the kids wake up or after they go to bed. Both of those times, I am just too damn tired.

I feel like unless I plan my days around a workout, it just won't happen. And frankly, I can't plan my days around a workout. Ugh.

Or, you don't want to plan your days around a workout, which is fine. But own that. Many of us do plan our days (in part) around a workout, which is often the only way to get it done when you have kids and work.

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I was never-ever a morning person. But the only time I have to exercise is in the morning before the kids get up. I found an exercise I like and YouTube videos and a studio class I like, and while it was still a struggle for the first couple of weeks, after it became a habit, it's changed everything.

The key for me: let something you enjoy become a habit. Don't force yourself to do exercise you hate and slog out of bed once a week to do it. That'll never stick.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 year old and an 8 month old and am really struggling with this.
I sign myself up for a workout class once a week after the kids go to bed. I can't motivate myself to workout at home at the end of the day, but I can manage to make it there once a week.
The only time I have is before the kids wake up or after they go to bed. Both of those times, I am just too damn tired.

I feel like unless I plan my days around a workout, it just won't happen. And frankly, I can't plan my days around a workout. Ugh.

Or, you don't want to plan your days around a workout, which is fine. But own that. Many of us do plan our days (in part) around a workout, which is often the only way to get it done when you have kids and work.

Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 year old and an 8 month old and am really struggling with this.
I sign myself up for a workout class once a week after the kids go to bed. I can't motivate myself to workout at home at the end of the day, but I can manage to make it there once a week.
The only time I have is before the kids wake up or after they go to bed. Both of those times, I am just too damn tired.

I feel like unless I plan my days around a workout, it just won't happen. And frankly, I can't plan my days around a workout. Ugh.

Anonymous wrote:If a dad in his 30s/40s spends so much time exercising that he has ripped muscles and washbord abs, the mom should be a little worried.

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Anonymous wrote:7:33 - I'm a mom and until I hit 40, I had ripped muscles and washboard abs, from just an hour of exercise per day. I still have pretty toned arms and legs, but the abs have that post-40, post-kid layer of goo.

Some people have good natural definition, and if they work out and eat right, it's not unusual to have that well into your 30's and 40's. Doesn't mean anything's wrong or that the wife needs to worry. (though she might worry if she's let herself go and the husband hasn't; that can lead to issues.)

It's the in-shape dads who arouse suspicion. Not the moms.

Am I missing something? What is there to be suspicious of?

Ha! Exactly. My husband and I are both very athletic and fitness has always been a priority since we met at 25. At 45 we make sure each has a chance to get in our daily workout. We are both unpleasant without that daily workout--whether it's at the gym or a run.

Check his texts

We are both hot and in shape...and have each other's pws/transparency. we also workout at the same gym and everyone knows us... Often same time on our wah day.

Not worried. I'm hit on as much as him.

Flame
Who on earth hits on him? Men?

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Anonymous wrote:7:33 - I'm a mom and until I hit 40, I had ripped muscles and washboard abs, from just an hour of exercise per day. I still have pretty toned arms and legs, but the abs have that post-40, post-kid layer of goo.

Some people have good natural definition, and if they work out and eat right, it's not unusual to have that well into your 30's and 40's. Doesn't mean anything's wrong or that the wife needs to worry. (though she might worry if she's let herself go and the husband hasn't; that can lead to issues.)

It's the in-shape dads who arouse suspicion. Not the moms.

Am I missing something? What is there to be suspicious of?

Ha! Exactly. My husband and I are both very athletic and fitness has always been a priority since we met at 25. At 45 we make sure each has a chance to get in our daily workout. We are both unpleasant without that daily workout--whether it's at the gym or a run.

Check his texts

We are both hot and in shape...and have each other's pws/transparency. we also workout at the same gym and everyone knows us... Often same time on our wah day.

Not worried. I'm hit on as much as him.

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Anonymous wrote:7:33 - I'm a mom and until I hit 40, I had ripped muscles and washboard abs, from just an hour of exercise per day. I still have pretty toned arms and legs, but the abs have that post-40, post-kid layer of goo.

Some people have good natural definition, and if they work out and eat right, it's not unusual to have that well into your 30's and 40's. Doesn't mean anything's wrong or that the wife needs to worry. (though she might worry if she's let herself go and the husband hasn't; that can lead to issues.)

It's the in-shape dads who arouse suspicion. Not the moms.

Am I missing something? What is there to be suspicious of?

Ha! Exactly. My husband and I are both very athletic and fitness has always been a priority since we met at 25. At 45 we make sure each has a chance to get in our daily workout. We are both unpleasant without that daily workout--whether it's at the gym or a run.

Defensive much?

Check his texts

We are both hot and in shape...and have each other's pws/transparency. we also workout at the same gym and everyone knows us... Often same time on our wah day.

Not worried. I'm hit on as much as him.

Btw, we have both always worked out for 20 years. It's not like the mid-life guy that all the sudden starts focusing on his body.

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Anonymous wrote:7:33 - I'm a mom and until I hit 40, I had ripped muscles and washboard abs, from just an hour of exercise per day. I still have pretty toned arms and legs, but the abs have that post-40, post-kid layer of goo.

Some people have good natural definition, and if they work out and eat right, it's not unusual to have that well into your 30's and 40's. Doesn't mean anything's wrong or that the wife needs to worry. (though she might worry if she's let herself go and the husband hasn't; that can lead to issues.)

It's the in-shape dads who arouse suspicion. Not the moms.

Am I missing something? What is there to be suspicious of?

Ha! Exactly. My husband and I are both very athletic and fitness has always been a priority since we met at 25. At 45 we make sure each has a chance to get in our daily workout. We are both unpleasant without that daily workout--whether it's at the gym or a run.

Check his texts

We are both hot and in shape...and have each other's pws/transparency. we also workout at the same gym and everyone knows us... Often same time on our wah day.

Not worried. I'm hit on as much as him.

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Anonymous wrote:7:33 - I'm a mom and until I hit 40, I had ripped muscles and washboard abs, from just an hour of exercise per day. I still have pretty toned arms and legs, but the abs have that post-40, post-kid layer of goo.

Some people have good natural definition, and if they work out and eat right, it's not unusual to have that well into your 30's and 40's. Doesn't mean anything's wrong or that the wife needs to worry. (though she might worry if she's let herself go and the husband hasn't; that can lead to issues.)

It's the in-shape dads who arouse suspicion. Not the moms.

Am I missing something? What is there to be suspicious of?

Ha! Exactly. My husband and I are both very athletic and fitness has always been a priority since we met at 25. At 45 we make sure each has a chance to get in our daily workout. We are both unpleasant without that daily workout--whether it's at the gym or a run.

Check his texts

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7:33 - I'm a mom and until I hit 40, I had ripped muscles and washboard abs, from just an hour of exercise per day. I still have pretty toned arms and legs, but the abs have that post-40, post-kid layer of goo.

Some people have good natural definition, and if they work out and eat right, it's not unusual to have that well into your 30's and 40's. Doesn't mean anything's wrong or that the wife needs to worry. (though she might worry if she's let herself go and the husband hasn't; that can lead to issues.)

It's the in-shape dads who arouse suspicion. Not the moms.

Am I missing something? What is there to be suspicious of?

Ha! Exactly. My husband and I are both very athletic and fitness has always been a priority since we met at 25. At 45 we make sure each has a chance to get in our daily workout. We are both unpleasant without that daily workout--whether it's at the gym or a run.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7:33 - I'm a mom and until I hit 40, I had ripped muscles and washboard abs, from just an hour of exercise per day. I still have pretty toned arms and legs, but the abs have that post-40, post-kid layer of goo.

Some people have good natural definition, and if they work out and eat right, it's not unusual to have that well into your 30's and 40's. Doesn't mean anything's wrong or that the wife needs to worry. (though she might worry if she's let herself go and the husband hasn't; that can lead to issues.)

It's the in-shape dads who arouse suspicion. Not the moms.

Am I missing something? What is there to be suspicious of?

Ha! Exactly. My husband and I are both very athletic and fitness has always been a priority since we met at 25. At 45 we make sure each has a chance to get in our daily workout. We are both unpleasant without that daily workout--whether it's at the gym or a run.