My 41 year old ex is now dating a 22 year old and very clearly things did not work with is because he needs to be worshiped. I'm an independent strong and self reliant woman who ain't got time for that!! I don't want a man who is so insecure he can't date his equal. BYE

I think all men I have encountered love when you make them feel like a man. Ask their opinion, let them lead at times, give them what they want sexually....

But I have also learned giving too much makes them take you for granted. :/

Anonymous wrote:OP back. I don't mean, literally WORSHIP.

You may not literally mean worship, but what you are doing is too much for a boyfriend. All of the work you are doing is not what gets you to the altar.

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Oh, and he needs to be complimented and profusely thanked any time he does anything. Seriously. He think he deserves a blow job for putting some towels away. But all the "woman" work I do can go unnoticed, since I'm supposed to be doing it anyway. He calls it his queen taking care of the king. It's sickening and I hate it.

Heh, he sounds awesome!



"IT'S GOOD TO BE THE KING!"

OP back. I don't mean, literally WORSHIP.

If my DH told me he wanted to be worshiped by me he'd have to check me into a looney bin because I'd never stop laughing.

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Anonymous wrote:My H needs to be "worshiped" and eventually had an affair. After lots (but not enough) therapy we have found out this need for an ego stoke is a sign of something much, much bigger and not healthy.

Ends up he as SERIOUS mental issues that he is trying to resolve ... it will take years of therapy.

If you meet a guy that wants to be worshiped.... RUN!

Agreed. My DH would like for, the moment I come home, to attend to his needs. Get him something to drink. Ask him if he's hungry. Fix him a plate. Nevermind I've been working all day too, and have cleaned up the house and trotted the kids around to all their activities and made dinner by the time he's home. He thinks it's the man's place to be taken care of.

Oh, and he needs to be complimented and profusely thanked any time he does anything. Seriously. He think he deserves a blow job for putting some towels away. But all the "woman" work I do can go unnoticed, since I'm supposed to be doing it anyway. He calls it his queen taking care of the king. It's sickening and I hate it.

The moment *he comes home.

Anonymous wrote:My H needs to be "worshiped" and eventually had an affair. After lots (but not enough) therapy we have found out this need for an ego stoke is a sign of something much, much bigger and not healthy.

Ends up he as SERIOUS mental issues that he is trying to resolve ... it will take years of therapy.

If you meet a guy that wants to be worshiped.... RUN!

Agreed. My DH would like for, the moment I come home, to attend to his needs. Get him something to drink. Ask him if he's hungry. Fix him a plate. Nevermind I've been working all day too, and have cleaned up the house and trotted the kids around to all their activities and made dinner by the time he's home. He thinks it's the man's place to be taken care of.

Oh, and he needs to be complimented and profusely thanked any time he does anything. Seriously. He think he deserves a blow job for putting some towels away. But all the "woman" work I do can go unnoticed, since I'm supposed to be doing it anyway. He calls it his queen taking care of the king. It's sickening and I hate it.

I agree, he'll dump you when he gets bored.

I don't want worship.

I want sandwiches.

And BJs.

Anonymous wrote:Watching RHOBH and Yolanda Foster would absolutely worship David Foster. Granted, he does have a huge ego and God like complex. But I commented on that to my boyfriend and he joked "as she should." Well, I feel like I "worship" my boyfriend. I put his needs before anyones, including mine a lot of the time. I want to pamper/treat/spoil him. I'm ready to completely devote my life to him. If he wanted to move, I'd move with him. I'd make any life choices based on what he wants. Is this what a man wants? Do you think he appreciates it or is scared of it?

You are doing this wrong, and are setting a very unhealthy relationship dynamics.

If anyone needs to worship anyone in the relationship, it's the other way 'round. It's a man's job to want to pamper/spoil/treat you. When the roles reserve, this is what's going to happen: your boyfriend is going to accept this because it's convenient at the time. But when time comes to get serious, he will choose a woman who HE wants to worship, treat and spoil. It doesn't work the other way around, and if it does, you honestly wouldn't want to be in that type of relationship - because it's fucking exhausting.

Men aren't made to accept pampering or appreciate it. Perhaps occasionally, when you've been married for twenty years and you want to show your appreciation for what he's done. But certainly not in the boyfriend stage!!!!! They need to be the active party in the relationship for it to go anywhere. Don't do this.

Don't make life choices based on what he wants! You will regret it.

Woman here and I can only speak for what my dh likes. In bed, yes. He also likes to have his ego stroked from time to time (who doesn't). Otherwise he likes me to be feisty and a light quarrel turns him on.

I worship my DW's "package". He has it all.

Jesus. OP, like with literally everything: some do, some don't. You need to figure out what your man wants and whether you're willing to accomodate his wants.

I do not want a woman worshipping me. That's what I have a dog for. In fact, a woman with no confidence, who has her identity wrapped up with me is very unattractive and a turn off. I would find a woman like that pathetic.