Anonymous
04/10/2016 20:31
Subject: Nosey Inlaws
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here,
Thanks for the feedback all. When my husband and I purchased our first home our parents were involved. Fast forward a decade and I think we are both more than capable of handling this on our own. My inlaws very much want to have a walk through of our potential house (pictures don't suffice) and have input on what we ask (although it doesn't affect them financially at all)
I want to thank the person especially who said that you show people how you want to be treated. Although I was somewhat aware of this, I wasn't employing it in my day to day life with friends and family. It's indeed a game changer.
That was me!
OP, good luck. I strongly urge you not to let them do a walk through. Simply tell them, "This is our decision, and we are confident that we have good judgment in this matter." As the saying goes, "Start as you mean to go on." If you open the door to a walk-through, you open the door to even more expectation/involvement.
Polite but firm! Good luck!
Haha! Thanks. At first I was taken aback by your first sentence (passive aggressive, immature) but once I got over that (complete truth) lol. I was able to absorb what you were saying. Again, all truth. It's hard to be this way with loved ones...but setting boundaries is an absolute necessity.
IRL, I would have led up to this more gently...but yes, this is the truth! I speak from experience, believe me. Good for you for taking control!
Anonymous
04/10/2016 16:35
Subject: Nosey Inlaws
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here,
Thanks for the feedback all. When my husband and I purchased our first home our parents were involved. Fast forward a decade and I think we are both more than capable of handling this on our own. My inlaws very much want to have a walk through of our potential house (pictures don't suffice) and have input on what we ask (although it doesn't affect them financially at all)
I want to thank the person especially who said that you show people how you want to be treated. Although I was somewhat aware of this, I wasn't employing it in my day to day life with friends and family. It's indeed a game changer.
That was me!
OP, good luck. I strongly urge you not to let them do a walk through. Simply tell them, "This is our decision, and we are confident that we have good judgment in this matter." As the saying goes, "Start as you mean to go on." If you open the door to a walk-through, you open the door to even more expectation/involvement.
Polite but firm! Good luck!
Haha! Thanks. At first I was taken aback by your first sentence (passive aggressive, immature) but once I got over that (complete truth) lol. I was able to absorb what you were saying. Again, all truth. It's hard to be this way with loved ones...but setting boundaries is an absolute necessity.