Anonymous wrote:I was dating a woman to whom I proposed. The diamond I was to give is one in the family for years; 1.5 carats and perfect. The girl was offended because I did not save for it. I was a effing graduate student making $800 per month...she wanted me to save up 10K. I walked away from it.

Good for you, that girl sounds crazy. Slightly amazed at the old-fashioned attitudes on this thread - but then I notice that in different ways across DCUM, e.g. the attitudes of some women to maternity leave, WOHMs. If a man can afford to save a significant sum and wants to spend that on a ring, then great. But I would hate my husband to feel he had to do that, especially if it was at the expense of other things. Far rather he put that $10k into our home or starting to save for a family. And if he had a family heirloom to give me, I would absolutely love that - so nice to feel part of the family in that way.

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Anonymous wrote:Troll post.

+1

+2. MRA guy trying to stir the pot again.

I was dating a woman to whom I proposed. The diamond I was to give is one in the family for years; 1.5 carats and perfect. The girl was offended because I did not save for it. I was a effing graduate student making $800 per month...she wanted me to save up 10K. I walked away from it.

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Anonymous wrote:My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because.

What are you giving him? A pristine, untouched vagina? Didn't you think he was worth saving yourself for?

Right. Diamond ring = some kind of weird dowry holdover. Get with the 21st Century, ladies!

Is this a joke? OP, why didn't YOU save up and offer to pay for half the ring? Or perhaps you saved up $7,000 to buy him a nice present in return? You want an expensive diamond ring. He doesn't see the use of that and doesn't want it. Seems like a great opportunity to see how you both handle conflicting desires and conflicting financial priorities.

Is he caring and considerate in other ways, OP? How is your relationship?

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

I guess so. I'm just not interested. I wouldn't wear something so extravagant, it's just not me.
But the fact that men have to save all this money up, like OP wanted, for a ring, is silly. To me. What's she bringing to the table?

I have no idea what OP brings to the table, but my husband got a great deal from me. I work hard, have a $200k income, and have carried his children. $10k was a great investment in a happy life.

That makes no sense. A grown woman who describes herself as "spoiled" is no prize.

So is an Ashley Madison account.

Right up until he loses his high income spouse for the kind of woman you can pick up at AM.

I'd miss the high-income too, not the shitty attitude who brings it in.

Well that's a matter of perspective. The kind of guy who takes it upon himself to spend $10k on a ring with no pressure doesn't mind a certain amount of spoiledness in a wife. Also, makes enough money that a $10k purchase doesn't ruin his quarter. And with that comes the benefits.

Get over yourself lady!

Anonymous wrote:My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because.

What are you giving him? A pristine, untouched vagina? Didn't you think he was worth saving yourself for?

Anonymous wrote:My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because.

How much have you saved for his engagement present?

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

Sorry you have never dated wealthy. It didn't take any pressure, I just found a successful, sweet, generous guy.

No, he is just that stupid. 10K can be used for a down payment on a car, multiple vacations, or other things that are more valuable than jewelry. What happened to upgrading at the 10 year mark?

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

OK, so you got what you wanted but she shouldn't? I never understand this perspective. "I like cheap shit so why don't you?"

No, it's the pressure put on men to buy a piece of jewelry by society. Why do women expect this? I like jewelry. But I'd never whine because my man didn't scrimp and save for a diamond ring. It's ridiculous, if you think it over.

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it funny-- your opinion won't change my husband's. But that's really the point, isn't it? OP wants a man like my husband, not like you. So go find yourself a mousy doormat. Maybe she'll even most smugly on the internet about how she can't ever imagine wearing a nice ring, and how wonderful you never gave her one.

Pp from earlier. Trust me, I'm not smug. I'm just not that into obvious signs of wealth. We all have different personalities. Yours is more material.
And yes, I am very happy with my simple band. You said you were sorry I've never dated wealthy. I'm not.

Anonymous wrote:My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because.

You need to drop him and find someone who can match your shallowness.

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Anonymous wrote:Hope your bf sees this. And runs

Me too. To give OP time and space to meet a guy who doesn't suck.

And how much did OP save during the 4 years in order to buy her BF an engagement gift?

Agreed, troll post.