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Anonymous wrote:I think the moral of the story is that if you are asking for an exception on this not-that-important thing, you are in for a realm of disappointment down the road. Teach your kid to read quietly on the cot. Or color quietly. Do not expect pull out, specialized teaching, or anything else at this time.

Nobody is asking for an exception - I think the OP was wondering if this was done (before so militant crazy helicopter mom went nap crazy. When I toured schools back when we applied, I asked this question - because I was one of the bad parents who didn't force my child to nap at 4 years old.

Lucky, the schools we liked also don't force kids to nap - but allowed them to do other things.

You are smarter than I am, because I didn't see this issue coming (I assumed schools would accommodate the normal developmental behavior of all kids), and we ended up in a classroom that mandates the forced nap (no quiet activities). I didn't realize how such a seemingly small thing would color my child's entire day. What schools stick out in your mind as accommodating non-nappers? I fear part of this is also teacher by teacher, as other classrooms in our school have different practices.

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Anonymous wrote:My 3 yo DS does not nap - has not since he was 2 - on his on just stopped. PK3 has been a challenge. I saw LAMB is a school that does not require it as they acknowledge kids have different needs. I am in low teens for LAMB PK4 - this is one of the main reasons I am looking to switch. Not sure why more schools do not allow for non-napping kids.

Because it is statutorily required. If I remember correctly 75 minutes for 3s and 45 for 4s

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Anonymous wrote:I think the moral of the story is that if you are asking for an exception on this not-that-important thing, you are in for a realm of disappointment down the road. Teach your kid to read quietly on the cot. Or color quietly. Do not expect pull out, specialized teaching, or anything else at this time.

Nobody is asking for an exception - I think the OP was wondering if this was done (before so militant crazy helicopter mom went nap crazy. When I toured schools back when we applied, I asked this question - because I was one of the bad parents who didn't force my child to nap at 4 years old.

Lucky, the schools we liked also don't force kids to nap - but allowed them to do other things.

Anonymous wrote:I think the moral of the story is that if you are asking for an exception on this not-that-important thing, you are in for a realm of disappointment down the road. Teach your kid to read quietly on the cot. Or color quietly. Do not expect pull out, specialized teaching, or anything else at this time.

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Anonymous wrote:I love the smug parents who think napping has anything to do with following rules or being a "special snowflake." You obviously have a child that naps, and that's nice. But the other parents of kids who don't nap aren't being precious. Some kids actually need less sleep than others. You didn't sit still and do nothing for 90 minutes at 4 years old, either. Get off your high horse and give other parents a break.

That's nice, PP. My DD stopped napping at home when she was 3.5, and her school has been flexible about nap time. Some kids, despite not needing naps themselves, are also not able to be quiet and let OTHER kids sleep in school at that age. I have noticed that many parents do not recognize this - either because they are jerks or because they never experience situations where their child's non-napping affects the sleep of another child. I think that schools need to be more understanding and come up with other activities for kids who don't need that nap, but there are a lot of priorities in the classroom.

I don't disagree with you that non-mappers need to let mappers sleep, but there are schools in this city that actually accommodate mappers and non-nappers, while others refuse to even let kids do quiet activities, and insist that all kids lay on their mats and do nothing for 90 minutes. I find this ridiculous. Both napping and non-napping are within the scope of developmentally normal behavior at 4 years old. One shouldn't take precedence over the other--and the expectation that normal behavior should be accepted in the classroom doesn't make me have unreasonable expectations

You clearly don't get it. If my child who needs a nap sees your child doing "quiet activities" he decides that napping is not what he wants to do. You can't just take out your snowflake to a different activity without it impacting the other kids. You either enforce a rule (napping) our you don't. There is no middle ground where your darling gets extra instruction our activities and my exhausted child happily sleeps obliviously.

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Anonymous wrote:I love the smug parents who think napping has anything to do with following rules or being a "special snowflake." You obviously have a child that naps, and that's nice. But the other parents of kids who don't nap aren't being precious. Some kids actually need less sleep than others. You didn't sit still and do nothing for 90 minutes at 4 years old, either. Get off your high horse and give other parents a break.

That's nice, PP. My DD stopped napping at home when she was 3.5, and her school has been flexible about nap time. Some kids, despite not needing naps themselves, are also not able to be quiet and let OTHER kids sleep in school at that age. I have noticed that many parents do not recognize this - either because they are jerks or because they never experience situations where their child's non-napping affects the sleep of another child. I think that schools need to be more understanding and come up with other activities for kids who don't need that nap, but there are a lot of priorities in the classroom.

I don't disagree with you that non-mappers need to let mappers sleep, but there are schools in this city that actually accommodate mappers and non-nappers, while others refuse to even let kids do quiet activities, and insist that all kids lay on their mats and do nothing for 90 minutes. I find this ridiculous. Both napping and non-napping are within the scope of developmentally normal behavior at 4 years old. One shouldn't take precedence over the other--and the expectation that normal behavior should be accepted in the classroom doesn't make me have unreasonable expectations

You clearly don't get it. If my child who needs a nap sees your child doing "quiet activities" he decides that napping is not what he wants to do. You can't just take out your snowflake to a different activity without it impacting the other kids. You either enforce a rule (napping) our you don't. There is no middle ground where your darling gets extra instruction our activities and my exhausted child happily sleeps obliviously.

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Anonymous wrote:I love the smug parents who think napping has anything to do with following rules or being a "special snowflake." You obviously have a child that naps, and that's nice. But the other parents of kids who don't nap aren't being precious. Some kids actually need less sleep than others. You didn't sit still and do nothing for 90 minutes at 4 years old, either. Get off your high horse and give other parents a break.

That's nice, PP. My DD stopped napping at home when she was 3.5, and her school has been flexible about nap time. Some kids, despite not needing naps themselves, are also not able to be quiet and let OTHER kids sleep in school at that age. I have noticed that many parents do not recognize this - either because they are jerks or because they never experience situations where their child's non-napping affects the sleep of another child. I think that schools need to be more understanding and come up with other activities for kids who don't need that nap, but there are a lot of priorities in the classroom.

I don't disagree with you that non-mappers need to let mappers sleep, but there are schools in this city that actually accommodate mappers and non-nappers, while others refuse to even let kids do quiet activities, and insist that all kids lay on their mats and do nothing for 90 minutes. I find this ridiculous. Both napping and non-napping are within the scope of developmentally normal behavior at 4 years old. One shouldn't take precedence over the other--and the expectation that normal behavior should be accepted in the classroom doesn't make me have unreasonable expectations

You clearly don't get it. If my child who needs a nap sees your child doing "quiet activities" he decides that napping is not what he wants to do. You can't just take out your snowflake to a different activity without it impacting the other kids. You either enforce a rule (napping) our you don't. There is no middle ground where your darling gets extra instruction our activities and my exhausted child happily sleeps obliviously.

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Anonymous wrote:I love the smug parents who think napping has anything to do with following rules or being a "special snowflake." You obviously have a child that naps, and that's nice. But the other parents of kids who don't nap aren't being precious. Some kids actually need less sleep than others. You didn't sit still and do nothing for 90 minutes at 4 years old, either. Get off your high horse and give other parents a break.

That's nice, PP. My DD stopped napping at home when she was 3.5, and her school has been flexible about nap time. Some kids, despite not needing naps themselves, are also not able to be quiet and let OTHER kids sleep in school at that age. I have noticed that many parents do not recognize this - either because they are jerks or because they never experience situations where their child's non-napping affects the sleep of another child. I think that schools need to be more understanding and come up with other activities for kids who don't need that nap, but there are a lot of priorities in the classroom.

I don't disagree with you that non-mappers need to let mappers sleep, but there are schools in this city that actually accommodate mappers and non-nappers, while others refuse to even let kids do quiet activities, and insist that all kids lay on their mats and do nothing for 90 minutes. I find this ridiculous. Both napping and non-napping are within the scope of developmentally normal behavior at 4 years old. One shouldn't take precedence over the other--and the expectation that normal behavior should be accepted in the classroom doesn't make me have unreasonable expectations

Anonymous wrote:CT's cut of is Dec 31.

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Anonymous wrote:I love the smug parents who think napping has anything to do with following rules or being a "special snowflake." You obviously have a child that naps, and that's nice. But the other parents of kids who don't nap aren't being precious. Some kids actually need less sleep than others. You didn't sit still and do nothing for 90 minutes at 4 years old, either. Get off your high horse and give other parents a break.

That's nice, PP. My DD stopped napping at home when she was 3.5, and her school has been flexible about nap time. Some kids, despite not needing naps themselves, are also not able to be quiet and let OTHER kids sleep in school at that age. I have noticed that many parents do not recognize this - either because they are jerks or because they never experience situations where their child's non-napping affects the sleep of another child. I think that schools need to be more understanding and come up with other activities for kids who don't need that nap, but there are a lot of priorities in the classroom.