Anonymous
04/06/2016 22:09
Subject: Re:bicurious in middle school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.
That's funny, because I get pretty tired of straight kids "flaunting" their straightness.
It's so irritating when they walk around in their nike shoes with their gym bags. YOURE STRAIGHT! WE GET IT!
Anonymous
03/29/2016 15:42
Subject: bicurious in middle school?
Anonymous wrote:Another reason to go to Catholic school.
I had the same thought reading through this thread. And I'm an atheist.
Anonymous
03/29/2016 15:40
Subject: bicurious in middle school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nobody wants to see 2 guys kissing. Yuck ... Ratings killer.
Untrue. I find it totally hot to watch guys kissing.
You're weird.
Anonymous
03/28/2016 10:17
Subject: Re:bicurious in middle school?
Anonymous wrote:
I remember dropping several friends in middle school because all they could talk about was boys. I liked boys too, but also had other interests. I don't see this as being any different. Some kids spend a lot of energy at that age on their sexuality and relationships. Its something that they're figuring out. Others spend time talking about other interests. The complaint seems to be less about this kid being gay, and more that being gay is his only topic of conversation and that he makes every conversation about his sexuality. He'll probably grow out of it as he becomes more comfortable in his skin, but it doesn't make it less annoying to some now. Lots of kids in middle school have similarly annoying phases.
(Thinking back, I had another friend in middle school who made every conversation about her parents' divorce. I think it's just how some kids process big things in their life.)
I honestly don't understand how you got from
My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness.
to "Being gay is [this kid's] only topic of conversation and he makes every conversation about his sexuality". Especially given that the PP's child who is annoyed by the gay kid also believes that the gay kid could choose to be straight. (I wonder whether the PP's child believes that he, himself, could choose to be gay?)
Anonymous
03/28/2016 10:02
Subject: Re:bicurious in middle school?
I remember dropping several friends in middle school because all they could talk about was boys. I liked boys too, but also had other interests. I don't see this as being any different. Some kids spend a lot of energy at that age on their sexuality and relationships. Its something that they're figuring out. Others spend time talking about other interests. The complaint seems to be less about this kid being gay, and more that being gay is his only topic of conversation and that he makes every conversation about his sexuality. He'll probably grow out of it as he becomes more comfortable in his skin, but it doesn't make it less annoying to some now. Lots of kids in middle school have similarly annoying phases.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Have not seen evidence of this yet, but my 13 year does not have a phone yet. Both my MS and HS kids have told me some of their classmates came out as gay. My HS is a little annoyed by one classmate's flaunting (over the top feminine jesters) and in your face gayness. He otherwise thinks it's not anyone else's business if someone chooses(yes, he believe it's a choice by some) to be gay.
That's funny, because I get pretty tired of straight kids "flaunting" their straightness.
Get over yourself. Straight or gay, anyone would be annoyed with someone constantly in your face saying, 'see me, i'm gay, i'm gay, and i'm special'
You are assuming that is what this child is doing, yes? That he's running around shouting "I'm gay!" in people's faces? Because PP only referred to "over the top feminine jesters [sic]" and "in your face gayness." I'm not even sure what that means. Sounds to me like this kid is just comfortable in his own skin. Good for him. And don't worry - there are plenty of people out there who will "put this kid in his place" if that's what you're after - inevitably he will be called "faggot" and many other awful things, if he has not already.
I grew up in a small town and was petrified that people would find out I was gay. When my parents did find out when I was 17, they told me repeatedly to not "flaunt" it. So many gay kids are told this. Being afraid of getting hate crimes perpetrated against me? Having to go through hoop after hoop to legally marry my wife and adopt my child? Not being protected in a job because of who I married? I carry that with me every day. It's part of me. So I will not just get over myself. See me. I'm gay. My kid has two moms. And I'm scared for him because of people who think like you.
(Thinking back, I had another friend in middle school who made every conversation about her parents' divorce. I think it's just how some kids process big things in their life.)
Anonymous
03/28/2016 09:52
Subject: bicurious in middle school?
I think that probably that PP thinks that factual statements like "there are people who are gay or bi, just as there are people who are straight" constitute promotion and encouragement.
Anonymous
03/28/2016 09:49
Subject: bicurious in middle school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another reason to go to Catholic school.
If you think that there aren't gay or bi kids at Catholic school -- well, there are.
+1
(They are all over Instagram.)
Yes, but I can assure you that it is not promoted or encouraged in Catholic or other religious schools the way it is in public schools.
Np -- what exactly do you mean? How is it "promoted or encouraged" in public schools?
Anonymous
03/28/2016 09:44
Subject: bicurious in middle school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another reason to go to Catholic school.
If you think that there aren't gay or bi kids at Catholic school -- well, there are.
+1
(They are all over Instagram.)
Yes, but I can assure you that it is not promoted or encouraged in Catholic or other religious schools the way it is in public schools.
?
I have not received any messages home from my child's public school that promote or encourage people to be gay or bi. Nor has my child told me of any in school.
Anonymous
03/28/2016 09:40
Subject: bicurious in middle school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another reason to go to Catholic school.
If you think that there aren't gay or bi kids at Catholic school -- well, there are.
+1
(They are all over Instagram.)
Yes, but I can assure you that it is not promoted or encouraged in Catholic or other religious schools the way it is in public schools.