When we used to work separately we usually didn't talk too much during the work day, if at all, other than to let each other know we were on our way home or to pick up a kid.

When we went through a really bad patch, we didn't talk at all, anywhere.

We both work from home now, and we talk a lot, all day and night, every day, almost. I make him leave me alone some days, but I like how much we talk, otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:When do you actually do your work? Between messaging your husband and talking to your mom and friends, THAT is probably more of your coworkers problem.

Yeah, I'm kind of wondering if she said that in a passive aggressive way. Like "wow you talk to him ALL the time. Like ALL the time" trying to hint that you spend way too much time socializing at work.

The call to husband, mom and friends are on my way home from work, not while I'm at work.

Get off of the GD phone and drive.

My husband and I both have fairly high paced jobs, so we rarely talk during the day. Maybe a quick call or text if there is something important to discuss (for example if he needs to do daycare pickup bc I need to work late). But we talk before and after work, and I usually call him when I'm getting into my car after work.

I don't really "chat" with my DH during the day. I might make a quick call to him about logistics for something or to plan what to have for dinner but we save chit chat for the evenings.

My DH leaves before me in the morning so it's just a quick goodbye, then we'll text a few times during the day - usually about logistical stuff. Occasionally we'll email articles to each other. We do chat a lot during dinner and plenty on the weekends, when we're both home.

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Anonymous wrote:DH works in an office that doesn't allow cell phones. He's also in a lab most days, so there's not a desk phone either. Which means I don't get to talk to him until he arrives home between 6-8pm. We talk a lot though!

I would be annoyed if a coworker was taking personal calls all day, especially if I could overhear. I think you need to go outside to take calls like that.

One more time, I am not taking ANY personal calls during work hours, except for emergencies, which has only happened once when our 3 year old ended up at the ED. The calls happen on the way TO and FROM work.

I do use my Bluetooth to make phone calls on the way to/from work, but its usually to check in with my (retired) parents who live 1000 miles away, and to make appointments/discuss billing issues, etc. I like to basically work on work stuff at work; home stuff at home; and get as much of my admin stuff done while in transit. I live with my DH, we have several hours together every night, so I'd rather reach out to ppl I don't see everyday, or just get things off my to-do list. And if for some reason I don't have something to do, I like to listen to NPR.

And while you may not talk on the phone at work, you said you chat or text throughout the day. I guess that's the norm these days, but it definitely adds up in terms of time.

We talk when he gets home unless he needs to call me, we don't communicate during the day.

He's busy, I'm busy.

My kids are obsessed with talking to their spouses ALL DAY LONG. Sometimes I think that's why they argue so often.

We talk in the morning before work, usually one check in call while at work where we talk no more than 5 minutes. Also a check in to let each other know our status when commuting home and then once we're home obviously because we live together.

If you are talking on the phone with him all the time at work, I agree with pp that it's very inappropriate especially if don't have a private office and everyone can hear you.

Anonymous wrote:DH works in an office that doesn't allow cell phones. He's also in a lab most days, so there's not a desk phone either. Which means I don't get to talk to him until he arrives home between 6-8pm. We talk a lot though!

I would be annoyed if a coworker was taking personal calls all day, especially if I could overhear. I think you need to go outside to take calls like that.

One more time, I am not taking ANY personal calls during work hours, except for emergencies, which has only happened once when our 3 year old ended up at the ED. The calls happen on the way TO and FROM work.

About three times during the day (phone), but just for a few minutes. DH is with DC, and I like when they check in after going out etc. Then at night. We have not traveled for quite a while though.

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And yes, I am old before anyone asks. I'm 41. I didn't have a cell phone until my late 20s.

I'm older. And I didn't get a cell phone til ... 2004.

As little as possible.

DH works in an office that doesn't allow cell phones. He's also in a lab most days, so there's not a desk phone either. Which means I don't get to talk to him until he arrives home between 6-8pm. We talk a lot though!

I would be annoyed if a coworker was taking personal calls all day, especially if I could overhear. I think you need to go outside to take calls like that.

We talk at breakfast, and in the evenings so we get plenty of talking everyday in person. He calls as he is leaving work to see if he needs to pick up something from the grocery store because its on his way. That's it.

We do chat or text while we are both at work about logistics stuff as they come up, not to just shoot the breeze! Part of the reason why I'm home by 5, and he's home by 6 is because we are efficient and stay on task!

We talk after I get home, while i make supper, during supper and after supper until we go to bed. We don't disturb each other at work.