Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

This. The men lie. I was lied to. Told he was leaving. Told he hated her. She was a witch. He was selling the house. He even moved out. The lies he told were insane. To this day I think about contacting her just to let her know how much he lied & how he let me be the bad guy while he pursued me and did nothing but create stories.

What did he lie about? He told you the first time he was married. When he asked you out you should have said, "thanks, but if you get divorced and are SINGLE give me a call". As in VERY MUCH MARRIED.

If he said he was single, then later you found out he lied and was married....that would be a different story.

Yes for sure move on, but I would call her. You need to get tested to, as well as the wife because this has probably been a long time pattern for this guy.

He told me he was separated and in the process of divorcing. He also told me the house was going up for sale, which it did end up happening. As most situations, it was complicated and he told many lies. His wife ended up losing her job, getting pregnant (on accident), and other various stuff that he all accounted for through lies - which I saw after the fact. I walked away numerous times and each time he begged me to believe he was leaving her. My gut told me he was lying, but he BEGGED. I have emails, texts, conversations, photos. In the end I am the fool and I fell for his bullshit. I knew better.

I badly wanted to contact her as she must've caught him and contacted me, but he through me under the bus as the person pursuing him which was not the case. To this day she thinks her husband is some saint who was stalked by some unhinged woman when he was feeding me lies and after the entire time - again, I have email after email after email to support everything I say, including all the times I asked him not to contact me.

I have absolutely moved on, it's just shocking how sociopath some men can be. At this point I don't know what I would even say to her. I keep the texts and emails should she ever contact me, I want to be able to SHOW her what her husband said and the lies he told.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a special place in hell for any cheater

According to Dante, the adulterers went to the 2nd circle of hell - pretty minor actually.

Can we be friends?

Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

This. The men lie. I was lied to. Told he was leaving. Told he hated her. She was a witch. He was selling the house. He even moved out. The lies he told were insane. To this day I think about contacting her just to let her know how much he lied & how he let me be the bad guy while he pursued me and did nothing but create stories.

What did he lie about? He told you the first time he was married. When he asked you out you should have said, "thanks, but if you get divorced and are SINGLE give me a call". As in VERY MUCH MARRIED.

If he said he was single, then later you found out he lied and was married....that would be a different story.

Yes for sure move on, but I would call her. You need to get tested to, as well as the wife because this has probably been a long time pattern for this guy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

This. The men lie. I was lied to. Told he was leaving. Told he hated her. She was a witch. He was selling the house. He even moved out. The lies he told were insane. To this day I think about contacting her just to let her know how much he lied & how he let me be the bad guy while he pursued me and did nothing but create stories.

I would have called her! I still would.

To accomplish what?

PP, how long has it been? Time to move on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

This. The men lie. I was lied to. Told he was leaving. Told he hated her. She was a witch. He was selling the house. He even moved out. The lies he told were insane. To this day I think about contacting her just to let her know how much he lied & how he let me be the bad guy while he pursued me and did nothing but create stories.

I would have called her! I still would.

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

This. The men lie. I was lied to. Told he was leaving. Told he hated her. She was a witch. He was selling the house. He even moved out. The lies he told were insane. To this day I think about contacting her just to let her know how much he lied & how he let me be the bad guy while he pursued me and did nothing but create stories.

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

Oh there are a few other choices. I've seen some very creative people out there who think outside the box.

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

Not silly at all. He/she will get 50% of the blame.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will bet some of the cheaters here ended up with the garbage they cheated with.

Now they are in the same boat as the poor former spouse.

You mean the former garbage? Garbage begets garbage over and over again, there is no denying it.

I would be some therapy to get rid of that anger. Try to move on and have a normal life.

Don't project, it is pointless. Go to therapy if you think it will help.

Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope there is a special place in hell for my ex. She cheated on me and has several fwb and some are married.

Find out who they are and send some anon note to the wives or FB them. Might save them from some std.

You could have fun with your ex, pen a letter making her think it was from one of the wives. Make sure you put the wife will send pics to her employer, friends, family if she doesn't stop. That usually has them shaking in their boots from what I've heard.

I thought we don't ever contact the wives and ruin their lives. Now we do?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will bet some of the cheaters here ended up with the garbage they cheated with.

Now they are in the same boat as the poor former spouse.

You mean the former garbage? Garbage begets garbage over and over again, there is no denying it.

I would be some therapy to get rid of that anger. Try to move on and have a normal life.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a special place in hell for women who cheat with married men with young kids.

Can you explain to me why "young kids" makes an affair particularly more egregiously bad than at other times in a marriage?

You have to ask this? You're severely lacking....

Anonymous wrote:I will bet some of the cheaters here ended up with the garbage they cheated with.

Now they are in the same boat as the poor former spouse.

You mean the former garbage? Garbage begets garbage over and over again, there is no denying it.