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Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update. SIL was supposed to visit at the end of the month, but she cancelled. Postponed indefinitely, she says because she's too busy with work. I'm so relieved!!

Did she see this thread?

Ha ha I hope not! I did bring up my unease with DH but as far I know he hasn't said anything to her. Something did happen in the meantime though. We announced we're expecting, so maybe that was what turned her off on visiting us.

Anonymous wrote:My ex received at least 3 calls a day from his sister, went to her house in the evenings to "help out" and watch tv, leaving me with two young children 5 out of 7 nights a week. It was beyond creepy. I found out at tax time he started a business with her and quit his job, eventually I divorced him. He now lives with her. Just creepy.

Did all that sick behavior start after you married him?

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update. SIL was supposed to visit at the end of the month, but she cancelled. Postponed indefinitely, she says because she's too busy with work. I'm so relieved!!

Did she see this thread?

Anonymous wrote:My ex received at least 3 calls a day from his sister, went to her house in the evenings to "help out" and watch tv, leaving me with two young children 5 out of 7 nights a week. It was beyond creepy. I found out at tax time he started a business with her and quit his job, eventually I divorced him. He now lives with her. Just creepy.

Ew.

OP here with an update. SIL was supposed to visit at the end of the month, but she cancelled. Postponed indefinitely, she says because she's too busy with work. I'm so relieved!!

My ex received at least 3 calls a day from his sister, went to her house in the evenings to "help out" and watch tv, leaving me with two young children 5 out of 7 nights a week. It was beyond creepy. I found out at tax time he started a business with her and quit his job, eventually I divorced him. He now lives with her. Just creepy.

My brother calls his sister "baby" because she was the baby of the family, there was never another baby, and the name just stuck - for decades. MIL & FIL also call her that.

At first, I thought it was super weird. Now, I think it's cute and NBD. They had a rough childhood and making each other laugh was probably the only comfort they had at times. They have nicknames for each other that I wouldn't use with my siblings, but their relationship otherwise seems normal & in better shape than most. DH & I are happy and SIL seems happy in her marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't use the flowery language as a joke. His parents are nice and living and still married. It's weird and I'm just glad she's far, far, far away from me

11:48 again. In the family I'm talking about the parents are nice and normal too. Not sure why this relationship developed. Again, it's not inappropriate in anyway, just weird and dramatic. I'm not sure how you even asked your DH seriously if something inappropriate had happened with him and his sister. How can you just throw that out there and move on? Is it awkward?

This.

"Honey, remind me, did you ever screw your sister?"

Yeah, I am going to triple down on this. And at some point, one of you is going to have to be a creeper: him for flirting up his sister, or you for thinking that is what is happening.

My sister in law acted weirdly toward me for the first couple years of my marriage. Then she told me that she was jealous of me for being married to her brother. She said it wasn't in a sick way, but rather that she thought he was the kind of guy she would like to find and hasn't been able to. I still don't know what to think of that conversation, but she has lightened up since she got it off her chest.

Divorce

Do they only have each other? If they had neglectful or absent parents and relied on one another for survival, I could see this. Also, is your DH otherwise weird? Is it possible SIL has mental health issues and DH is trying to appease her or not rock the boat because she can't be reasoned with?

Otherwise I got nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:They don't use the flowery language as a joke. His parents are nice and living and still married. It's weird and I'm just glad she's far, far, far away from me

11:48 again. In the family I'm talking about the parents are nice and normal too. Not sure why this relationship developed. Again, it's not inappropriate in anyway, just weird and dramatic. I'm not sure how you even asked your DH seriously if something inappropriate had happened with him and his sister. How can you just throw that out there and move on? Is it awkward?

This.

"Honey, remind me, did you ever screw your sister?"

My DH and his sister have a 10 year difference and she is definitely used to being his one and only (she is also majorly spoiled by their parents). He doesn't return the sentiment (I mean, he obviously loves her but he's not as obsessed with her as she is with him). I'm seconding the age gap thing, which I haven't seen OP address yet.

I have seen this in DH family... Very weird but I don't feel threatened (anymore.) You just have to keep pointing to your DH how their bizzare interactions make you uncomfortable.

Anonymous wrote:They don't use the flowery language as a joke. His parents are nice and living and still married. It's weird and I'm just glad she's far, far, far away from me

11:48 again. In the family I'm talking about the parents are nice and normal too. Not sure why this relationship developed. Again, it's not inappropriate in anyway, just weird and dramatic. I'm not sure how you even asked your DH seriously if something inappropriate had happened with him and his sister. How can you just throw that out there and move on? Is it awkward?