Anonymous
03/04/2016 12:20
Subject: please help with my mother
Anonymous wrote:My mother is staying with me for the next month and she's driving me crazy.
I got sick this week, with what is obviously just some bad viral crud. She has been harping on me the entire time about going to the doctor. "You need antibiotics." I've reminded her (ok, argued with her) about antibiotic resistance and the costs of healthcare due to people like her who go in for every little thing and she's totally deaf to it. She takes my son outside to play and then guilt me because she's watching him and I'm not. So we argued again and I screamed at her in the front yard that I wasn't coming out to watch him and he could play inside while I laid on the couch and watched him (high fever). To which she replied, "If you feel that bad, you need to see a doctor." %$#@!
I'm now on the mend, but am not 100% and probably won't be for another week. And what she really doesn't understand is that if I can't rest, it'll take longer for me to be well.
Help. Ignoring her hasn't worked, and educating her hasn't worked. I even tried kicking her out, and that didn't work either.
Do we have the same mother??
Anonymous
03/04/2016 12:17
Subject: please help with my mother
Anonymous wrote:http://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/narcissistic-mother-survey/
Have a look.
+1!
Anonymous
03/04/2016 11:52
Subject: please help with my mother
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you don't want to give in to your mom's hypochondria, you are missing the point of PPs post. You cannot deal with a toxic person by being reasonable. You do have to be the adult in this situation, difficult as that must be when dealing with your mother.
To look at it from your mom's side: She may never have adjusted to her role as the parent of an adult. She's still trying to tell you what to do. Most parents realize they have to back off, when their kids mature. Your mom has not matured to this point. So you have to be the adult because she's not going to get there, sad as that is for you.
Go to the "doctor". Go grab a coffee at Starbucks and nurse yourself back to health. The stress caused by your mom isn't making you any better.
Lying, in this case, is for a good cause. I hate lies, but if I were you, I'd do as the PP suggested.
You're completely right. Unfortunately, it's so hard not to regress to 10 years old around this kind of person. I'll go to the "doctor" over lunch (yes, over lunch, which means i'm at work, which makes it even crazier that she insists I am dying).
Anonymous
03/04/2016 11:26
Subject: please help with my mother
OP, if you don't want to give in to your mom's hypochondria, you are missing the point of PPs post. You cannot deal with a toxic person by being reasonable. You do have to be the adult in this situation, difficult as that must be when dealing with your mother.
To look at it from your mom's side: She may never have adjusted to her role as the parent of an adult. She's still trying to tell you what to do. Most parents realize they have to back off, when their kids mature. Your mom has not matured to this point. So you have to be the adult because she's not going to get there, sad as that is for you.
Go to the "doctor". Go grab a coffee at Starbucks and nurse yourself back to health. The stress caused by your mom isn't making you any better.
Lying, in this case, is for a good cause. I hate lies, but if I were you, I'd do as the PP suggested.
To look at it from your mom's side: She may never have adjusted to her role as the parent of an adult. She's still trying to tell you what to do. Most parents realize they have to back off, when their kids mature. Your mom has not matured to this point. So you have to be the adult because she's not going to get there, sad as that is for you.
Go to the "doctor". Go grab a coffee at Starbucks and nurse yourself back to health. The stress caused by your mom isn't making you any better.
Lying, in this case, is for a good cause. I hate lies, but if I were you, I'd do as the PP suggested.