Anonymous
Post 03/03/2016 21:11     Subject: Help me dissuade my friend from blended family honeymoon at Disney!
Anonymous wrote:A friend just got engaged after less than a year of dating.This will be a second marriage for both parties though my friend had a very brief "starter marriage" with no kids and her intended was married basically 15-20 years with kids. She doesn't want a fussy second wedding and plans to go to the Courthouse with a dinner that night. However, she thinks it would be great for her new DH to pull his 3 kids from school for a week and honeymoon in Disney as a family. The idea is to bond because her FSK live in another state and have only alternating major holidays and a month in summer here with their dad. think this is a horrible idea.
1. A honeymoon is supposed to be a romantic time for the newlywed couple to enjoy each other without family or friends intruding.
2. Bonding trips for blended families are almost always stressful. Why bring that vibe into your honeymoon.
3. Although the ES-age FSK might be thrilled by a week off school, the MS and HS siblings might resent it. It could also create a wedge with the XW/mom.

How do I tell my friend all these things nicely and gently?



Shut up and mind your own business.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2016 21:00     Subject: Help me dissuade my friend from blended family honeymoon at Disney!
Now I'm looking for a post titled "Help me dissuade my friend from trying to plan my honeymoon for me"
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2016 14:26     Subject: Re:Help me dissuade my friend from blended family honeymoon at Disney!
Yes let it go. She'll find out soon enough: Wanting and having are two different things.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2016 14:18     Subject: Help me dissuade my friend from blended family honeymoon at Disney!
Anonymous wrote:WTH is FSK?


Future Step Kids?

As a friend, your role could be to gently ask questions like, wow, maybe it will be hard for the older kids to miss school? hmm, have you thought about a trip in the summer? Will the X-wife be upset about a trip that requires missing school? etc.

Just maybe so she sees there's another side she may not be thinking of, so she's not blindsided or raging at x-wife or finance when it doesn't work out. All the rest of it, you let go. Not your business.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2016 14:14     Subject: Help me dissuade my friend from blended family honeymoon at Disney!
WTH is FSK?
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2016 14:13     Subject: Help me dissuade my friend from blended family honeymoon at Disney!
Anonymous wrote:Wow-- it is NONE of your business. If you're a good friend, you'll be there for her when she returns from this trip, whether it turns out great or otherwise. But do not say anything in advance. She won't listen and will just resent you.



I agree with this. She will either live and learn or never learn like some. She's idealistic right not - NOT realistic.

She'll find out soon enough the so called blended family rarely works.