Op you and your husband should be nice Roentgen and he will set your husband up with a better job of you play your cards right.

OP, you are normal.

My sister married into a "rich" family. Turns out her BIL and his wife are rich. Sisters DH and his family are not. Sister stuck it out, lived the high life, all on credit. Her DH hasn't been gainfully employed in years.

I was never green with envy. I was always happy for her. Now I feel sad for her. I think she was blinded by the idea of marrying into wealth and then she found out that wasn't the case.

Be happy with what you have.

U aren't horrible, but maybe if you dump your husband and start hanging out in your sister's circles u'll meet a richer, better man. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:OMG it is just so Outrageous how you women fall all over each other to support a sister. JFC she is a monster. Incredibl immature. I feel really bad for her DH. Please divorce him NOW so that he can move his way into a happy life. You owe him honesty. It's your fault for never dating another man. That was on you. MONSTER

Troll

But seriously from your post title I expected a lot worse

OMG it is just so Outrageous how you women fall all over each other to support a sister. JFC she is a monster. Incredibl immature. I feel really bad for her DH. Please divorce him NOW so that he can move his way into a happy life. You owe him honesty. It's your fault for never dating another man. That was on you. MONSTER

You never know what the future holds for you or her.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you are an awful person. I think you are very human. Hugs, OP.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I think if you can learn to accept your negative feelings and not condemn yourself for having them, you'll find they don't torture you so much.

I think this poster has nailed it. OP, your post is full of dramatic highs and lows. Your sister has this incredibly perfect life and you're jealous. And you feel incredibly awful and are torturing yourself for feeling so jealous. In reality, you're just a normal person with normal feelings. Maybe if you'd be easier on yourself you would feel better both about yourself and your sister. Sounds like you need to work on establishing some psychological boundaries between yourself and the people in your life.

Again, as pps have recommended, talking to a therapist would be a good idea. Your post makes you sound like you feel trapped by your feelings with no way out but you'd be surprised how there may be an alternative way to look at your situation that you hadn't considered before that a therapist can help you see. I know that's what therapy did for me.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you've posted about this before. You need therapy.

+1! Immediately!
OP, the grass is always greener.
Grow up and get help before you become the SIL from Hell and Aunt everybody hates.

I would feel the same way.

We are struggling financially, and having to spend a lot of money on fertility treatments (that aren't working). We know several couples who are so rich they could wipe their asses with 50-dollar bills for the rest of their lives and never run out of money. They have never had to worry about how they're going to pay a bill. And I feel resentful. And I don't feel bad about that, either.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you are an awful person. I think you are very human. Hugs, OP.

+2. I think it would be very hard to NOT feel this way. Maybe your sister will be in a position at some point to help you move forward in your career? Connections, a loan for grad school?

Guys like that usually cheat, don't be jealous OP.

OP, I honestly think you should dump him and find someone more ambitious.

You dont want your children to worry about financial stability- well, they're going to, if you stay with this loser.

Plenty of fish in the sea. And if your sister does marry this guy, trust me- there will be plenty of other mogul friends that they will want to set you up with.

You sound like such a sweet and loving person, and you deserve better, OP.

You have posted about this before. What are you looking for that you didn't get in the last post?

I never felt inferior to my much wealthier cousins. I guess it's all in how you are raised.