Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think most people especially men get caught. Almost every woman I know checks up on their husband.

What always surprises me is the cheater is so angry when they lose 1/2 the house, kids, and their check is garnished. If you cheat, at least accept the consequences gracefully.

So these women who spend time checking up on their husbands, I wonder if they spent that time investing in their husbands needs, would be a lot less cheating husbands?

The consequences you mentioned are not those of cheating but of divorce. So there's at least the possibility of not getting caught in cheating, versus the certain consequences of divorce. By the way a divorce settlement is generally an even split so I'm not sure why you attempt to portray the non-Cheater as getting some better deal. It's the same split for both spouses, with or without any cheating.

Anonymous wrote:Depressions, anxiety, unresolved issues with self esteem from childhood.

I think most people having affairs are fooling themselves that it is about sex.

Anonymous wrote:I think most people especially men get caught. Almost every woman I know checks up on their husband.

What always surprises me is the cheater is so angry when they lose 1/2 the house, kids, and their check is garnished. If you cheat, at least accept the consequences gracefully.

Anonymous wrote:I think most people especially men get caught. Almost every woman I know checks up on their husband.

What always surprises me is the cheater is so angry when they lose 1/2 the house, kids, and their check is garnished. If you cheat, at least accept the consequences gracefully.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is for men and women. If you cheated on your spouse, why? Were you no longer attracted to your spouse? Wanted to see what else is out there? Unhappy marriage? What was your reason?

Because she was attractive and we worked lots of long days and nights together. Wants we started there was little incentive to stop. Until the passion ran out. Good times. 2007 was a good year.

How long was it before the passion ran out? Curious.

Anonymous wrote:Because he's bad in bed. Not willing to put forth the effort, or be creative enough, to satisfy me. Because he didn't care that our frequency was also less than I could minimally tolerate.

Add to those sex specific reasons the fact that he was okay with me being chronically unhappy with him not pulling his weight.

Presto, affair.

And I'm not sorry, either.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is for men and women. If you cheated on your spouse, why? Were you no longer attracted to your spouse? Wanted to see what else is out there? Unhappy marriage? What was your reason?

Because she was attractive and we worked lots of long days and nights together. Wants we started there was little incentive to stop. Until the passion ran out. Good times. 2007 was a good year.

Anonymous wrote:This is for men and women. If you cheated on your spouse, why? Were you no longer attracted to your spouse? Wanted to see what else is out there? Unhappy marriage? What was your reason?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Years of lack of sex, other than wifely duty once or twice a month. Many talks, arguments, tears, attempted solutions, nothing worked. A woman showed interest, I was super lonely, felt alive again. Yes, totally cliche, but it's a cliche for a reason. Affair in the past, no one found out, wife and I doing better now. The kind of affair you never hear about, because it was undiscovered and saved a marriage.

How did the affair save the marriage? It was never discovered, so what made things change?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Years of lack of sex, other than wifely duty once or twice a month. Many talks, arguments, tears, attempted solutions, nothing worked. A woman showed interest, I was super lonely, felt alive again. Yes, totally cliche, but it's a cliche for a reason. Affair in the past, no one found out, wife and I doing better now. The kind of affair you never hear about, because it was undiscovered and saved a marriage.

How did the affair save the marriage? It was never discovered, so what made things change?

Anonymous wrote:Years of lack of sex, other than wifely duty once or twice a month. Many talks, arguments, tears, attempted solutions, nothing worked. A woman showed interest, I was super lonely, felt alive again. Yes, totally cliche, but it's a cliche for a reason. Affair in the past, no one found out, wife and I doing better now. The kind of affair you never hear about, because it was undiscovered and saved a marriage.