If Grandparent's Day was ridiculous and a waste of time, the top prep school would not be holding the event every year. Grandparents haven't paid a cent for their grandchildren's education, btw. They are not the only independent school who does this. Laugh all you want--they wouldn't hire a kid-hater like OP's SIL.

She's very awkward socially, but really, there's nothing to say to her tactless honesty. You did the right thing to let it go. So she doesn't like little kids. So what? Lots of people don't. And she doesn't have to like your kids either, especially while they're little. For all you know, she may be great with them when they're older. Just let it be. Don't go all self-righteous breeder.

Anonymous wrote:She's a jerk, but I wouldn't have said anything. Anyone with half a brain listening to that conversation will come to their own conclusion about her character.

+1. You handled it just right. And that would be the last family dinner with that particular relative, if she has so little grace and kindness that she tells her young relatives that she can't stand them...to their faces. Ugh.

I would have let a couple beats go by, then said "wow, that's awkward!" while glancing pointedly at my kids, let another beat go by, and then change the subject.

OP clearly is judging her SIL and thinks less of her for loving animals and not kids, as she's mentioned the fact in both her posts.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would you ask her about Grandparents Day when you know 1.) she doesn't have kids 2.)she doesn't work with little kids and 3.) I assume your kids don't go to her school so what were you trying to get at?

If someone doesn't have kids you don't ask them if their school has Grandparents Day. It sounds rude and seems as though you were rude to her and she was rude right back.

Her SIL is teacher of older children. It was a fair question since there is a grandparent visiting day at some schools. My DS had one in 7th grade at his new middle school. I feel sorry for SIL's pupils; she must be a pill to them, too.

Grandparent's Day for 7th graders is exactly what irritates the SIL. That is ridiculous.

OP don't take it personally. The way you started your post made it clear that you are taking things with her personally. She isn't judging you-- just like you aren't judging her. Right OP?

It's a top prep school and the grandparents are proud to attend.

How on earth is the fact that it's a prep school relevant ???

It is only relevant to the poster who spends Grandparent's money on the top prep school. The rest of us are still laughing at 7th grade Grandparent Day.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would you ask her about Grandparents Day when you know 1.) she doesn't have kids 2.)she doesn't work with little kids and 3.) I assume your kids don't go to her school so what were you trying to get at?

If someone doesn't have kids you don't ask them if their school has Grandparents Day. It sounds rude and seems as though you were rude to her and she was rude right back.

Her SIL is teacher of older children. It was a fair question since there is a grandparent visiting day at some schools. My DS had one in 7th grade at his new middle school. I feel sorry for SIL's pupils; she must be a pill to them, too.

Grandparent's Day for 7th graders is exactly what irritates the SIL. That is ridiculous.

OP don't take it personally. The way you started your post made it clear that you are taking things with her personally. She isn't judging you-- just like you aren't judging her. Right OP?

It's a top prep school and the grandparents are proud to attend.

How on earth is the fact that it's a prep school relevant ???

She can't stand kids, I hate cats, DH hates Hillary Clinton. We all have things. But, no, I wouldn't mention it during a dinner with your children, or cats present. You won that round, OP.

Anonymous wrote:You can't change b!tch. Don't waste your time.

Amen. Limit contact and don't bother engaging. She's not interested in you anyway.

Anonymous wrote:"Well, I'M not a fan of intolerant, rude adults who don't take the feelings of others, particularly their family members, into consideration."

"By the way, while you may not be able to stand little kids, they are the future and if you care about things like social security and Medicare you'll recognize that least WE'RE doing OUR part by producing tax payers to replace the two of us."

That is crazy as hell, pp!!
Cranky SIL did not suggest banning the reproduction of humans !!!
How stupid u sound!
I love kids, love my kids and understand that other people are not into and do not line or relate to little kids.
NOR DO THEY HAVE TO IN ORDER TO CONTINUE THE HUMAN RACE.
Why are people so sensitive about people not liking kids.
All of your relatives do not have to be enamored with your offspring.
Get a life and some realistic expectations .

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Anonymous wrote:"Well, I'M not a fan of intolerant, rude adults who don't take the feelings of others, particularly their family members, into consideration."

"By the way, while you may not be able to stand little kids, they are the future and if you care about things like social security and Medicare you'll recognize that least WE'RE doing OUR part by producing tax payers to replace the two of us."

Just as obnoxious as the SIL

More. What a martyr you are! Reproducing solely because society requires taxpayers, and not selfishness! You are amazing.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would you ask her about Grandparents Day when you know 1.) she doesn't have kids 2.)she doesn't work with little kids and 3.) I assume your kids don't go to her school so what were you trying to get at?

If someone doesn't have kids you don't ask them if their school has Grandparents Day. It sounds rude and seems as though you were rude to her and she was rude right back.

Her SIL is teacher of older children. It was a fair question since there is a grandparent visiting day at some schools. My DS had one in 7th grade at his new middle school. I feel sorry for SIL's pupils; she must be a pill to them, too.

Grandparent's Day for 7th graders is exactly what irritates the SIL. That is ridiculous.

OP don't take it personally. The way you started your post made it clear that you are taking things with her personally. She isn't judging you-- just like you aren't judging her. Right OP?

It's a top prep school and the grandparents are proud to attend.

Anonymous wrote:"Well, I'M not a fan of intolerant, rude adults who don't take the feelings of others, particularly their family members, into consideration."

"By the way, while you may not be able to stand little kids, they are the future and if you care about things like social security and Medicare you'll recognize that least WE'RE doing OUR part by producing tax payers to replace the two of us."

Just as obnoxious as the SIL

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would you ask her about Grandparents Day when you know 1.) she doesn't have kids 2.)she doesn't work with little kids and 3.) I assume your kids don't go to her school so what were you trying to get at?

If someone doesn't have kids you don't ask them if their school has Grandparents Day. It sounds rude and seems as though you were rude to her and she was rude right back.

Her SIL is teacher of older children. It was a fair question since there is a grandparent visiting day at some schools. My DS had one in 7th grade at his new middle school. I feel sorry for SIL's pupils; she must be a pill to them, too.

Grandparent's Day for 7th graders is exactly what irritates the SIL. That is ridiculous.

OP don't take it personally. The way you started your post made it clear that you are taking things with her personally. She isn't judging you-- just like you aren't judging her. Right OP?

Say what and why? She doesn't like kids. She doesn't have any and doesn't try to engage with yours. What, beyond her being a bitch, which you already knew, is the problem? If I had said anything, it might have been, "well good thing you don't have any."