Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not a clue what MIL did . . . Prob feed the kids wierd midwestern food that isn't food (plastic "American" cheese, etc). I'll pass.

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PP here. We have the same MIL. Plus my MIL is lazy to boot (she has always been this way), which makes me crazy, so I avoid her.

I think OP might be asking because our first (childhood) interactions with our parents tend to psychologically shape how our spouse handles situations. In other words, my MIL isn't very competent, so DH has that expectation of women. Until he met me. He knew I was the one, because I wasn't bumbling. I just try to have as much patience as possible with her. When I know I have run out of patience, I have Dh handle the situation. Besides, I have my own kids to take care of.

How romantic - I'd love to hear those wedding vows.

Wow what a civilized response PP! So many judging people here but you simply answered OP's questIon. If do not feel like Answering, move on!

Tell your husband, nicely, that he can carry on his mom's tradition by seeing that his kids have flashlights and his homemade soup. You make up your own, if you feel the need.

My first MIL was pretty moderate and normal. She'd make sure there was food and other supplies, and that all the kids had snow gear. I don't know if she had any special activities.

Second MIL is not domestic in any way. When she's not working, she either goes to parties or lies in bed watching television. She expects all family members to shop, cook, clean, and do for her. So her storm prep probably involves putting an extra blanket on her bed. I keep my distance, so I don't know for sure.

My parents are the super-prepared types. I like to be prepared too.

My MIL never lived in areas where there was that kind of snow.

But on to your problem - you have a husband problem, not a MIL problem. Tell your husband he's free to do the soups.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL, who lives alone, 5 miles from our house, was too scared to stay at home by herself and came to our house to ride out the storm. Kill me now.

Seriously, that's the right call. She shouldn't be alone. Have a heart.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a clue what MIL did . . . Prob feed the kids wierd midwestern food that isn't food (plastic "American" cheese, etc). I'll pass.

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PP here. We have the same MIL. Plus my MIL is lazy to boot (she has always been this way), which makes me crazy, so I avoid her.

I think OP might be asking because our first (childhood) interactions with our parents tend to psychologically shape how our spouse handles situations. In other words, my MIL isn't very competent, so DH has that expectation of women. Until he met me. He knew I was the one, because I wasn't bumbling. I just try to have as much patience as possible with her. When I know I have run out of patience, I have Dh handle the situation. Besides, I have my own kids to take care of.

My mother is from another country where it never snows and she lives there and calls me to ask me if I went to buy groceries, have flashlights with batteries, etc. She gave us a generator as a present 4 years ago because she knew we didn't have electricity during the 2010 snowmaggedon.
She has never been in a snow blizzard but she knows what it is to prepare for a bombing threat.

Anonymous wrote:My MIl passed away a long time ago, but I am guessing her idea of storm prep would have been drinking all the alcohol in the house and going to bed, so yes she would handle storm prep differently than I do.

I picked my own mother up this morning and she is staying with us for the duration, luckily her idea of storm prep is lots and lots of baking, which she is doing now at my house.

This is my hurricane strategy.

OP clearly is directing her question to people like her with MILs who live in near by and were type As. So i guess the answers are giving her a total new perspective and perhaps blowing her mind with MIL from Egypt, others that are didn't prepare a bit or drunk til falling asleep.
A learning experience.

Not a clue what MIL did . . . Prob feed the kids wierd midwestern food that isn't food (plastic "American" cheese, etc). I'll pass.

MIL has never dealt with a storm prep prior to this visit. She's spending her time cooking - which she loves to do with or without a storm, so business as usual for her.

But, yes, sometimes my husband wants me to carry on his mother's or father's traditions for him, without doing it himself. After five years, I think he's now getting that he's free to do that, but I'm not going to single-handedly enforce traditions from both sides + make our own.

Three pages and I still don't get why it matters how your MIL handles storm prep. I'm a NP BTW.

I got lucky twice.

My former MIL is helpless so she didn't do anything to prep for storms. When I married my XH, he didn't realize that people really did go to the grocery store in advance of blizzards. He thought it was some type of urban legend.

My future MIL is from Louisiana. She preps for hurricanes. She's also a bit nuts. She suggested that we drive 16 HOURS to her house to ride out the storm since we probably weren't going to have work/school again for WEEKS.

I don't really know, although when she was alive she was a person who always had tons of stuff -full fridge and separate freezer, bulk purchases of all staples, so she was pretty much prepared to shelter in place on any given day.

I'll bite, OP. My MIL is incompetent, and can't really handle life on the day to day. Everything is "overwhelming" (she's never actually say it, but it could not be more obvious).

DH married someone opposite MIL, and to say that it could not be more intentional is an understatement!

You do you, and ignore your MIL.