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Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

I'm a successful, professional man in my 50s. If I were single, I admit that I would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex. And if she enjoys sex with me, I'd even forego the degree in art history.

Yeah. Most successful and accomplished men are probably surrounded by aggressive go-getters all day long. They'd probably prefer their personal life not be dominated by the same. Who wants to relax and unwind with another person who is consumed by success?

Who wants to marry someone with whom you can't carry on an intellectual discussion?

Intellectual discussion? Why do you equate professional success with general intelligence? Sure it often goes hand in hand but you'd be foolish to dismiss someone as stupid or shallow just because they don't strive for the executive suite. And anyway, what husband and wife really sit around having "intellectual" discussions? I'd rather marry someone who made me laugh than someone who sat around pretentiously discussing Bayes' Theorem.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

I'm a successful, professional man in my 50s. If I were single, I admit that I would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex. And if she enjoys sex with me, I'd even forego the degree in art history.

Yeah. Most successful and accomplished men are probably surrounded by aggressive go-getters all day long. They'd probably prefer their personal life not be dominated by the same. Who wants to relax and unwind with another person who is consumed by success?

Who wants to marry someone with whom you can't carry on an intellectual discussion?

Just because someone is not an "accomplished professional" does not mean that she is incapable of an intellectual conversation. Was Socrates an accomplished professional? By DCUM standards, he was a "loser."

There are plenty of intelligent people who simply aren't that driven, career wise.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

I'm a successful, professional man in my 50s. If I were single, I admit that I would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex. And if she enjoys sex with me, I'd even forego the degree in art history.

Yeah. Most successful and accomplished men are probably surrounded by aggressive go-getters all day long. They'd probably prefer their personal life not be dominated by the same. Who wants to relax and unwind with another person who is consumed by success?

Who wants to marry someone with whom you can't carry on an intellectual discussion?

The conversation between a phd scientist and a barista is no different, just background noise until pound town

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Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

I'm a successful, professional man in my 50s. If I were single, I admit that I would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex. And if she enjoys sex with me, I'd even forego the degree in art history.

Yeah. Most successful and accomplished men are probably surrounded by aggressive go-getters all day long. They'd probably prefer their personal life not be dominated by the same. Who wants to relax and unwind with another person who is consumed by success?

Who wants to marry someone with whom you can't carry on an intellectual discussion?

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Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

I'm a successful, professional man in my 50s. If I were single, I admit that I would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex. And if she enjoys sex with me, I'd even forego the degree in art history.

Would you marry her though?

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Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

I'm a successful, professional man in my 50s. If I were single, I admit that I would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex. And if she enjoys sex with me, I'd even forego the degree in art history.

Yeah. Most successful and accomplished men are probably surrounded by aggressive go-getters all day long. They'd probably prefer their personal life not be dominated by the same. Who wants to relax and unwind with another person who is consumed by success?

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Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

I'm a successful, professional man in my 50s. If I were single, I admit that I would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex. And if she enjoys sex with me, I'd even forego the degree in art history.

In "Pretty Woman," Julia Roberts' character met a very successful professional man. You should do what she did, and see what happens.

Have your friends' husbands introduce you to their friends.

Anonymous wrote:I have the type of man OP describes but I'm nothing like the OP. 30, work part time, a DC 10, nurturing. I'm not saying all successful men have the same preferences at DH but I wouldn't be surprised if the most successful men don't rate a woman's career that high on their list of priorities.

Your DH wanted arm candy, not an intellectual equal. That's certainly one type of successful guy.

Those men date much younger women.

Take up golf.

OP, you might be a nice person, but sound a little bit full of yourself. In my field (accounting), you can meet people of the opposite sex at continuing educations workshops and the various professional group meetings. Everybody who attends is not a super duper superstar like your target, but there should be a reasonable number of go-getters.

Anonymous wrote:You have to go older - say, mid-50s. Divorced and widowed guys in that age range. Guys your age can date younger, and they do.

Yes, exactly. Single, successful men in their early to mid 40s are not looking for an average looking woman (by your own description) who is their own age. Average looking women your age who are with ultra successful men have probably been with them for many years.

Further, many successful men are happy to "date down" (quotes because "dating down" is all in the eye of the beholder). Many men in the demographic you're describing would be more interested in dating a gorgeous Starbucks barista who, say, has a degree in art history and really enjoys sex.

What women think men want is sometimes different from what men actually find appealing. Successful, professional men have their pick.

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Anonymous wrote:You are mid 40s, not mid 20s. The competition for this type of men is extremely high. Its almost the opposite of the very attractive 20 some women. Instead, these men are married(reducing the pool), have 20's, 30's and 40's year old women after them. Good luck!

This is true. I am not taking a shot at OP - for all I know she may be very attractive, an awesome conversationalist, total freak in bed, and stands way above the rest of the women she is competing with. But she does need to understand what she is aspiring to is a very rare and in demand mate. It's like a younger man without lots of money trying to figure out where all the models hang out, and people telling him that models are not likely going to be interested in him unless he is much more than the average man who is looking for a model.

I think the advice to look for an older man - mid-50s, divorced is probably a realistic goal

I agree. I'm mid 40s and looking for a man in the first half of his 50s.