Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am really confused how you came to be involved at all. How would the girl's mother know who you are let alone how to reach you let alone feel compelled to threaten you? This just doesn't track.

OP Here:

I have been invited to the ex girlfriend's parent's home on about five occasions for Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner.

The Mother Facebook requested me to be her friend and at the time I had no reason not to accept her as a friend.
My phone number is in my profile and I am pretty sure that is how she obtained it.

I feel a bit relieved that some of you think I am overreacting. That probably nothing will come from this.

I've been visualizing them showing up at our home or his workplace with a gun and it being on the evening news as another senseless shooting.

Ummm. You should take this seriously. And why on earth do you have your phone number listed on FB? Are you nuts??

Anonymous wrote:Contact the police today.

Ditto! You have the texts. Save them. It's classic harassment and you have solid proof. They will likely be arrested amd you can get an order of protection. You have to meet force with force. Likely only way to get them to stop.

1. Break off all contact with them. No exceptions.
2. Report their DEATH THREATS to the police.
3. Discuss the issue with an attorney.

Do not waste any time wondering "what you could have done differently." They are nuts. Period. It doesn't matter. Your only concern is preventing from harming you and your family.

I don't think you're overreacting at all. Similar situation with my brother waaaaaaay long ago in college with someone he very casually dated, broke it off, mom of exGF got involved, threatening and harassing calls (they'd call our house at all hours of the night, I was still living at home). My mom finally got involved, flew to the city my brother was in, got the school to issue a restraining order against her, got a regular restraining order after meeting with the police. Skip ahead many years and he somehow came to find out she was in prison for a violent crime. You don't want to mess with this. At least notify the police and let them guide you on what to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am really confused how you came to be involved at all. How would the girl's mother know who you are let alone how to reach you let alone feel compelled to threaten you? This just doesn't track.

OP Here:

I have been invited to the ex girlfriend's parent's home on about five occasions for Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner.

The Mother Facebook requested me to be her friend and at the time I had no reason not to accept her as a friend.
My phone number is in my profile and I am pretty sure that is how she obtained it.

I feel a bit relieved that some of you think I am overreacting. That probably nothing will come from this.

I've been visualizing them showing up at our home or his workplace with a gun and it being on the evening news as another senseless shooting.

OP, I really think you should inform the police and get a restraining order. Or at least ask them for advice. This is not something to let go.

File a police report. Block her on Facebook and your phone. If the police encourage a restraining order, do it.

Get off Facebook

Google:
Geneseo murder/suicide and that should get you to call the police immediately OP.
As in yesterday!

I think you should take her threats seriously.

It sounds to me as if she is not playing with a full deck on this and that she may follow through since she sounds completely unstable now.

Some people do not handle break ups well and tend to become obsessed with making the other party pay dearly for leaving them....

Your son is lucky he is not longer in a relationship with a nutjob. I would get a restraining order against them and make sure the police have copies of all threats.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You changed some of the details, but my guess it is the boy that is broken hearted and doing the threats etc, -- please get him in to see a therapist.

Not OP, but why would you think that? Just because he's male?

NP. Maybe, given OP's high level of concern over her child's safety.

Anonymous wrote:You changed some of the details, but my guess it is the boy that is broken hearted and doing the threats etc, -- please get him in to see a therapist.

Not OP, but why would you think that? Just because he's male?

You changed some of the details, but my guess it is the boy that is broken hearted and doing the threats etc, -- please get him in to see a therapist.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am really confused how you came to be involved at all. How would the girl's mother know who you are let alone how to reach you let alone feel compelled to threaten you? This just doesn't track.

OP Here:

I have been invited to the ex girlfriend's parent's home on about five occasions for Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner.

The Mother Facebook requested me to be her friend and at the time I had no reason not to accept her as a friend.
My phone number is in my profile and I am pretty sure that is how she obtained it.

I feel a bit relieved that some of you think I am overreacting. That probably nothing will come from this.

I've been visualizing them showing up at our home or his workplace with a gun and it being on the evening news as another senseless shooting.

It sounds like the mom has a personality disorder, like borderline or something, and it's really impacting how her whole family operates. I don't think she's dangerous. But they all seem really toxic. Get the police involved, if just for peace of mind. I'm glad your son is broken up with her. That family sounds like nothing but BAD news emotionally. You are not overreacting. Nothing they've done is normal.

Unfriend her on facebook, send a text back to her that you've forwarded her threatening texts to the police and that if she or her daughter contact you or your son again you will have them charged with harassment. Seriously... Not that hard.