Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 15:29     Subject: What are your valentines day plans?
Normally we'd be eating a "special" dinner (filet mignon) complete with some sort of chocolatey dessert at home with our kids who are 9 and 11.

This year, though, we will be in Mexico celebrating my (gulp) 40th birthday. The kids will be home with grandparents.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 13:53     Subject: Re:What are your valentines day plans?
We don't do gifts and things, too much pressure. We're doing what we've done the last couple of years which is get a room at a nice hotel, have some sex, and order room service. Breakfast in the morning and then go back home.

We're doing this on 2/13 this year as it's a Saturday.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 13:25     Subject: What are your valentines day plans?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH doesn't "believe" in Valentines Day. Or birthdays.
He will probably say something like "oh was I supposed to do something or get you something?" Or make an awkward joke to draw attention to the fact that he "failed." He will wait for me to reassure him that it is perfectly fine.
But it is not. It is a disappointment! Every year.
Last year he made plans with his MOM on my birthday and left me with all the kids. I told him that I was not okay with him ignoring my birthday and also setting this example for the kids. He got upset and said (basically) that I was being unreasonable and immature and "what the hell" did I expect. So I probably will keep my mouth shut about Valentines Day.
Sigh.


Shame on his mother for not raising him better. I'd spend $100 to send myself a dozen roses, then ask your H to pay.


Sounds like you have two solutions: continue to be disappointed each year, or have a conversation with your husband NOW. Tell him you'd like to discuss Valentine's Day, and would love to celebrate.


Or accept that this "holiday" is just not that important to some people, PP. Some families actually dont "celebrate" birthdays or valentine's day. Maybe just move on. Respect that he doesn't. I'm assuming you knew this before you married him.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 13:16     Subject: What are your valentines day plans?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH doesn't "believe" in Valentines Day. Or birthdays.
He will probably say something like "oh was I supposed to do something or get you something?" Or make an awkward joke to draw attention to the fact that he "failed." He will wait for me to reassure him that it is perfectly fine.
But it is not. It is a disappointment! Every year.
Last year he made plans with his MOM on my birthday and left me with all the kids. I told him that I was not okay with him ignoring my birthday and also setting this example for the kids. He got upset and said (basically) that I was being unreasonable and immature and "what the hell" did I expect. So I probably will keep my mouth shut about Valentines Day.
Sigh.


Shame on his mother for not raising him better. I'd spend $100 to send myself a dozen roses, then ask your H to pay.


Sounds like you have two solutions: continue to be disappointed each year, or have a conversation with your husband NOW. Tell him you'd like to discuss Valentine's Day, and would love to celebrate.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 13:08     Subject: What are your valentines day plans?
Anonymous wrote:My DH doesn't "believe" in Valentines Day. Or birthdays.
He will probably say something like "oh was I supposed to do something or get you something?" Or make an awkward joke to draw attention to the fact that he "failed." He will wait for me to reassure him that it is perfectly fine.
But it is not. It is a disappointment! Every year.
Last year he made plans with his MOM on my birthday and left me with all the kids. I told him that I was not okay with him ignoring my birthday and also setting this example for the kids. He got upset and said (basically) that I was being unreasonable and immature and "what the hell" did I expect. So I probably will keep my mouth shut about Valentines Day.
Sigh.


Shame on his mother for not raising him better. I'd spend $100 to send myself a dozen roses, then ask your H to pay.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 10:52     Subject: Re:What are your valentines day plans?
Anonymous wrote:My best friend became a widow a month ago, I will make her dinner and tell her I love her. We will likely be wasted on wine at the time.

I love that you are taking care of your friend. Hugs to you both.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 10:51     Subject: What are your valentines day plans?
You couldn't pay me to go out on Valentine's Day. We have plenty of other gift-giving occasions throughout the year, and our anniversary. We do semi-regular date nights, but mostly date nights IN after toddler's 7pm bedtime.

Although I just realized it is on a Sunday, so we will do our usual Sunday dinner at my in-laws'...maybe celebrate their anniversary with them since it is around that time.